How Much Do Men's LOOKS Count To Women? GOLD On Approaching And Attracting Women

It’s been a long time, and there are some absolutely
VITAL things I want to share with you on attracting
women. These things have been on my mind for a
long time, but I have been so busy I haven’t had
a chance to get them written down till now.

ONE: HOW TO BECOME EMOTIONALLY EMPOWERED.
(And Why This Is SO Important)

When it comes to attracting women, especially women
who are total strangers, and ESPECIALLY when just
approaching them out of the blue, your STATE OF
MIND is of UTMOST importance.

That means being secure, feeling empowered, feeling
sensual, and feeling playful.

The REASON your state of mind is so important is
not just because being in a good state allows you to
then easily come up with the right kinds of things to
spontaneously SAY in the moment (instead of
using cheesy pick-up lines), but ALSO it is important
because a woman who does not know you will
NOT be judging you on the DETAILS of what
you SAY.

Instead, she will be judging you ENTIRELY on
your PRESENTATION.  The WAY you sound,
the TONE of your voice, the EXPRESSION on
your face, the WAY you dressed, the CALM
you exude, etc.

Not only is it simply HUMAN for ALL HUMAN
beings to INSTINCTIVELY first judge others more on
PRESENTATION than on CONTENT, but women
are ESPECIALLY good at ALSO detecting your
MOOD.

Women, IN GENERAL, (there are always exceptions)
are MUCH better than men at detecting the emotional
STATE of someone else.  Women tend to be better at
being in touch with emotions and the emotions of the
people around them.

This doesn’t mean women are nicer than men, it
just means they are generally better at detecting 
things like BODY LANGUAGE and VOICE TONALITY,
and in general being real darn good at knowing
EXACTLY what you are feeling in any given moment,
even if you are a STRANGER.

In fact, the very reality of the situation being that
in a pick-up type of situation, you ARE a stranger,
forces a woman to almost TOTALLY rely on her
skills at detecting your emotional state since she
really doesn’t know your history at all.

So what all this means is that a woman can sense
if you feel LACK of confidence and she can ALSO
sense if you feel TONS of confidence.

If YOU feel confident, if YOU feel playful, if
YOU feel social, then she PICKS UP these
vibes from you and she ALSO starts to feel
more playful, more social, and more OPEN
to chatting with you, because states of mind
are CATCHY.

And she can TELL what state of mind you are IN.

If you are in a NEGATIVE STATE, if you feel
TENSE, if you feel ANXIOUS, she will start to
feel the SAME WAY.

So this makes it clear that indeed you MUST
be in the right emotional state.

And the best way to get INTO that state is to
first decide on your GOAL in terms of what you
want to DO and FEEL.

The NEXT step after that is to take CONSISTENT
BABY STEPS TOWARD that goal.

So if you decide you want to feel more CONFIDENT
and PLAYFUL, that DECISION is in itself IMPORTANT.

It is important because your brain is EXTREMELY
adaptable.  It just needs to know which DIRECTION
to go, it needs to know what the DESTINATION is.

I am not making this up.  This is all documented in
Norman Doidge’s The Brain that Changes Itself.

Doidge documents MIND-BLOWING evidence
of how the brain actually CHANGES PHYSICALLY
while it learns things.  Using this new understanding
of the brain has enabled some blind people to recognize
letters, throw a basketball into a garbage can, and see
candle flames for the first time in their lives.

And to paraphrase Martin L. Rossman, M.D.: "If the brain
can change so that blind people can SEE, then certainly
the brain can change so that emotions like anxiety
can be turned into calm."  

By the way, if you’re still not approaching women
due to approach anxiety, I SERIOUSLY suggest
you download my “Obliterating Approach
Anxiety” program immediately at:

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TWO: The NEXT step is VISUALIZATION.

It is important for you to VISUALIZE exactly
what it is you WANT to feel. 

Picture ALL THE DETAILS of what you want
to be feeling, and of all the other sensory data
that might be associated with that feeling.

So, for example, if you want to feel calm and empowered
when approaching women, picture a SPECIFIC time in
your life when you WERE feeling that combination of
calm and empowered.  Bring back all the details of the
event, the way you felt from the way your heart was beating
to the feeling on your skin, to any important sounds such as
music, a breeze, or any other detail.

For example, if it was during a birthday party as a kid,
perhaps you remember the look of the cake, and you
remember your OWN expression when looking at
the cake, maybe you remember the smell of the
sugar or the icing or the chocolate, the taste of the
cake, the sound of the music, singing, kids shouting,
the weather at that moment.

