Congruency And Why It RULES

There is a concept in attraction known as CONGRUENCY. Congruency

simply means that you are consistent on every channel of your

communication, so that means your body language, your words, your

expressions on your face, your tonality, and EVERYTHING else about

you is CONSISTENT.

So if a guy goes up to a girl and tries to show off in an attempt to

convey that he is desirable, the irony is that the very INSECURITY

that feels the need to show off actually ends up manifesting itself

in many ways- the look on the guy’s face, the tonality he ends up

using, etc.  Those things are INCONGRUENT with true confidence, true sense of security, etc.

And the incongruence can be TINY, it can be the most subtle thing, an

inflection of the voice, a particular crinkle of the eyebrow, something

that a guy doesn’t even REALIZE he is doing- to TOTALLY DESTROY HIS APPROACH AND HIS SUCCESS. 

This is because human beings in general are VERY SKILLED at noticing tiny subtleties in facial expressions and in body language and tonality.

And women, for some reason, tend to be even BETTER at detecting and noticing these things, possibly from experience, and it is possible that women needed to be better at picking up social cues as an adaptive tool for survival since the beginning of human history.

Bottom line is, humans are really damn good at “feeling out” the way another person is feeling, even if they are not CONSCIOUSLY aware of what those things are, the fact is people get a certain VIBE from someone, and this vibe is the reaction to the other person’s signals being sent out on all the various channels, such as body language, tonality, and all the rest.

By the way, as PROOF of just how tough it is to fake it, notice how

even with the most advanced CGI graphics that exist today in even the

most lucrative billion-dollar movie franchises, we STILL haven’t

managed to fully create and animate the HUMAN face in a totally

believable way. So, for example, in the film AVATAR, did you notice

the creatures are BLUE?

A super-cool friend of mine enlightened me to this.  Human beings

innately sense the subtleties of another human face and human

expression.  Even NEW-BORN babies are gifted with what almost seems like SUPERHUMAN abilities in this regard. 

And because humans can tell these subtleties in another human, even

the most advanced special-effects teams so far still haven’t yet

attained the skill to create a fully-believable human animated face, so what they do is make the characters a little OFF from human- such as the blue characters in Avatar.  

It’s far easier to make some blue alien look real because we have no REAL-LIFE REFERENCE point for a “real” blue alien, so we can thus feel that the alien looks realistic.  There is no proof in our mind to COUNTER what we see on the screen of the blue alien.

Now, we may eventually GET THERE, (James Cameron keeps pushing things to the limit and maybe his team will be the first to do it) to the degree that we can create a fully believable animated human face, but my point is how MASSIVELY DIFFICULT IT IS TO FAKE, even with BILLION DOLLAR BUDGETS BY THE MOST ADVANCED SPECIAL-EFFECTS TEAMS IN THE WORLD!

So if even billion-dollar companies still find it impossible to fake,

let's try an EASIER way to come across right- by actually NOT

FAKING, and instead learning to be COMFORTABLE in our own

skin rather than putting on an act as an instinctive defense

mechanism.

So what this means when it comes to you approaching women is that you have to make DECISIONS on what you really WANT, and on what values are the most important to you, and you must make sure you don’t have conflicting goals, and though this is especially true regarding what you want with women, it’s also true in general for all of what you want in life, as it all shows in your demeanor.  

So, for example, you are far better off being CONGRUENT and a little

less "MR. COOL" than trying to pull off being "MR. COOL" but not being truly CONGRUENT WITH IT.

Yes, a character like Han Solo is cool.

But the truth is, and this the mind-blowing part, a character like

“Mr. Rogers” (from the TV show) can ALSO be cool.

A guy like "Mr. Rogers" could do AMAZING with most women---IF he is truly cool with himself and does not put on an ACT with women.  

Most men suddenly start to “PUT ON THE ACT” in front of women- even if the men don’t WANT to, they can’t HELP it; they feel they MUST. 

Not only does the "act" tend to ruin a guy's efforts with women, but it also destroys the chances of him having long-term success, because no one can keep up an act forever.

