Secrets To "Picking Up" Women

If you're sick and tired of being CONFUSED
as to what the hell to DO to succeed at pick-up,
then you are in for a TREAT.

So let's get straight to it:

1. BE SUBDUED, IT AIN'T A SPRINT

The single greatest mistake that beginners make
is that they view a pick-up as a SPRINT.

What guys tend to do is work themselves into
a FRENZY in order to get the adrenaline to get
themselves to go up to the girl.

That feeling of seeing a girl and being FROZEN,
it's hard to get out the gates, it's as if it takes the
booster rockets of the space shuttle to launch out.

Then, after all that pressure they exert on themselves,
the tendency is to finally BLURT out something,
whether it's natural or something "canned"
(something memorized). They pray for a good
response, hoping that they have done their
own part of the pick-up, and that maybe
the woman will now carry the rest of
the interaction.

Well, what happens is that this frenetic
approach not only does not look cool,
(because it looks like the guy is not
comfortable with women) but it actually
makes the GIRL nervous as well, since
emotional states are CATCHY.

There's a LOT to know, but the FIRST thing
a woman is judging you on, INSTINCTIVELY,
is your DEMEANOR, the way you seem composed
and calm and cool and collect or the lack of
all this.

And even on THIS point, there are subtleties,
because you COULD enter into a conversation
with higher energy as well, IF the environment
is appropriate for that, like a club, and IF
you are having the high energy from your
own upbeat state as opposed to from being
jittery and nervous.

2. DON'T "EXIT STAGE LEFT"
Then, on top of all this, the guy is looking for
any excuse he can to EXIT the situation because
he feels like a MORON or a CRIMINAL or
UNWORTHY.

He doesn't want to be made fun of, so if the
woman is not doing CARTWHEELS, he
immediately JETS off.

Don't do this.

Sometimes, the woman is only matching
instinctively to the very states you exuded
onto her - i.e. frenzy, nerves, discomfort.

So, if you're not getting the best response,
and you feel NERVOUS, then rather than
EJECT, instead, SLOW DOWN your entire
system, your movements, your thoughts,
your breathing, etc. It WILL help you
calm down and help her calm down as
well.

This will also help you become more resourceful
in terms of being able to be more fun, witty,
secure, etc.

Slow it all d-o-w-n.

3. YOU HAVE TO BE FULLY PRESENT

The problem is that too many guys want to
have to not actually GET "DIRTY" by
getting DEEP INTO THE HEART OF
AN INTERACTION. They would prefer
to just do the whole thing by "remote control",
in the sense of doing this one magic thing
or saying something that then allows
the guy to coast and watch the woman
jump into his arms.

They want to avoid any emotional risk,
(even though most women are NOT
mean, so there really is not a problem
of some kind of bitter rejection or
anything) almost as if they are not really there,
instead some mask is there in the form
of a memorized line, or in the form of
some hyped "one magic move" that appeals
to the lazy tendency of human beings.

But to get good at this stuff, you have to
get into it, you have to be actually listening
and responding, and giving back good energies
to her energies, and not getting frazzled just
because it doesn't always start with a blast.

This takes practice, but it also develops
SPONTANEITY, it develops quick wit,
it develops your ability to respond with
natural stuff very quickly rather than
feeling stuck or at a loss for words. It
enables you to also get a better feel
for what she is EMOTIONALLY
SAYING and not just verbally
saying. All this stuff is HUGELY
important.

4. EYE CONTACT
Do I have to even say this?
Five years of teaching guys in person tells me
YES, I should still mention this.

I've seen guys memorize HOURS of canned
material but fail to actually make solid eye contact
for even 30 seconds, which is far more important.

This doesn't mean non-stop never-breaking eye contact.
It means that you are comfortable looking right into
her eyes. When you need to constantly be darting
around your eyes away from her, it makes her
feel you are either a sketchy character or lacking
self-esteem.

5. TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE SITUATION

Every situation is slightly different, and this is
where GAUGING the situation comes in, a topic I
go into further detail in my advanced materials.

So, for example, doing pick-up at a nightclub
where girls are with their girlfriends means
that the girls are most likely slightly tipsy
from a few drinks, concerned about how
they will appear in front of their friends,
and also concerned with making sure
their friends are having a good time,
and also they are all slightly on guard
against guys even though they do want
to meet guys or they probably wouldn't
be there in the first place.

So, taking this into account means:

You can be MORE playful and sexual because
this is not the workplace or the library. This
is the party zone.

You can make more light physical contact.

You need to not ignore her friends when starting
the conversation with them. You need to understand
that if one of the girls who is her friend is not all
that stereotypically hot, that friend probably
feels BAD that her friend gets all the attention.

So it's cool of you to show that friend some
respect, such as by giving that friend a compliment,
even though you also have to make sure that you
are not trying to lead her on either.

The conversation should start with anything
not too serious, such as who would win in
a fight, Mighty Mouse or Wonder Woman,
whereas in a library you could start a convo
with something that is a lot more intriguing,
such as if you bump into her in the ancient
history section, you could ask her if she
has ever been to Egypt to see the pyramids,
and then get into that if that is a topic you
really know about and are interested in, etc.

There are TONS of other factors to take into
account - is this woman in university? Is
she in her 30s? 40s? 50's, etc? Is she
a party girl? Gauging for all this properly
falls under the topic of social intelligence,
which is another important topic.

6. COMPLIMENTS HAVE TO COME
FROM A PLACE OF GIVING
Too many guys go into these pick-ups after
hearing how to be all alpha and how to be the
boss, in a very confrontational way.

There is this feeling of it's "me against her",
and she has to see who's the boss.

This is LUDICROUS.
You want to be making her feel GOOD.

The reason that most compliments don't work
is that the guy seems to have nothing ELSE
fun, interesting, upbeat, or playful to say.

So a compliment can't be a substitute for
not demonstrating the best aspects of
PERSONALITY.

Also, regarding compliments, if a woman is
showing repeated INTEREST in you, then
of course you should make her feel good
about that.

However:

7. DON'T ACT AS IF IT'S SUCH A BIG
SURPRISE WHEN SHE LIKES YOU

Too many guys have a MELTDOWN
occur when the woman is showing
INTEREST or even just giving good
signals like giggling at your jokes, etc.

The guy becomes TOO AFFECTED by
the fact she is interested.

Now, it's not that you are supposed to
WITHHOLD good emotions from her,
and it's not that you are supposed to 
act cold, it's that if you seem to be
SMILING so intensely in response to
a woman you HARDLY KNOW just 
because she seems to like you, it's 
like acting SURPRISED  that you 
got the job after being interviewed.

If you were interviewing someone for
for a job, and you liked them for the job,
and you then hired them, and suddenly
they seemed to be MELTING DOWN
in thanks, in being ecstatic, you might
wonder if maybe this person had never
been accepted for a job before and you
might start to wonder if maybe you
made a mistake.

Again, LOVE IS A GOOD THING, it's just
that you should wait till she has SHOWN YOU
A REASON TO BE SO ECSTATIC.

So far, all she has done is shown
interest in you, you don't even
KNOW her that well yet.

So, again, by being more SUBDUED,
you are actually showing greater
MATURITY, and showing greater
value on your part as well than if
you were too impacted by the whole
thing.

This is part of where the whole
"be cool" thing came from, and
this idea of being cool has been
totally warped by most people.

8. FORGET THE INSULTS

Man-oh-man, every since day ONE I
was against the use of these "clever
subtle insults" such as, "Is that really
your hair or a wig?" or "What kind
of coat is THAT?" or any type of
rude behavior.

There are so many friggin reasons I was
against this that I can write a whole book
on that alone.

The bottom line is they IMPEDE your progress.
Sure, it might get you some immediate ATTENTION.