CLOSE your eyes when you do this so you can
focus on the memory and the feeling.  

The brain IS UNBELIEVABLY responsive to this
kind of experience.  If you were to have a readout
of all the things happening in your brain when you
do this visualization, you would find that your brain
was in many ways reacting as if all this were REALLY
happening. 

And the MORE you PRACTICE, the MORE your brain
CHANGES and the BETTER you get.

THREE: ADOPT THE PHYSIOLOGY OF THE STATE YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE

You must also actually TAKE ON the actual POSTURE and body language that comes WITH the emotional state you want to experience.  If you want to feel empowered, then take up SPACE with your body.  Raise your hands in a VICTORY gesture, as if you just won the race and just broke through the tape at the finish line!

Notice how the OPPOSITE is true, as well. If you scrunch your body up tight and tighten your shoulders and take on the feared facial expression, you will actually start to FEEL fear and less value.

Your BRAIN RESPONDS to these things in a very REAL way.  It's almost as if your brain does not know the difference between the IMAGINATION and reality. 

If you focus on experiencing the calm of the perfect vacation in your MIND, then for all intents and purposes your BRAIN responds in a healthy way as if you actually are in that perfect calm place for real.

Think of all the associated body language and PHYSIOLOGY of a certain emotional state that you want to be in, and then adopt those aspects of physiology as much as possible.  You will start to FEEL those emotions in just a matter of MINUTES.

Emotions FOLLOW the actual physical actions just as much as physical actions follow emotions.  Just like you might jump up and down after you feel VICTORY, so too you will feel VICTORY after jumping and down in the same "victory" style manner. 

Of course, in my BOOTCAMP, I train you to get the
ULTIMATE practice, which is why men improve
so fast.

And now, I would like to move on to another
IMPORTANT point based on SCIENTIFIC
RESEARCH.

FOUR: THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT LOOKS

At one time, the idea that a man’s looks are not
as powerful of an attractor to women as women’s
looks are for men, I had a hard time believing this.

I had been to high school.  I would SEE how some of
the model-looking dudes DID seem to so easily swoop
up the girls who were hot. But at the same time, I would
also see how there were also hot girls who dated guys
of EVERY TYPE.

So let me bring this whole discussion about looks to a
conclusion, through an article that got my attention by
Douglas T. Kenrick, Ph.D.

A scientific study made in 2010 reveals the TRUTH about
women and men when it comes to looks:

When MEN look at pictures of hot women, the men
REMEMBER details of the pictures LONG AFTER
seeing them.

When WOMEN look at pictures of “model-type” men,
they may indeed appreciate these men’s looks but women
tend to NOT remember the details of the photos after
seeing them!

That means that although obviously women are not
BLIND, a man with above-average looks simply does
not IMPACT women with the same emotional force
that an attractive woman has on MEN.

So this is yet another reason to STOP thinking that
some woman is “out of your league” just because
you think she is so hot and you think that you are
average in the looks department.

There could be all sorts of evolutionary reasons for
why a man’s looks are not the paramount force in
determining a woman’s attraction to a man, including
the possibility that a woman can’t afford to make
the decision on who will be the father of her child
based on just one factor alone, but rather she must
know what ELSE this man has that may be positive
traits he can give her child.

The bottom line is that if a guy has great looks, that
is good for him, but it is NOT even CLOSE to being
the MAIN part of what it takes to attract women. 
   
This leads me to point number three, which is:

FIVE: WHAT COUNTS IS STRENGTH OF CHARACTER
(And an example of what this means.)

Women are attracted to men who are RESILIENT, who are
COURAGEOUS, who are DARING, who have SOCIAL
SKILLS, and who are EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT. 
Being intelligent in general helps too.

This is why it does not matter much what a woman thinks
of you BEFORE you interact with her.

What matters is what she feels AFTER you interact with her.

This is also why if you can just GET that first date,
you are almost CERTAIN to get her, if you do things
RIGHT.

So, let us just say for example, that a woman you meet
for just a couple of minutes gives you her number. 

The chat was so brief that you didn’t really get a
chance to interact with her. Then, when you call
her, you notice she seems lukewarm to the whole
idea of meeting up with you. 

This is common for intermediate guys who are
Getting good at getting numbers, but the numbers
aren’t turning into dates, girlfriends, getting physical,
etc.

Most guys end up doing various versions of
making REQUESTS of the woman, all of
which make it seem like she is doing a
favor if she meets up.