And even if a guy manages to get lucky with pulling off an act, he will feel nervous about the fact that the woman doesn't even know the real him, she only knows the act. 

So he will feel insecure. And not only is that a miserable feeling, but also the insecurity causes a man to say and do and think the wrong things, as insecurity distorts one's perception of things.  

So unless a guy doesn’t understand how to treat people with respect, he really shouldn’t put on an ACT.

And if you want to learn the "how-to" regarding all this- how to stay cool and truly be yourself with women, and if you want to learn the most effective, natural ways to go about the process-from seeing a woman, approaching her, chatting with her, taking things to the next level, and much more-it really helps to get your coaching from an instructor who is CONGRUENT himself.

Congruency is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to me. 

I know full well you can’t be in two OPPOSITE places at once. If you

want a woman who is going to be faithful, who is going to treat you

right, who keeps herself in shape, etc., etc., that is a very

DIFFERENT thing than just how to get physical with a promiscuous or

naive woman quickly.

Most companies won’t tell you that. They will tell you they are the

perfect choice no matter WHAT your goal with women is- and that

should be your FIRST SIGN that in fact they are NOT congruent.  And

the more a woman IS actually a woman who CARES about things like

ethics, honesty, loyalty, and all the rest, the more SHE will be

INSTINCTIVELY SENSING WHETHER YOU ARE CONGRUENT OR NOT.

She will be doing this because it is of PARAMOUNT significance to her

that she does NOT invest in a guy who lacks the proper character traits.

There are even some instructors out there who try to imitate me in

some respects- which would be cool except they then try to imitate

the OPPOSITE as well, and they then tell you messages more along

the lines of "Heh-heh, see how we got her to make out, heheh,

check out her bod, heheh, we are so cool, can't you see how

cool we are? Check out her a.b.c.d.e.f.g... " and so on and so forth.

All this seems to be pretending one thing:

That these women are somehow being "gamed"

when in reality we are living in a time when women

are so promiscuous, there is no need for any games

at all.

I still can’t understand the obsession with being impressed by

getting a woman to act loose with a man quickly. This stuff is so

easy in a society obsessed with the superficial, that I could teach

the entire content of EVERYTHING regarding that stuff in just TEN

MINUTES- and that is NOT an exaggeration.

If a promiscuous woman was being honest with you, she

would tell you the truth- she already made the decision

to sleep with someone new very soon, and the first

guy that seemed even remotely reasonable and didn't

sabotage his own luck would be it.

There’s so LITTLE to know, because these women are already RARING TO GO, there is NOTHING to teach except how to just LET THE WOMEN DO WHAT THEY WANT, and any pick up artist who is HONEST will tell you the SAME THING. 

It’s one of life’s ironies that in my quest to learn about women who

would make for great girlfriends and wives, I ended up initially

learning the OPPOSITE.  How did I learn this? Well, it’s simple

really.  Since I had ZERO interest in women who lacked the character

traits I was seeking, I was completed UNATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME, so I really didn’t try to make anything happen.

My state of mind was calm because there was very LITTLE AT STAKE once I found out what these women were like by listening to them speak.

This not only made it easy for me to have things to say, but my lack

of neediness also made the women feel VERY RELAXED around me, which made THEM provide INSANELY EASY OPENINGS and OPPORTUNITIES as they tried to make it EASY for me to pick them up.

And while most guys would RUIN the moment and the chemistry by then DESPERATELY LUNGING for the opportunity, I didn’t jump at all, in fact you might say I was trying to SLOW THINGS DOWN.  I wanted to know more about who they really were before going further.

Almost like a woman might do- I was “stealing the woman’s frame” –

the frame that most women use on men, of being hard to get, but I

wasn’t trying to play a game. I really MEANT it- I was CONGRUENT.

Now, don’t forget, I DID make the approach, and I DID get things into

motion, which showed them that clearly I was willing to go for what I

wanted. I was still being a man about the whole process.  

This just made the women even CALMER-and for the first time in a long time these women were now with a guy who could actually keep the interaction feeling smooth and normal and not cheap and dirty-and yes, even the most promiscuous woman wants to feel respected, especially since the men who are with them feel it is totally cool for them to do it.

