The JERK Factor (An Absolute MUST)

A long time ago, I used to think the reason
JERKS did well with women was because
women were crazy.

Then, I thought women were hardwired
to be attracted to jerks.

Then, I thought it was just that some of
these guys had everything ELSE going
for them, so that they could get AWAY
with being jerks and still have women
attracted.

Fast forward ten years of REAL WORLD
testing, and I can tell you the TRUTH:

The part of being a JERK that is attractive
actually has nothing to do with being a jerk.
It’s just that good guys tend to THINK that
a lot of behaviors that are attractive must
be “jerky” when they aren’t.

Let me give you some specific examples:

1. DATING ONLINE

Most guys, when creating a profile, will try
to “convince” a woman reading the profile
that they are good guys, who will be fun,
interesting, and who will treat a woman well.

The PROBLEM with all this, is that ninety-nine
percent of the time, women get the SAME kind
of message from ALL guys.

PLUS, when women read the messages and the
profile descriptions, women feel that the vast majority
of all these guys are so focused on trying to impress
the women, that it’s obvious to the women that the
guys probably will accept ANY behavior from
any attractive woman and be grateful for any attention.

All this is NOT flattering.
It just makes a woman feel SORRY/SYMPATHY,
not feel ATTRACTION, because the message
being sent on a primal unconscious level is
“I am not on the same level of value as you.”

The woman can ALREADY predict the future of
what will happen if she gives the SLIGHTEST
indication of interest to the guy:

The guy will write back a huge long email,
and offer to take her somewhere really nice,
and probably give her all kinds of compliments
even though he has no clue who she really is,
but the guy will READ INTO any little thing
about her description and see it through
ROSE-colored glasses, he will fall BIG TIME
for the HALO effect.

The halo effect, in this example, is the tendency
of a man to think that an attractive woman is
more intelligent, more noble, more admirable,
than another woman who is not as attractive.

Yes, the MIND is hardwired this way, and
most guys are SLAVES to their MIND, they
don’t learn to control their MIND, so their
MIND controls THEM. And when it comes
to the area of attraction and women, this
is TOTALLY true.

On the OTHER hand, let’s take the OPPOSITE
example, okay?

Imagine a guy creates a profile, where his first
line is “I’m a total JERK. I always treat myself
first and love myself more than anyone else.
Pretty much, I’m the guy you’re mother warned
you about. The problem is, even though you’ve
been warned, you’ll end up falling in love with
me, then hating me because all I’m good at is
sex. Then, you’ll keep coming back to me
because all I’m good at is sex and I’m horrible
at listening to your problems.

Which leads to more fights and even more intense
mind-blowing make up sex. Oh man, leave me alone
already, I can already feel you harassing me with
love-hate mail. The story of my life…”

Now, I know that a million guys are about to
cut and paste this since that’s the easiest thing
to do, and yup, they will get better results
than they have been getting all their life.

But as everyone copies this, it will wear a
little thin, so the key is to understand the
PRINCIPLE at work here AND create your own.

2. READING BETWEEN THE LINES

What is ACTUALLY happening in the above example
can only be seen through READING BETWEEN THE LINES.

To a guy who is UNAWARE of the reality
of his FULL POTENTIAL AND POWER, and to
a guy who is unaware of the REALITY of
an attractive woman, the above profile
sounds like that of a JERK.

But in REALITY, here's what it’s actually saying:

“Hey there, I’m not like those other needy
desperate guys who are going to ask you
to marry them the first second you reply
to them. I’m quite a catch myself, and
not in a hurry to get chained down to
the WRONG WOMAN, so you can feel
free to NOT be under any PRESSURE
to be with me.

If you decide to be with ME, it will be by 
your CHOICE, not by FORCE, pressure,
guilt, or any other pathetic attempt to 
get you.

I’m also a really FUN and PLAYFUL guy 
as you can tell from my sense of humor.

In addition, I’m not uncomfortable about
sex and about enjoying it in tons of creative
and passionate ways.

