How Much Do Men's LOOKS Count To Women? GOLD On Approaching And Attracting Women

It’s been a long time, and there are some absolutely
VITAL things I want to share with you on attracting
women. These things have been on my mind for a
long time, but I have been so busy I haven’t had
a chance to get them written down till now.

ONE: HOW TO BECOME EMOTIONALLY EMPOWERED.
(And Why This Is SO Important)

When it comes to attracting women, especially women
who are total strangers, and ESPECIALLY when just
approaching them out of the blue, your STATE OF
MIND is of UTMOST importance.

That means being secure, feeling empowered, feeling
sensual, and feeling playful.

The REASON your state of mind is so important is
not just because being in a good state allows you to
then easily come up with the right kinds of things to
spontaneously SAY in the moment (instead of
using cheesy pick-up lines), but ALSO it is important
because a woman who does not know you will
NOT be judging you on the DETAILS of what
you SAY.

Instead, she will be judging you ENTIRELY on
your PRESENTATION.  The WAY you sound,
the TONE of your voice, the EXPRESSION on
your face, the WAY you dressed, the CALM
you exude, etc.

Not only is it simply HUMAN for ALL HUMAN
beings to INSTINCTIVELY first judge others more on
PRESENTATION than on CONTENT, but women
are ESPECIALLY good at ALSO detecting your
MOOD.

Women, IN GENERAL, (there are always exceptions)
are MUCH better than men at detecting the emotional
STATE of someone else.  Women tend to be better at
being in touch with emotions and the emotions of the
people around them.

This doesn’t mean women are nicer than men, it
just means they are generally better at detecting 
things like BODY LANGUAGE and VOICE TONALITY,
and in general being real darn good at knowing
EXACTLY what you are feeling in any given moment,
even if you are a STRANGER.

In fact, the very reality of the situation being that
in a pick-up type of situation, you ARE a stranger,
forces a woman to almost TOTALLY rely on her
skills at detecting your emotional state since she
really doesn’t know your history at all.

So what all this means is that a woman can sense
if you feel LACK of confidence and she can ALSO
sense if you feel TONS of confidence.

If YOU feel confident, if YOU feel playful, if
YOU feel social, then she PICKS UP these
vibes from you and she ALSO starts to feel
more playful, more social, and more OPEN
to chatting with you, because states of mind
are CATCHY.

And she can TELL what state of mind you are IN.

If you are in a NEGATIVE STATE, if you feel
TENSE, if you feel ANXIOUS, she will start to
feel the SAME WAY.

So this makes it clear that indeed you MUST
be in the right emotional state.

And the best way to get INTO that state is to
first decide on your GOAL in terms of what you
want to DO and FEEL.

The NEXT step after that is to take CONSISTENT
BABY STEPS TOWARD that goal.

So if you decide you want to feel more CONFIDENT
and PLAYFUL, that DECISION is in itself IMPORTANT.

It is important because your brain is EXTREMELY
adaptable.  It just needs to know which DIRECTION
to go, it needs to know what the DESTINATION is.

I am not making this up.  This is all documented in
Norman Doidge’s The Brain that Changes Itself.

Doidge documents MIND-BLOWING evidence
of how the brain actually CHANGES PHYSICALLY
while it learns things.  Using this new understanding
of the brain has enabled some blind people to recognize
letters, throw a basketball into a garbage can, and see
candle flames for the first time in their lives.

And to paraphrase Martin L. Rossman, M.D.: "If the brain
can change so that blind people can SEE, then certainly
the brain can change so that emotions like anxiety
can be turned into calm."  

By the way, if you’re still not approaching women
due to approach anxiety, I SERIOUSLY suggest
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TWO: The NEXT step is VISUALIZATION.

It is important for you to VISUALIZE exactly
what it is you WANT to feel. 

Picture ALL THE DETAILS of what you want
to be feeling, and of all the other sensory data
that might be associated with that feeling.