So that’s all fine and good, but when it comes to attracting a different kind of woman, it takes more.

It takes more connection.

It takes more congruence.

It takes you being the best man you can be and getting rid of the

inner blocks in your mind holding you back.

And that’s what really it’s all about- men and women, through

attraction, motivating each other to be the best they can be.

So, do you want an instructor who is genuine?

Do you want an instructor who is congruent?

Do you want an instructor who understands that each man is DIFFERENT, and therefore requires a DIFFERENT approach to learning these skills?

Do you want an instructor who has over TEN YEARS experience teaching men of all types of levels of experience?

Do you want an instructor who is never satisfied with his OWN learning? Who CONSTANTLY seeks to FURTHER the entire FIELD when it comes to this topic called dating, attraction, and relationships?

And do you want to meet a really GREAT woman, who will never take you for granted? Who will RESPECT you always?

Then I’d love to be your instructor for this important part of your life, through a process known as bootcamp. 

In my live, exclusive, in-person, bootcamp program, I do two things.

First, I take care of the whole INTERNAL side of things- how to get

your inner state of mind to be at PEAK form- and that includes how to

be CONGRUENT.

The next thing I do is teach you the best way to actually APPLY ALL

THIS in your interactions with women in the form of DIRECT

APPROACHES. I actually demonstrate this for you, and then guide you

along every step of the way so that you can do it as well.

By "DIRECT APPROACHES" here, I mean you approach women you see ANYWHERE- women who are TOTAL STRANGERS, and you go right up to them and get them attracted and connected on a deep level.

It gets even better- you will learn how to do all this in a way that

LASTS.  You will not have to learn any gimmicks, you will not be

using any lies, you will not be doing anything that is inconsistent

with who you really are. This way, you will be able to USE what you

learn and master in bootcamp for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ALL THE WOMEN YOU MEET.

Congruency is a HUGE priority for me, both in my own approaches and

in the way I teach men to acquire these skills and in the way men USE

these skills.

Since the things you learn and master will be CONSISTENT WITH YOUR PERSONALITY, you will feel COMFORTABLE using them on women for the rest of your life.  

And of course, the results will be better too, since women can sense the difference in a man who is congruent.

My work has not only been featured in the biggest newspapers in

the country, but my students' success with women has been

OBSERVED by major journalists that FOLLOWED UP on their

progress after being coached by me-and the majority of the reports 
are OVERWHELMINGLY GLOWING-you can check them out on
my website.

For a bootcamp with me, you can email me your request or your

questions at: michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

Or you can visit my bootcamp page at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Greatest SECRET On Getting A Quality Woman

This is one of the most important
newsletters I have ever written on
the topic of getting a truly great
girlfriend who is the total package
inside and out.

In order to get a great woman, it is
imperative that a man become the
greatest version of himself as well.

The CHALLENGE, however, is that
almost the exact INSTANT that you
make the commitment to improving
yourself, you will be faced with a
barrage of situations that TEST your
COMMITMENT to truly improving
yourself.

And the single GREATEST source of these
tests will usually come from SOCIAL PRESSURE.
So, for example, let’s say you decide to spend your
time NOT gossiping, and you happen to be having
dinner with friends one evening and one of them
or all of them are really going HEAVY on the
juicy gossip stuff.

Now, by the way, I am not judging people, as
people in general are only trying to do what
they think makes sense, and not everyone is
fortunate to have the right leadership and
guidance.

Back to our example above, in this situation
you will feel the pressure to JOIN IN  and
be gossipy and to start focusing on other
people’s lives rather than how to improve
your own.

Or, let’s say, you decide to start exercising,
and the current group of friends you have  
never exercise, they will for example invite
you out to watch TV, eat junk food, or something
during the time you wanted to go exercise.

And the above examples are not even where
people INTENTIONALLY are trying to
screw you up because they are jealous
of you or they are feeling insecure because
they are too lazy to change and they want
you to be on the same “level” as them.