Instead of that, you should take a totally DIFFERENT
path, the path you would take if you were totally
CONFIDENT:

So, for example, if you KNEW that you were
the best thing on Earth for a woman, that you
would give her more pleasure than any other
man on Earth, instead of asking her to give you
a chance, you might say something like this:

“Listen, I already know I am probably going to
knock your socks off, but the thing is that I personally
hate the idea of forcing anyone to do anything.

I don’t want you to spend one drop of time with
me unless it is the absolute BEST experience of
your life, as I personally believe the only relationships
that work are the ones where both people feel LUCKY
to be with each other. 

So you have to feel damn LUCKY to be with me,
or it is a waste of MY time, to be honest.  

Now, at the same time, I need to feel pretty damn
LUCKY myself, so that’s where this thing called
meeting up comes in.  I feel your vibe, you feel
mine, and we take it from there, know what I mean?”

Take THAT kind of approach and you are going to
do a MILLION times better, because it is massively
clear that this is not a request for a favor, but merely
a chance for EVERYONE to not lose OUT on an
OPPORTUNITY.

Again, remember that women are not like men,
the decision to sleep with a guy is based on your
PERSONALITY.

Notice I didn’t say it is based just on you being
a NICE person.

It is based on STRENGTH of personality.

And if you are reading this right now and would
like to ensure YOUR success with the women of
YOUR choice, I seriously suggest you download
my program “Attraction Accelerators” IMMEDIATELY
at:

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To find out about ALL my programs that contain
PRECIOUS insights you won't find anywhere else,
including on how to OBLITERATE the fear of
approaching any woman, all the way to how to
MASTER the art of spontaneous humor, and much,
MUCH more, go here: 

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I WISH when I was starting out, that someone had made
such a TREASURE of resources available TOGETHER at
such a fantastic price.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How You Can Be A "TEN" To A Woman

When it comes to attraction, as men, we
can BUILD attraction.  And yet, rather
than build attraction, most men DO
THE VERY THINGS THAT DESTROY THEIR
OWN "ATTRACTIVENESS" TO WOMEN.

In the film "She's Out of My League",
this guy meets this knockout, and the
one thing he has about himself is that
he doesn't try to impress the woman by
being someone ELSE. 

So he authentically is not seeking approval.
He may be a bit insecure around the woman,
but he doesn't act like a jackass who needs
to show off to get attention.

Also, he has a bit of a sense of humor
regarding his own insecurities, which is
not as good as NOT having the insecurities,
but at least helps limit the damage of those
insecurities.

HOWEVER, the DISASTROUS thing he does,
is that he CAN'T BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN AS
ATTRACTIVE AS HER CAN REALLY WANT TO
BE WITH HIM. 

So, based on this belief, he interprets EVERYTHING
as a reason why this girl will not want to be with him.

He then ACTS on his warped interpretation of
everything she does. 

So, while the girl is initially getting more
attracted to him, there is a point where his
FEARS start to screw things up with her when
he starts to take actions based on his fears,
and one of the biggest examples is when she
finds out that he SERIOUSLY HOPES she has
some MAJOR FLAW, so that this way he can feel
she will more likely want to stay with him.

This whole thing reminds me a bit of the
certain styles of so-called "advice" that focus
on harming a woman's self-esteem with
'cleverly' disguised insults and back-handed
compliments in order to get her to feel
unworthy and insecure.

The idea behind that so called "advice" is that
it will supposedly make her feel like HE is a
great catch.

It is supposed to make her appreciate him
more since supposedly she will feel she
herself is no great catch anymore. 

First of all, I find that type of behavior plain
old WRONG from an ethical point of view.

Having an intention to make an innocent
person suffer is plain old WRONG.
  
In ADDITION to this, is the fact that any
woman with a bit of self-esteem will
DETECT this kind of "trick" and it will
RUIN her attraction to the guy as she can
see the guy is so INSECURE that he needed
to do this.  It will also not only ruin her
attraction, but also make her pissed off
as well as no one enjoys being attacked
in the worst way, since after all, our
self-esteem is the most important part
of our sense of "feeling good". 


So, in the film, the guy is hoping that
some defect her ex mentioned to him will
be true.

Think about that for a second- why on
earth would a man who is attracted to
a woman who is treating him RIGHT, and
who is a KNOCKOUT, why would he WISH
that she actually had to have some
kind of DEFECT to her?

The answer is INSECURITY and NEEDINESS.
The insecurity says, "Well, if she has a flaw, then
maybe she will accept my flaws."