But, they send the wrong message to YOUR
mind about women, and they set up the
vibe between the woman and you in
a way that lacks trust, which means
the whole thing is a ticking time bomb.
Sometimes an IMMEDIATE explosion
occurs.

All that stuff comes from lacking the right
understanding of what triggers attraction
in the first place. If you need to use that stuff,
you are only showing what WEAK "game"
you have. I said this years ago even when
it was popular among "experts" to use these
insults. That's me, the rebel who preaches
love and not hate.

9. MINIMIZE CANNED MATERIAL

Man, this is a huge one. I believe that memorized
material should ONLY be used when you are
absolutely STUCK and frozen and have no
clue what to say. The more you rely on it
as a crutch, the weaker your real skills will be.

So yes, I will have a guy memorize some stuff,
but it's his EMERGENCY CHUTE that is
only to be used in an URGENT pick-up crisis,
and ONLY to be used SPARINGLY!

The need for canned material comes from
lacking internal development. From the
wrong thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives
of women and of attraction and emotion
itself, and of your own identity. In my
live programs, this is the FIRST area
I work through with a guy. I find out
what he currently believes and thinks,
and I find out exactly where he is going
off track and then I put on the RIGHT
track.

Again, I said this way back, even years ago
before it became universally accepted as the
truth, which it now is proven to be- the truth.

The typical mistake that a rookie does, it he
learns memorized material, and then starts to
RAPID FIRE all the things he has memorized to say.

Why does he do this?

He does this because he is relying on the words,
and not on his actual skill to enter the specific
combination of states of mind that he needs,
and he is also ignoring the larger context of
the situation, meaning he is not LISTENING
to the woman!
He is too busy trying to get his words out-
and because this all comes out WEIRD to
the woman, she does not give him a
FAVORABLE response-- which makes the
guy feel like he is SINKING, so he
then OF COURSE begins to spurt out
his NEXT memorized line, hoping to
Dear God that maybe THIS will get
a better response, which of course
it doesn't because his entire FRAME
of how attraction works is all wrong.

And of course since all his memorized stuff
isn't working, he then commits two cardinal
pick-up sins by ALSO speaking too fast
since he is nervous, so he now sounds like
a guy literally reading a script, and reading
it FAST. Like a desperate salesman trying
to get something to stick.

At that point, he's totally not listening to her
at all, when listening is what he really needs
to do to get his finger on the pulse of the
moment. He's just ready to fire away
with another memorized line.

And it's not his fault!!!
He has been INSTRUCTED to do this!

10. IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING "DIRECT" EITHER

And by the way, just because memorizing
a script is not the way to attraction, does
NOT mean that the answer is to just
go right up to a woman and say "I like you!".

When you go up to a woman and you go
that fast and that direct, you are FORCING
a woman to make a decision about you on
the SPOT, without having ANY time to
really "feel" your personality, so in that
case you are forcing her to judge you on
superficial things, since that is all she
knows about you.

It's worse actually, she DOES know that
apparently YOU don't need to know much
about HER, and that says a LOT about
you and your personality and your
values and your priorities in life and
your lack of internal development.

So forget that "direct" stuff as well, it's
actually not cool.

You have to instead develop the skills to
create awesome emotions in yourself
and in her, AND you have to learn how to
create that all-important CONNECTION.

And that's where I come in.

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The "Graphic Equalizer" Method Of Attracting Women

Today is an EXTREMELY important
lesson, possibly the BIGGEST ONE
EVER, when it comes to creating
attraction.

If I were to ask you now, which is
truly a more MASCULINE color:
PINK or BLUE???

Which one would you say???

I'm willing to bet that 99% of
guys will say BLUE, of course!!

I mean, doesn't it FEEL more
MASCULINE than PINK?????

I mean, isn't that just so
OBVIOUS, and INSTINCTIVE??

Well, guess what?