Then, of course, there is the general social
pressure to just “fit in” with society rather
than EXCEED the “average”, because
in general, people only like the average
person, since the person above average
raises jealousies and the person below
is someone people either feel sorry for
or sometimes mocked.

The SECOND you want to actually IMPROVE
yourself, you will be BOMBARDED with
these situations, and MOST PEOPLE will
then FAIL, because it is so damn HARD
to CHANGE one’s path because of the
power of MOMENTUM. 

As humans, we just don’t like to CHANGE.
And if we decide to change, it doesn’t take
MUCH for most people’s commitment to
be SHATTERED.    

And, as I said above, the greatest CULPRIT
is the power of SOCIAL PROOF to make
sure you don’t rise much above or below
the SOCIAL or societal average.

We are affected by SOCIAL PROOF because
of our HARD-WIRING.  This is BIOLOGY
and EVOLUTION in FULL EFFECT.

It is important to understand that social proof
DOES have its uses.  For example, very often
in life, and in human history, making decisions
based on what the GROUP believed helped
individuals save TIME. 

So if for example, in ancient times, there was
a PATHWAY through the jungle that was
considered efficient or safe by the majority
of people, then it might very well save an
individual time to take that path rather than
search out every path or try to create a new
one.

So over the course of human history, feeling
INFLUENCED by social proof usually was
a GOOD thing.

However, social proof can BACKFIRE, as
if the social group is WRONG about something,
an individual will still feel very INFLUENCED
and sometimes emotionally compelled to follow
the suggestion of the GROUP.

This is ONE of the reasons that taking a bootcamp
with me is SO powerful.  It is because you are
truly being taken into a completely different
SOCIAL FORCE than the ones you tend to
meet in regular life. 

Since I have dedicated YEARS of my life
toward the training of men in how to attract
and keep quality women, I am EXTREMELY
CONGRUENT to this in every way. 

When someone else is truly CONGRUENT to something,
you FEEL the social pressure effect of that trait on a
DEEP level and you can more easily INTERNALIZE
that trait for yourself. 

It’s not just a cerebral event; it is EMOTIONALLY
COMPELLING AND OVERWHELMING in a
POSITIVE WAY.

It sinks in DEEP and becomes INTERNALIZED.
You become CONFIDENT about the new behaviors.
 
Make no mistake about it, CONGRUENCY is
EVERYTHING.

Congruency is so powerful, that you can go up
to a woman and tell her something like
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and actually have
it WORK if you are truly FEELING her
beauty in a way that is EMPOWERING
and ENERGIZING for you.

So the woman feels that you are not FAKING.
The woman can tell you mean BUSINESS.

Similarly, when you are in my Bootcamp, the
things I am telling you and teaching you
suddenly take on a whole new level of
MEANING and of EMOTIONAL IMPACT.

That means that you are now being influenced
in a POSITIVE way through the POSITIVE
“social pressure” that you feel from me.

I myself experienced this a few times in my life,
when I met some rare individuals who were
true EXCEPTIONS in a POSITIVE way to the
GENERAL NORMS of society. 

The mere experience of BEING IN THAT
ENVIRONMENT had an even GREATER
effect on me than ALL the specific strategies
that they taught me, put all together!  And
they taught me some GREAT strategies,
it is just that the EFFECT of INTERACTING
with these people was even GREATER than
the actual awesome strategies that they taught.

The power of SOCIAL PRESSURE is so great,
that every powerful group, company, or organization
on EARTH uses it to MASSIVE extremes. 

If you want to CHANGE yourself for the BETTER,
be prepared to BATTLE against the social forces
that want to INFLUENCE you to NOT improve
yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.

Most people give UP and give IN.
Will you?

And here’s where it all comes full circle.
Most men want a woman who will treat them
RIGHT.

A woman who is INTELLIGENT but who is
not arrogant or spoiled.

A woman who works HARD but who is not
selfish.

A woman who is FAITHFUL but is not insecure.

A woman who is health conscious but not
addicted to the gym.   

A woman who is fun in bed but who is not
promiscuous.

A woman who is friendly but not naïve.

If a woman is all these things, she is DAMN RARE.
She has REBELLED, so to speak, against the
social norms.