Plus, I already have experience with women,
and the truth is, they are so addicted to me,
the only reason they hate me is because they
can’t get ENOUGH of me, and enough
control of me, they wish they could totally
control me because they want me so badly.

PLUS, the fact is, that EVERY GUY you've
ever really loved was the SAME like me,
so you can already FEEL that I am going
to give you the SAME awesome emotions
except even BETTER since I'm even MORE
of all the things that made you WILD about
any man in the past!"

That is what the message is REALLY saying
"between the lines"!

And communication is always more powerful
when done INDIRECTLY rather than SAYING
it directly.

That's why you must learn to communicate
in a way where your message is in between
the lines.

"In between the lines" is INDIRECT.
When you just try to say important things
directly, it doesn't work because EVERYONE
TRIES the same direct thing, so the mind
gets DESENSITIZED to it.

It's too easy, everyone does the direct thing
about saying they are all great catches.

It doesn't make a woman FEEL anything,
other than that the guy might be just
telling a lie to impress her.

Anyone can SAY they are great, right?
It's much better to INFER it indirectly.

So, for example, you don’t SAY to a woman
that you are funny, if you are funny.

Instead, you GET her laughing.

You don’t SAY you are confident, you instead
SHOW it through your ACTIONS and through
your LANGUAGE.

NOTHING jerky going on actually, see?

Tons of OTHER cool and attractive things going
on here, but no “jerkiness”.

Now, guess what? Online dating can be great,
but it is just one route to success, because
as you will see:

3. REAL LIFE GIVES YOU MAXIMUM ATTRACTION POWER

ONLINE DATING is just barely scratching the
SURFACE of what you can do when you are
approaching women in REAL LIFE.

You are not limited to just using a KEYBOARD,
but rather you can access the power of your
FULL HUMAN POTENTIAL since all of your physical
self is actually there.

Your verbal skills, your body language, tonality,
sense of style and fashion, humor, wit, confidence,
all this comes together with GREATER impact
when approaching a woman in PERSON.

This is one of the reasons I LOVE teaching guys
in REAL LIFE how to attract women through
“cold approaches” LIVE, in real time on actual
women whether the women are in coffee shops,
bookstores, lounges, anywhere!

4. “JERK FACTOR” IN DEALING WITH REAL JERKS

So let’s say you are chatting to a woman somewhere,
and some loser/jerk who has nothing better to do
tries to interfere in your chat, because he wants
to try to get this woman now that he sees YOU
doing it, because he didn’t have the guts to do it
before he saw YOU do it.

Most of these types of guys are guys who have
no girlfriends and couldn’t get one if they tried
because they are so negative minded, but they
just can’t stand to see someone ELSE get any
results with women, so THEN they suddenly
get motivated.

Well, a lot of guys would actually GIVE the
JERK way too much credit by even
ACKNOWLEDGING his presence.

So let’s say the jerk comes into your conversation
with the woman and makes a remark to her like:
“Hey, wanna have some REAL fun?”

A lot of guys would be thrown for a loop here.
They would say something to the guy like,
“What?”, or they might say, ‘Who are you?”,
or even, “Who the heck are you?”

The very ACT of RESPONDING at all is
a kind of CONDITIONED response, but
it doesn’t mean the jerk DESERVES that
response.

JUST IGNORE HIM COMPLETELY.

If you TOTALLY cut him out of your reality,
the woman you are with will VERY OFTEN
totally cut him out too, since it’s obvious
he had LESS guts than you, and is an energy
vampire that sucks off of other people.

NOTHING JERKY with totally IGNORING
him, but a lot of guys WOULD give him
SOME attention, because they feel that
they are SUPPOSED to say SOMETHING.

SAYS WHO?
The “nice guy” federation?

And if the jerk KEEPS on trying to chat
to her, or to try to talk to you to distract
you from her or to ruin your vibe with her,
just PULL THE GIRL AWAY with you,
take her by the hand and MOVE.

If the guy REALLY keeps up at it, then
HE is lowering his own value as he is
showing that he CLEARLY sees YOU
as having the ability to get what HE wants.