The NEEDINESS says that "I can't feel good without
her, so I must find some way to KEEP her regardless
of what's good for her or not, in fact let's start WISHING
she had some problems, some DEFECT in fact!!
YEAH, that would be perfect!"
 
And this is not just a movie thing, it's very common
to REAL LIFE.  When feeling insecure and needy,
it's quite HUMAN to almost wish there was SOME
flaw to the "perfectness" of the other person, the
woman who we think is "OUT OF OUR LEAGUE".

Now, think about it from the woman's point of view:
How can she love a man who SERIOUSLY WISHES SHE
HAS OR WILL GET SOME DEFECT????????????????

Just because HE is afraid that he is not good enough for her.

The point of all this, is that INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS
can turn a guy who is slowly growing on a woman into being
a guy who went from being a 5 or 6 into being an 8, 9, or 10,
and then this INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS constantly
CUTS HIM DOWN BY ANOTHER "POINT".

Each time you RESIST the urge to give into insecurities,
your GAIN a point on the attraction scale.

But in this movie, he does the opposite, and each time he
allows himself to give IN to his insecurities, he LOSES another
point on the attraction scale to the woman.

And THAT is how he ends up as a "5", when he was
at one point more of a 9 on his way to being a TEN.

That is, until near the end of the movie, when he realizes
how SCREWED UP his own thinking has been and
how he IS indeed a "10"!

And here's the OTHER major news:  EVEN THE GUYS
EVERYONE THINKS HAVE IT "ALL" ACTUALLY
VERY OFTEN HAVE MAJOR INSECURITIES AS WELL!!!!!!!!!!

And the movie actually reflects this reality, as the very
guy he is jealous of, who used to date the knockout
in the past, did JUST AS MANY INSECURE THINGS
as well!!!!  He just puts on a show in front of the rest
of the world that he is really secure, but when it came
to being with the knockout, he screwed things up
just as bad, all because he thought the woman
would ultimately dump him.

This happens in real life all the time!!!

It doesn't matter if you're an A LIST ACTOR WHO
IS CONSIDERED THE MALE ICON OF RUGGEDNESS,
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE A MODEL OR
BILLIONAIRE, the bottom line is that EVERYONE
has insecurities, and if you let those insecurities
and neediness affect your ACTIONS, it will harm
the attraction a woman feels for you.

Yet the crucial thing to remember is that if you
RESIST the urge to give in to those insecurities,
you keep on RISING on the bar of attraction.

Now, speaking of MASTERING ATTRACTION and beating
insecurity and neediness, as well as learning
the most effective ways of attracting women,
you're going to LOVE my "Attraction Accelerators"
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Here are just  SOME of the powerful and
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ALL of what you are going to learn in this
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useful when you see a woman you’d like
to approach and attract anywhere:

*You’ll learn the mistakes men make when
“scoping” out a room to check out the women
there, and you’ll learn the RIGHT way to do this.

Doing this WRONG ends up causing you to lose
the woman BEFORE you even say a word to her.

*How to avoid the number 1 mistake that makes
you PROCRASTINATE from taking action- if you
don’t stop this mistake, chances are you will
keep procrastinating when it comes to approaching
women forever, because of the addictive nature
of this type of procrastination.

*The RIGHT way to go about walking toward a woman
you see in a club or food court, and the WRONG WAY
THAT YOU MUST AVOID. (Most guys take the wrong
“route” and it comes across as very insecure and
REPULSIVE.)

*The proper DISTANCE you should actually be when
chatting to a woman you find attractive. It’s a lot
closer than most guys think!

*I’m going to answer all questions related to:
"I hear that you're supposed to let the woman
speak about herself! If I just listen to her, how
will she know anything cool about me?"

*You’ll also learn how to START the conversation
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doing an artificial "act".

*You’ll ALSO learn the most effective things to be
doing in any social or party situation you find
yourself in where you can meet women.

In a party/lounge/club atmosphere, there is a certain
“sequence of steps” that will really help you get much
farther than doing the typical “Hi, let’s stand and
talk for as long as possible and hopefully this will
lead to getting your phone number or something more”.

I’ll show you a way of handling these environments
in a way that is AT LEAST TEN TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE
at creating attraction and also at making her see
you as someone she would like to know beyond just
this party or club, etc.

*You’ll also learn how to make the environment of
a party, lounge, or social situation work in your favor.
So the fact there are lots of people there walking around,
the fact that she may be going for a drink and walking
away, the fact she may be looking for her friends,
ALL THESE THINGS can actually be turned around
and work in your FAVOR- I’LL SHOW YOU HOW!!!