She can RESIST social proof, and probably in
fact has formed a POSITIVE social group of her
OWN, where the groups fuels each other with
POSITIVE social pressure, where they socially
proof healthy ideals and values.

And LIKE attracts LIKE.
The right kind of quality woman can DETECT
the INCONSISTENCIES in a man who is just
PRETENDING to be similar to her in order
to get her into bed.
   
She knows what the right values LOOK like
because she HAS them in HERSELF.     
 
The first thing you can do to change yourself
into the kind of man that quality women want
is to start choosing the RIGHT way to spend
your time, the RIGHT way to behave, the
RIGHT goals in your life.

I am not a preacher so I cannot tell you
what these RIGHT goals are for you, but
I can tell you that usually LAZINESS
make most people actually THINK that
the goals that take LESS work, the values
that take LESS discipline are the RIGHT
ones, when in fact they are usually the
WRONG ones.

Develop an attitude that does NOT look
for the easy way out.  Learn to see the
POSITIVE side of INTELLIGENT
and HARD work.  Learn to appreciate
the result of SWEATING it out to
IMPROVE yourself.  Learn to enjoy
the PROCESS of self-improvement.

Be HAPPY to learn from good people
who are KIND when they want to teach
you something rather than just being
arrogant.

Learn to try to UNDERSTAND people
rather than dismiss them right away.
You will notice that even though I have
standards that are higher than the average
in society, I do not BLAME people so fast,
because blaming is very easy and it ignores
the reality that most people aren’t TRYING
to do the wrong thing. 

However, UNDERSTANDING people does
not mean LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS.
It does not mean accepting a woman who
mistreats you.

When you INTERNALIZE these IMPROVED
attitudes, when you SHOW on the EXTERNAL
side as well that you are LIVING these ideals,
you will notice a MASSIVE improvement in
your ability to detect the RIGHT kinds of
women QUICKLY as well as how to detect
and avoid the wrong types of women, AND
you will also start to attract the right kinds
of women with far greater ease than before.

This is because you will be CONVEYING
all these things through all the subtle
nuances in your tonality, your body language,
your vocabulary, the expressions on your
face, the way you are able to listen and
understand and connect and inspire, etc.

Now, this newsletter has drawn some of the
BROAD STROKES that are ESSENTIAL
for your success.

It’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty and
put it all into ACTION.

The FASTEST way to get it all into action
is through BOOTCAMP, where I will
instruct you live as you approach women
EVERYWHERE. 

Keep in mind BOOTCAMP is not only about
gaining CONFIDENCE, it is also about
MASTERING the TECHNICAL skills and
gaining the know-how regarding how to
take action and approach women even in
all those "hard to approach" situations.

Learn more about what Bootcamp is and
when the next sessions are being held by
going HERE immediately:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

You will LOVE what you GAIN from Bootcamp.
The experience is PRICELESS and it is
something most men will NEVER do, because
it requires the internal MOTIVATION to
get success BEYOND what is the average
social NORM for a man when it comes to
his success with women. 

Most men GIVE IN to the desire to just
FIT IN and be AVERAGE.

You can REBEL against the FORCE of that
social pressure and EXCEED what is
the AVERAGE for most men.

And if you are still not SERIOUSLY
approaching women yet, you MUST download
my “Acing the Approach” program now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html

And to learn the FULL PICTURE on how to
get yourself a FANTASTIC quality woman
for a great relationship, go HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Beat The Odds And GET The Woman You Want, or: Hot Women Wear Headphones For A REASON!

I would be incorrect if I said that
online dating is always a mistake. If
you MUST be 24 hours a day, 7 days
a week, in locations where there are
no women, then online dating makes
sense.

If you are very shy and would like to
start with talking to women online
instead of in person, this might be
a good idea for some guys as well.

HOWEVER, otherwise, the EFFORT and TIME
that must be spent to find the right woman
ONLINE over weeks and possibly MONTHS if
not YEARS is actually FAR, FAR GREATER
than what it takes to just go for a stroll
and meet a TON of incredible women in
just one AFTERNOON.