The TRUTH is that, in Western
culture, from the 1920s until
the 1940s, pink was considered
appropriate for boys because
being closer to RED, it was
considered the more MASCULINE
color, while blue was associated
with GIRLS because it was considered
the more "delicate and dainty color",
or related to the purity of the
biblical figure of the Virgin Mary.

Things changed in the 1940s, with
pink for girls and blue for boys.

An entire culture and civilization
that now feels that "of course"
blue is masculine, pink is feminine,
etc.

The most powerful force on human
emotion and thought is often the
force of SOCIAL PROOF.

If enough people SAY AND DO something,
then suddenly we actually FEEEEEEL
that this is the RIGHT thing, the
good thing, the DESIRABLE thing.

What is DESIRABLE is NEVER in STONE.
It's MALLEABLE, things can be CHANGED.
What we DESIRE is massively controlled
by our ENVIRONMENT, which WE can control.

This psychological phenomenon happens
ALL THE TIME in your interactions with
women.

But guess what else?
You don't have to have a MILLION people
saying something or doing something to
create this effect.

The same effect can be achieved if
there is even just ONE person doing
it, IF that person is coming across
as an AUTHORITY, and has CONVICTION.

This happens all the time as celebrities
or anyone else that society thinks has
authority or value SAYS or DOES anything.

Styles, values, choices, are created,
others are destroyed, considered
"uncool", etc, etc.

Now, guess what happens when most
guys talk to a woman they like?

They act as their own WORST form of
social proof. They THEMSELVES are
trying to impress HER, they are
coming from a frame that they
themselves have no value, so
what do you think this triggers
in a woman's EMOTIONS?

It triggers NOTHING good.

The guy automatically loses all
authority, for SHE becomes the
authority. 

He has made it clear this is
such, by  his attitude and
by his demeanor.

KABOOM - goodbye to any social
proof for yourself.

You YOURSELF must be the greatest
force of social proof FOR yourself.  

Forget about walking around with
girls on your sleeves showing how
cool you are, because if YOU don't
believe it, you'll never even get
ONE woman to believe it.

PART TWO:
 
But there's an even BIGGER level
to all this:

In our society today, as you can notice,
MESSED UP VALUES are more common than
EVER. The more they are around, the
more PERSUASIVE they seem to be.

This leads to drug abuse, alcohol abuse,
rampant STDs (often given to INNOCENT
people who were lied to buy others),
teenage pregnancies, and horrific
relationships full of mistrust and
lack of respect.

But it's almost IN STYLE now, to be
like that.

See, a lot of guys will only apply
1% of this advice, and try to act
"more confident" with women.

But that is not enough to get a great
woman.  Today, so many women are confused
as well, even some really good women, that
YOU NEED TO LEAD THE WAY in terms of morals
as well.

YOU must become the social proof for
your good values.  And what I mean by
this is that YOU must have total conviction
in them, and not act APOLOGETIC for them,
or as if they are something to HIDE
or be ashamed of today.

Yes, many women are actually SCARED to
be considered UNCOOL to speak out against
all kinds of insanities, whether it's
the kind of feminism that says it's evil
to love a man, or whether it's considered
uncool to be in a long term relationship
rather than shaking your ass at the clubs
or whether it's a joking matter to be
cheating and flirting with every guy
in sight.

The truth is that most women really DO
want a great guy, and a great relationship,
and most men want this as well, but because
our society says this is not COOL, everyone
ends up feeling that the other gender is
hopeless, and they feel they must play
games because the other gender is hopeless.

This "playing games" causes massive
destruction to their own happiness.

As a man, you must speak not only without
APOLOGY to a woman when you approach her,
but also you must have total CONVICTION
in your values as well, from the moment
you meet her till the rest of your life.

You must come across as having
AUTHORITY as well, and I mean
authority in EVERY sense- authority
to be chatting to her, authority for your
values, authority in what you are saying.

PART THREE - AN EXAMPLE OF THIS:

That means no more, "Excuse me, I'd like
to talk to you" to women! Why EXCUSE
yourself? You did nothing wrong!
The "excuse me" thing will get you
DEMOLISHED. 