So, for example, if you want to feel calm and empowered
when approaching women, picture a SPECIFIC time in
your life when you WERE feeling that combination of
calm and empowered.  Bring back all the details of the
event, the way you felt from the way your heart was beating
to the feeling on your skin, to any important sounds such as
music, a breeze, or any other detail.

For example, if it was during a birthday party as a kid,
perhaps you remember the look of the cake, and you
remember your OWN expression when looking at
the cake, maybe you remember the smell of the
sugar or the icing or the chocolate, the taste of the
cake, the sound of the music, singing, kids shouting,
the weather at that moment.

CLOSE your eyes when you do this so you can
focus on the memory and the feeling.  

The brain IS UNBELIEVABLY responsive to this
kind of experience.  If you were to have a readout
of all the things happening in your brain when you
do this visualization, you would find that your brain
was in many ways reacting as if all this were REALLY
happening. 

And the MORE you PRACTICE, the MORE your brain
CHANGES and the BETTER you get.

THREE: ADOPT THE PHYSIOLOGY OF THE STATE YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE

You must also actually TAKE ON the actual POSTURE and body language that comes WITH the emotional state you want to experience.  If you want to feel empowered, then take up SPACE with your body.  Raise your hands in a VICTORY gesture, as if you just won the race and just broke through the tape at the finish line!

Notice how the OPPOSITE is true, as well. If you scrunch your body up tight and tighten your shoulders and take on the feared facial expression, you will actually start to FEEL fear and less value.

Your BRAIN RESPONDS to these things in a very REAL way.  It's almost as if your brain does not know the difference between the IMAGINATION and reality. 

If you focus on experiencing the calm of the perfect vacation in your MIND, then for all intents and purposes your BRAIN responds in a healthy way as if you actually are in that perfect calm place for real.

Think of all the associated body language and PHYSIOLOGY of a certain emotional state that you want to be in, and then adopt those aspects of physiology as much as possible.  You will start to FEEL those emotions in just a matter of MINUTES.

Emotions FOLLOW the actual physical actions just as much as physical actions follow emotions.  Just like you might jump up and down after you feel VICTORY, so too you will feel VICTORY after jumping and down in the same "victory" style manner. 

Of course, in my BOOTCAMP, I train you to get the
ULTIMATE practice, which is why men improve
so fast.

And now, I would like to move on to another
IMPORTANT point based on SCIENTIFIC
RESEARCH.

FOUR: THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT LOOKS

At one time, the idea that a man’s looks are not
as powerful of an attractor to women as women’s
looks are for men, I had a hard time believing this.

I had been to high school.  I would SEE how some of
the model-looking dudes DID seem to so easily swoop
up the girls who were hot. But at the same time, I would
also see how there were also hot girls who dated guys
of EVERY TYPE.

So let me bring this whole discussion about looks to a
conclusion, through an article that got my attention by
Douglas T. Kenrick, Ph.D.

A scientific study made in 2010 reveals the TRUTH about
women and men when it comes to looks:

When MEN look at pictures of hot women, the men
REMEMBER details of the pictures LONG AFTER
seeing them.

When WOMEN look at pictures of “model-type” men,
they may indeed appreciate these men’s looks but women
tend to NOT remember the details of the photos after
seeing them!

That means that although obviously women are not
BLIND, a man with above-average looks simply does
not IMPACT women with the same emotional force
that an attractive woman has on MEN.

So this is yet another reason to STOP thinking that
some woman is “out of your league” just because
you think she is so hot and you think that you are
average in the looks department.

There could be all sorts of evolutionary reasons for
why a man’s looks are not the paramount force in
determining a woman’s attraction to a man, including
the possibility that a woman can’t afford to make
the decision on who will be the father of her child
based on just one factor alone, but rather she must
know what ELSE this man has that may be positive
traits he can give her child.

The bottom line is that if a guy has great looks, that
is good for him, but it is NOT even CLOSE to being
the MAIN part of what it takes to attract women. 
   