This is another reason why taking BOOTCAMP
with me is so powerful: It is because you
learn how to waltz right up to women
and attract them on the SPOT.  And it is not
some kind of THEORY; you actually get to
PROVE IT in front of your own EYES.

Any by "PROVE IT" I mean the following
kinds of things happen:

1. The woman gives you her email.
2. She gives you her number.
3. She buys you a drink.
4. She gets girly and giggly with you
even though you are not super funny.
5. She kisses you.
6. She makes out with you.

Number 6 tends to happen more in clubs,
but in general, the bottom line is that
you can TELL the women are actually
INTERESTED instead of just saying
things such as, "I have to go".   

Focusing your energy on meeting women online
tends to also make you needy as when you finally
meet a woman you are interested in online, you
start to get insecure if she does not respond
right away, and it does not help to know that
if she is attractive or even not so attractive
she probably has a thousand messages in her
inbox from other guys because it is SO EASY
for any guy to just click SEND and send a
message to her INBOX.

Meeting women and approaching women in person
takes a lot more SKILL and hence you get rid
of most of the so called "competition".

PLUS, by getting lots of women from meeting
them in person from cold approaches, you
also become SUPER EMPOWERED AND CONFIDENT
AND SECURE and if you DO decide to go back
to online dating, you actually COMMUNICATE
in a way that SHOWS you are not needy
and in a way that shows you are fun.

It will then show even in your messages
back and forth with women on the online
dating site.

It will also show in your profiles online,
because it is EASIER to put up a playful,
confident, or intriguing profile when you
are feeling EMPOWERED with women as
opposed to feeling NEEDY.

However, what you are at your best online
is NOTHING compared to what you are at your
best IN PERSON. You have MUCH MORE POWER
to attract in PERSON.

And when you see how many women you have
choices from when you master the skill of
approaching in cold approaches, you will
not feel the desire to go back to online
dating.

Online, a woman does not get to feel your
personality since she does not get to see
your body language, your expressions, your
tonality, etc.

You lose some of the HUMAN TOUCH online.

But in REAL LIFE, you get to reveal WAY MORE
PERSONALITY, way more of the HUMAN TOUCH.

NUMBER TWO: HOT WOMEN, HEADPHONES, MOVING 

If you look around at hot women, you will notice
a LOT of them have headphones on, and you will
notice they do not often stay STATIONARY in
one place for long in places like malls or
stores, etc.

Some guys complain about this, saying it
makes it harder to approach women.

I used to be one of those guys.

But guess what?
Women being hot and being harder to STOP
and to get them into chat mode compared
to getting other women to stop and chat
is NOT a coincidence.

Hotties NEED to make themselves harder to stop
or they will never get to move through the world
without spending ALL DAY talking to EVERY GUY
that sees them.

The HEADPHONES is PART of that.
The headphones are SAYING, "I'm in my own world,
please leave me alone".

So if you DECIDE TO GIVE INTO THAT, you have
just made yourself part of the MAJORITY of
men who DO NOT GET ANYWHERE with her.

Similarly, these hotties MOVE around more, they
KNOW if they stop for long enough, FOR SURE
they will get a LOT of men who have no clue
about how to behave, and ALSO that these men
will get upset if she has to leave without
giving them the number, etc.

So hotties PREVENT a lot of problems this way. 

DO NOT GIVE INTO THESE ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS.
JUST OPEN UP THE CONVERSATION ANYWAY, and
do it RIGHT.

Women know you are approaching them, just make
sure you approach them in a way that makes them
GLAD you did.

THREE: CONGRUENCY

There's one more thing I want to mention today:
It is all about something known as CONGRUENCY.

When opening up a conversation with a woman
who is a total stranger, you can SCREW IT ALL
UP even if you do EVERYTHING ELSE RIGHT but
you fail to show CONGRUENCY.

Congruency simply means that your WORDS are
CONSISTENT with your BODY LANGUAGE and tonality.

So, let's say a guy is at a bookstore and starts
chatting to a woman about a book she is reading
and he PRETENDS to be interested in the book
but he is not really interested in it.