By the way, be PREPARED for when a
woman does NOT necessarily JUMP ONTO
you and do cartwheels the moment you
say something to her- be prepared for
even something that might seem a bit
harsh, because maybe she is being
defensive against the ocean of men who
ogle her and she has no idea of the
difference between you and them
until you speak MORE to her.

So even if she gives you the equivalent
of "buzz off", stay calm, and GO WITH
THE FLOW. 

If she tells you that she doesn't talk to
men who approach her, then tell her
that THIS IS A GOOD THING that
you respect in her, and that you
appreciate her being so selective,
and that is why you knew she was
the right kind of girl in the first place.

See how this turns it around?

No matter what she says, interpret it as
a MUTUAL compliment, i.e. in this
case above by saying 'this is a good
thing she is so selective and that you
knew she was the right kind of girl',
you are saying she has high standards
and so do you.  
   
By the way, regarding having AUTHORITY
and CONVICTION in everything you say,
this doesn't mean you can't grow and
evolve your perspectives with time,
but you must be your own best form
of 'social proof'. 

Don't try to act "cool" and pretend you
are into certain kinds of music or movies
or entertainment if you're not.

Don't try to name drop the names of all
the local clubs to show how "in the know"
you are about what is so "hip".

Drop the showing off attempts, drop the
fake identity.

PART FOUR:
USING YOUR INTERNAL 'GRAPHIC EQUALIZER'

Being the "real you" is actually one of
the HARDEST things to do when meeting a
new and hot feminine creature!  It's
actually a SKILL to learn to be able
to bring out your REAL best self
instead of the "act", because it's
almost an impulse to want to overcompensate
out of insecurity.

One of the important ways to let the
BEST version of the REAL you show,
is through the various COOL EMOTIONS
that she can detect in your TONE OF VOICE.

When you speak, you reveal a TON of
what you are FEELING, and you can
actually get YOURSELF to feel more
things by ADJUSTING your own
GRAPHIC EQUALIZER OF EMOTIONS.

There are MANY cool emotions, it's not
JUST about being playful or confident,
there is also sexuality, sensuality, intrigue,
excitement, calm serenity, and much more.

Think of these emotions as being present
in different degrees and in different amounts
the same way different SOUNDS are present
in different degrees and different amounts
when you use a GRAPHIC EQUALIZER
on your stereo system.

You can AMPLIFY the SENSUALITY in your
voice, your can bring up the notch on the
sense of CALM or CONVICTION or
AUTHORITY or PLAYFULNESS in your voice.  

If you start to ADJUST your voice and USE
it to full power to EXPRESS these different
awesome emotions, you will notice a
MASSIVE difference from the VERY
FIRST INSTANT you talk to a woman.

You'll see the difference in the way her
eyes light up and her ears perk up. 

The irony of course is that THIS is
all YOU, THE EMOTIONS ARE
COMING FROM YOU, this is the
way to unleash your full power in
a way that is unique to you.

Just like every person has a different
fingerprint, so too every man has a
unique expression through his internal
"graphic equalizer" that makes you
stand out from every other guy.

The problem is that most guys ignore this
and just come across as robotic, monotone,
caveman types who say, "Uhhh, excuse me,
can I talk to you?" and in fact very few
guys even do THAT, to be honest.

Don't forget also, that "neediness"
is actually a sign of having no
belief in your OWN value. 

Liking a woman is fine, but being
NEEDY for her, when you have no idea
of her actual internal value, is
purely a product of lack of self-belief.

Every great man who stands up and has
conviction in his values and is passionate
about them, will have more IMPACT than
a THOUSAND "I'm trying to be Mr. Cool"
guys.

It will show in your voice, your mannerisms,
your words, the topics you choose to chat
about.

And it will seem just as OBVIOUS to her
that YOU are the man she wants as it
is obvious to her that PINK is more
girly than BLUE.
 
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Michael Marks