This leads me to point number three, which is:

FIVE: WHAT COUNTS IS STRENGTH OF CHARACTER
(And an example of what this means.)

Women are attracted to men who are RESILIENT, who are
COURAGEOUS, who are DARING, who have SOCIAL
SKILLS, and who are EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT. 
Being intelligent in general helps too.

This is why it does not matter much what a woman thinks
of you BEFORE you interact with her.

What matters is what she feels AFTER you interact with her.

This is also why if you can just GET that first date,
you are almost CERTAIN to get her, if you do things
RIGHT.

So, let us just say for example, that a woman you meet
for just a couple of minutes gives you her number. 

The chat was so brief that you didn’t really get a
chance to interact with her. Then, when you call
her, you notice she seems lukewarm to the whole
idea of meeting up with you. 

This is common for intermediate guys who are
Getting good at getting numbers, but the numbers
aren’t turning into dates, girlfriends, getting physical,
etc.

Most guys end up doing various versions of
making REQUESTS of the woman, all of
which make it seem like she is doing a
favor if she meets up.

Instead of that, you should take a totally DIFFERENT
path, the path you would take if you were totally
CONFIDENT:

So, for example, if you KNEW that you were
the best thing on Earth for a woman, that you
would give her more pleasure than any other
man on Earth, instead of asking her to give you
a chance, you might say something like this:

“Listen, I already know I am probably going to
knock your socks off, but the thing is that I personally
hate the idea of forcing anyone to do anything.

I don’t want you to spend one drop of time with
me unless it is the absolute BEST experience of
your life, as I personally believe the only relationships
that work are the ones where both people feel LUCKY
to be with each other. 

So you have to feel damn LUCKY to be with me,
or it is a waste of MY time, to be honest.  

Now, at the same time, I need to feel pretty damn
LUCKY myself, so that’s where this thing called
meeting up comes in.  I feel your vibe, you feel
mine, and we take it from there, know what I mean?”

Take THAT kind of approach and you are going to
do a MILLION times better, because it is massively
clear that this is not a request for a favor, but merely
a chance for EVERYONE to not lose OUT on an
OPPORTUNITY.

Again, remember that women are not like men,
the decision to sleep with a guy is based on your
PERSONALITY.

Notice I didn’t say it is based just on you being
a NICE person.

It is based on STRENGTH of personality.

And if you are reading this right now and would
like to ensure YOUR success with the women of
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

7 PROVEN Strategies For Effectively Approaching Women

There are 7 absolutely AWESOME strategies I want to
share with you today on successfully approaching
and attracting women who are total strangers.

Please keep in mind that what you are about to
read HAS BEEN PROVEN in REAL LIFE from THOUSANDS
of examples over the years from my Real World
Bootcamps where the goal is simple:

Teach men how to approach and attract women,
anywhere, instantly- and get fantastic live
results on real women just about anywhere,
RESULTS that can be seen IMMEDIATELY.

So every word you are about to see has been
examined and cross-examined in REAL LIFE
from every angle for ACCURACY and TRUTH.

Does this mean you will get EVERY SINGLE WOMAN?
No, and anyone who tells you that they have
such a magic pill is telling you a lie.

HOWEVER, what you are about to read will
DEFINITELY make a MASSIVE improvement
to your results in approaching gorgeous
women who are total strangers.

And what you are about to read are the kind
of secret insights that come from spending
YEARS in this field and seeing what works
and what doesn't.

Here we go:

NUMBER ONE: AUTHORITY

When you are approaching a woman at a place
that is NOT an official ‘meat-market’, she is
far more likely to wonder what’s going on than
if you approached her at a dance club or some
other venue that is all about mingling with new
people.

So, therefore, it’s important that you BYPASS
this potential problem IMMEDIATELY by
pouring on the AUTHORITY in your tonality
and in your mannerisms.

Remember, this is NOT a club where it’s all
about socializing. And you do NOT want to
come across as a weirdo OR as desperate.

You avoid all these problems by pouring on the
authority.