Most likely, his FACIAL expressions will reveal
some discomfort or disdain or boredom with it,
from the way his eyebrows furl or the crinkles
in his forehead or the way his glance moves
around unsteadily, or the way his voice shows
a lack of genuine interest, etc.

On the other hand, if a guy actually SAYS
that he knows NOTHING about that topic but
is curious what she finds interesting about
it, he will sound CONGRUENT if this is the
truth about the situation.

A woman sensing CONGRUENCY in a man is a BIG thing.

One of the BIGGEST problems in "pick ups" or
'cold approaches' on women who are total strangers
is coming across as "sketchy" - as UNTRUSTWORTHY.

Women WANT to meet men, but they also want
to be SAFE.

So a guy who is the most innocent guy in the
world, and who just wants a woman and just
wants to impress her, but who is not being
CONGRUENT with her, will trigger her ALARMS.

She does not KNOW the reason he is not being
congruent is rather innocent, i.e. that he
likes her. All she knows is something is NOT
true about the situation. 

This is a bit similar to how dogs sense a
person's fear, and it often agitates the
dog, even if the REASON the person feels
fear is BECAUSE of the dog, and not because
the person wants to attack the dog!

All the dog knows is that something is WRONG.

The flip side is also true.
If you are being CONGRUENT, you can use almost
ANYTHING to get a woman into you.

Here's an example from bootcamp:
At a store, the song "Fields of Gold" by Sting
was playing softly over the loudspeakers.

In the moment, I just felt MAN, THIS SONG IS
REALLY CLASSIC STUFF, IT'S CALMING, IT'S
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD STUFF.

So I just turned to the woman, who was in middle
of her own thing, reading a book, and I said,
"Isn't this song beautiful?"

And I MEANT it. 
I said it SLOW, and said the word "beautiful"
as if the word beautiful was ITSELF sacred.

I was truly totally congruent with it.
I've loved that song since it first came out.

And now she FEELS it.
She is soaking it in.

And she goes "Yes, it really is".



This woman was YOUNG, so I said the next totally
TRUE and congruent thought I had, which was:

"That's pretty cool you know this song,
because you seem pretty young".

So then she tells me that she has her parents
to thank for that, they brought her up with
great music. We chat a bit about how Lady Gaga
was actually influenced by her parents who
played their music around the house, including
music by Bruce Springsteen, etc.

At that point, I introduce myself and
extend my hand. She smiles and introduces
herself as well as we shake hands. We
continue chatting about things that
RESONATE such as having classic values,
timeless music, and inspiration.

I use this example because it was NOT
genius, it WAS however very CONGRUENT.

Being totally congruent also means you
do not use pick-up lines, because pick-up
lines run the risk of a guy feeling he
is "doing an act", which means not being
congruent to his real identity.

After a while, I had to end it, because
the point was illustrated and my client was
ready to do some more approaches of his own.

(He got the number of a sexy, slim but shapely
woman who wanted him so badly that she was
not afraid to reveal she had NO PLAN for
SATURDAY NIGHT and wanted to know what HE
was doing! And to prove it was a real  number,
he actually called her right away, and her
phone rang on her right then and there!)

And if you are reading this right now, I
promise you that what you have just read,
as powerful as it is, is just the TIP
of the ICEBERG.

My "Real World BOOTCAMP" is going to equip you with the skills to attract more women in one WEEK than most men attract in a LIFETIME.

Bootcamp is a bit like THE MATRIX.
You will see that YOU create the
results that YOU want with women, and
that there are NO limits.

You get to benefit from over TEN YEARS
of my dedication to these skills and to
teaching these skills.

Email me with possible weekends that work for
you and I will let you know if any of them are
still available.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And if you don't already have the following
two ESSENTIAL programs, get them IMMEDIATELY:

"The Dating Wizard" E-Book:
This book is the FIRST thing to read.
It is an ABSOLUTE MUST.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html    

"Acing the Approach":
This program shares my LATEST strategies
for succeeding at the art and skill of
approaching and attracting women who
are total strangers.

It's at:  

http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html   

Till next time,

Michael Marks