*When it’s CRITICAL that you tell a woman that you
LIKE her, really FAST! This has absolutely nothing
to do with “kissing up”, and in fact not telling her
you like her will be seen by her as you being
massively insecure or even worse, clueless about
sexuality.

*How to say what’s on your mind (rather than
Just talking about “safe” topics that are boring)
in a way that gets women filling in the rest of
the conversation for you!

This way, you not only lead the conversation,
which gets the woman to become more feminine
in your presence and follow you, but it also
sets up the best sexual dynamic between the
two of you.

It ALSO allows you to do less work, because
since you started the conversation, that in
itself shows you have plenty to say, but it
also allows you to chill out and lean back
and now just listen to what she has to say—
Which of course gives you tons more things
to talk about and gives you the ability to
also give her a genuine compliment which
she will value!

I’ll show you exactly how this all works!

*You’ll learn the RIGHT amount of body contact
to have with a woman you just met, and how
to do it.

*Ever wonder if a woman is into you or not?
Do you let this stop you from taking action?
Here’s what to do in all those situations!

*How to build ACTION MOMENTUM in your
overall PLAN for getting the woman of your
dreams, so that you are taking ACTION
every day on this and not getting swept
up in all the obstacles to you achieving this
goal.

*How to use a proven principle from psychology
that will TAKE OVER YOUR MIND AND MAKE
SURE YOU BECOME FAR MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
no matter what you do otherwise!

This principle is PROVEN, again and again, to WORK.
A top university in the United States has proven
this principle to be very effective, and I’m going
to show you how to apply it on yourself with women.

*You’ll also learn to bring yourself to a higher level
of “skill” when it comes to everything you do with
women, from first seeing her, to chatting, to getting
her laughing, to getting under the sheets, to even
getting into a relationship and keeping things going-
by adopting a subtle yet crucial distinction for yourself:

Most people say they will “try” to succeed.
That’s not good enough.

However, we also know that lying to ourselves
isn’t good either.

There is something else, a different mindset, that
is based on TRUTH, that is more empowering,
and I’ll share that with you as well.

*If a woman contacts you with voice mail, email,
or text, I’ll show the best way to RESPOND to these
particular modes of communication in a way that
puts you in the driver’s seat, so to speak.

*As the very ORIGINAL guy who knew that the
pick up artist vibes end up creeping out quality
women, I’ll show you one of the most powerful
things you can do to a woman to get her to say
to herself ‘THIS GUY IS THE FULL PACKAGE’.

I’ll show you the GENUINE way to truly “qualify”
a woman in a way that is a HUNDRED times
more effective than the trivial, “Oh you like
chewing gum? So do I! That’s awesome! ”

Qualifying a woman in a MEANINGFUL way is the
final stage before getting physical with her, and
99% of men out there are STILL doing this wrong.

This is why most of the guys who follow pick up
artist advice end up confused, because they got
the woman’s attention, but then she flaked out
later on. There’s a reason she flaked out, and
it’s called lack of meaningful qualifying.

*You’ll also learn how to get the very women
that seem “difficult” at first, and you’ll realize
how most guys are LOSING out on these
supposedly difficult women by abandoning ship
for easier pastures, but the thing is, these
women who seem “difficult” initially are often
the BEST KINDS OF WOMEN because they know
they have high worth and self esteem, and they
don’t sleep around much.

Now, there is a fine line between difficult and
being a spoiled b****. I’ll show you how to
get those “difficult” women.

*I’ll also show you how to PROPERLY give women
the DOMINANCE polarity they crave so badly.

Attractive women especially crave this, as every
man they meet kisses up to them so badly, these
women have never felt what it’s like to be with
a man who can truly be DOMINANT at the right
times.

*You’ll also learn the art of “VIBING” with a woman,
which is probably the single most important overall
skill with women, and can be the easiest, yet our
brainwashing makes us FORGET this again and
again. I’ll show you the things that help for
making “vibing” with women come easily to you.

If you’d like to get this special program
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To find out about ALL my programs that contain
PRECIOUS insights you won't find anywhere else,
including on how to OBLITERATE the fear of
approaching any woman, all the way to how to
MASTER the art of comedy, and much, MUCH more,
go here: 

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

I WISH when I was starting out, that someone had made
such a TREASURE of resources available TOGETHER at
such a fantastic price.


For now, for tomorrow, and for always, be THE MAN.

Michael Marks