In bootcamp, a lot of guys ask me, “But is it
NORMAL for this to happen? Won’t she
still wonder what the heck is going on?”

The answer is that when you come in with
AUTHORITY, she’s not wondering ANYTHING!

INSTEAD, she is FEELING one thing that can be
summed up as the following statement in her mind:

“It’s important that I LISTEN to what this guy
has to say.”

I didn’t say she wants to make LOVE right away.

But she DOES feel it’s important to GENUINELY
listen to what you have to SAY.

And that’s all you NEED, because this buys you
an IN to the conversation, and sets the foundation
right for all the right vibes of you being ‘the man’.

This is another reason why coming to Bootcamp
is so powerful, because experiencing and seeing
and hearing everything live helps you immediately
“get” exactly what I am saying here.

NUMBER TWO:
DON’T START WITH A SMILE

This is simple and related to number one, but it’s
very important.

If you are in a party atmosphere, then you can
smile, but if you are in a non-social atmosphere,
then starting with a smile just says all the wrong
things and can, ironically, creep her out.

This is why I say OBLITERATE the smile for
the first few moments, until SHE starts to really
dig into the conversation herself.

NUMBER THREE:
DON’T START WITH QUESTIONS,
ESPECIALLY BORING ONES

When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you need to convey in indirect ways
who YOU are before you can expect her to
do anything for YOU.

That just makes perfect sense, doesn’t it?
So instead, start with a COMMENT about something
RELEVANT, and make that comment interesting.

For example, if you were in a card store in a mall,
and you saw a woman looking through the birthday
cards, you could start a conversation about "how
important it is to show a lot of THOUGHT when
giving a gift rather than to be so focused on the
materialistic superficial value of a gift, and how
the message you write on a card can be a big
part of showing that thought as well".

Such a comment from you will likely generate
some QUALITY feedback from her, far more than
just a simple  "yes" or "no" answer, plus it allows
you to then get into a deeper conversation as you
reply to HER comments.

And I don't just mean it allows you to have a deeper
conversation for the sake of just having a deep
conversation, but rather for the sake of getting
deeper into learning about her PERSONALITY.

So, as she speaks to you about what SHE finds
meaningful in giving a gift, or in receiving one,
you will learn a LOT about her, which allows
you to have a far more powerful conversation
that actually BONDS you two together than 
simply talking about whether you both like
sushi or some other food.  

NUMBER FOUR:
LISTEN, AND LISTEN WELL

Then, when she comments back to you, you LISTEN
to whatever she is saying, and you ‘pick up’ on what
she is saying.

Remember, if you want to ‘pick up’ a girl, then forget
the pick up lines and instead focus to ‘pick-up’ ON
what she is saying!

Her feedback to you is CRUCIAL for how you respond.
This is where the "pick up line" mentality ruins guys, because
men get caught up on their memorized pick up lines and in
performing an "act", that they forget to LISTEN and to be
in the MOMENT!

So let’s say she says back to you something like:

“Yes, it is so important, I just came back from
visiting so-and-so country/city/family/friend
and they/it/he/she said xyz that made me realize
abc.”

Now, with this, you have a ton to reply back to her with
that actually connects specifically with HER as opposed
to any other woman in the world.

So now YOU stand out as being a lot more than just
another guy who spits out pick up lines to women.

NUMBER FIVE:
GENUINE VALIDATION

It’s important to understand here that you are dealing
with a woman who is a TOTAL stranger, so social skills
must be super POLISHED in order to quickly bridge the
distance from stranger to man-she-wants-to-know.

Human communication, at its emotional primal roots, is
really about confirmation.

It’s the reason behind the social greeting and
response of “hello”.

The real point behind 'hello' and 'how are you'
and 'very well, thanks' between total strangers
is not necessarily to ask all the details, but
to CONFIRM each other’s WORTH.

This is known as confirming feedback, confirming
each other socially, and this is the REAL point
of mutual “hellos”.

Well, to AMPLIFY the effect of this confirmation,
you want to find a MEANINGFUL way of expressing it.

You do this by listening to what she is saying
so you can find something you GENUINELY respect
about her, and you then express that.

So, for example, let’s say it’s Friday night at the mall,
bookstore, and there are tons of people around because
the movie theater is nearby and most people are seeing
movies.

And this woman is checking out books by herself.

You approach her, with the right authority, you make
a comment that is relevant, she gives you feedback,
and then discover that she is genuinely looking for
a book for herself for enjoyment, and that this is the
reason she came out tonight.

You might GENUINELY VALIDATE her with
something like this:

“Oh, you’re actually here for yourself on a Friday night?
You’re definitely not the kind of person that conforms
and just follows the crowd. You’re independent minded
and think for yourself.”

Here’s the other thing too:
Once you detect that a woman has something positive
you respect about her, well THEN it’s okay to ask
a question, such as “How did you get to know so
much about xyz topic?”

She will very likely ENJOY telling you the answer.

NUMBER SIX:
IT’S STILL ALL SEXUAL

This is one of those things that’s all INTERNAL.
You don’t SAY sexual things to her in a place that
is not a nightclub designed for making out and
dancing, but you SHOULD be in a sexual state.

This means that in your mind, you are not
ASHAMED of the fact you are approaching
her because you find her ATTRACTIVE.

It ALSO means, that in a subtle way, through
your demeanor and expression and tonality,
that you are suggesting that all this small talk
is your way of showing RESPECT.

This is a very important distinction.

You see, it should be that you COULD go right
up to her and be DIRECT and say, “Hi, I wanted
to get to learn more about you since I found you
attractive and would like to know if we could
get along and if we share core values” but the
reason you don’t do this is not because YOU
don’t have the guts to be direct, it’s because
you know that this is simply too direct for our
culture.

But, at YOUR emotional CORE, YOU should
be feeling this matter-of-fact-direct about the
whole interaction.

YOU realize that this more elaborate way of
approaching a woman that I am describing is
the way to SUCCESSFULLY do it, however
you also know that I am telling you that
DEEP DOWN, a woman DOES know what
is going on, she just APPRECIATES the
fact that you are RESPECTING THE DAMN
PROCESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YES, THE TRUTH IS A WOMAN INDEED
WOULD LIKE TO SKIP RIGHT TO THE FUN
STUFF!!!!

HOWEVER, SHE ALSO FEELS THIS IS
WAYYYYYYYY TOO RISKY AND THAT
THE MORE ELABORATE PROCESS IS
SAFER.

Okay, that is the culture we live in, alright?

So let’s show some respect for the PROCESS.

Because ultimately, if you do want her to enjoy
screaming your name in delight in bed, then you
will respect the process that WORKS to get that
result.

At the same time, your EMOTIONAL state is
still sexual, you are NOT just trying to have
a conversation, in your mind indeed IS the
fact that she IS a woman and you are a man.

This conversation stuff is just you showing
respect for the PROCESS. But underneath
it all is the sexual animal.

This mindset DOES affect your expressions,
your tonality, and your behavior in all the
right ways, and a woman WILL register them
ALL as well subconsciously, and these are all
GOOD things for increasing her attraction.

NUMBER SEVEN:
SPRINKLE IN SOME CONFIDENT PLAYFULNESS

At any point in this interaction, feel free to
sprinkle in some PLAYFULNESS.

I said SPRINKLE, not DROWN.

So, for example, even at a meaningful moment such
as you and her speaking about caring about a fellow
human being, you could still playfully say..

“Of course, charity begins at home, so I always make
sure to get myself something fun too..”

And this could even lead to a bit more playfulness:

'If you’re a good girl, you might even get my number.'

SPRINKLE with confident playfulness, and she feels you
are a fun, confident guy.

DROWN with confident playfulness, and she figures you
are immature or arrogant.

A man with real confidence does not need to constantly
suggest he is desirable.

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