Meanwhile, he HASN’T got what he wants.
The woman SEES all this, and registers it
DEEP in her unconscious, as this jerk behaving
in a way that is clearly conveying he is of low
intrinsic value and thus UNATTRACTIVE.

And so often, these jerks will have ONE
thing going for them, be it bodybuilding,
or wealth, or high marks in academics, or
some fancy car or prestigious job, or some
kind of connection to someone, WHATEVER.

It doesn’t matter, what matters is that it is always
OBVIOUS that they are relying on that ONE
thing for their sense of ego and confidence.

And then, it ALWAYS COMES UP when
they chat to a woman.

So you will notice the guy trying to wear
an extra tight shirt to show his muscles,
or he will drop into the chat that he is
from some high university, or he will
mention some prestigious club he is
part of, etc.

AWESOME!
This sets him up for total destruction.

All you need to do is prick that BALLOON
of FALSE CONFIDENCE and he will quickly
leave with his tail between his legs.

How do you do this?
By EXAGGERATING whatever the heck
he is using to try to “qualify” himself.

If he’s trying to use his muscular SIZE, then
GUSH at this. Tell him to flex for you. Tell
him you think it’s so unfair that most bodybuilders
work so hard and don’t get paid enough.

By GIVING HIM SO MUCH of what he
WISHES he could get, i.e. VALIDATION,
it FLOODS his circuits and he isn’t sure
what the heck is going on.

It also makes him realize that maybe EVERYONE
is on to him, that he is actually MASSIVELY LACKING
CONFIDENCE if he doesn't have his one magic thing,
in this case, his muscles.

If a guy is using his academic intelligence to
try to show off to the girl, VALIDATE his
sense of academic intelligence, tell him you
SUCKED at school and wished you could be
like him.

Remember, the reason these guys ARE jerks
in the first place, is they still haven’t learned
that it’s their INSECURITY that is screwing
them up!

Provide them a HIT of validation on the
ONE THING they use to prop themselves
up, and they simultaneously get their circuits
FRIED with overload, but they ALSO then
wonder if maybe you’re screwing with them,
and it makes them REALIZE for a sec that
maybe EVERYONE is onto their insecurity.

Of course, the best thing is to just IGNORE
AND LEAVE with the girl, but if you have
to, you do the above.

Is that kind of response to a jerk somehow
jerky itself? Not really. It’s just you
TARGETING the issue DIRECTLY.

What you have read here is a glimpse into
the REAL WORLD of attracting women.

It’s NOT about being a jerk.
It’s about expanding your power in every way,
yet WITHOUT you being unfair to ANYONE.
It’s about learning the truth of how things work.

It’s about gaining insights into women.

And it’s about making your MIND SERVE
YOU, rather than YOU serving your MIND.

Becoming this kind of man is overwhelmingly
seductive to a woman, she can't HELP but
be attracted. It digs too deep into her
carnal sense of you being all MAN, all
'CAVE-MAN survival of the fittest',
all PRIMAL.

Her response to this kind of man is not
LOGICAL. She doesn't THINK about it.
She just FEELS it, and she feels it
DESPERATELY with ferocious intensity.

It's VISCERAL, she will feel a NEED,
not just a "want" to be with you,
but a deeply obsessive NEED.

What you have read here is just a GLIMPSE
into a whole UNIVERSE where you have
INFINITE POWER and CHOICE when it comes
to women.

If you don’t already have my most in-depth
course on MASTERING this level of DEEP
INTERNAL CHANGE that is so deeply
attractive to women, the I seriously suggest
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting Women Through "Cold Approaches"

There is a TON of pure GOLD I want to
share with you today, when it comes
to attracting the woman you want. 

1. THE 'MAGIC COMBO' OF STATES OF MIND

The first is regarding the state of mind
you need to be in for maximum success.

When you are in the RIGHT state, which
is a combination of sexuality, dominance,
playfulness, confidence and security,
and relaxed with pep, what happens is that
a woman feels that YOU are this superior guy,
and it's then A SELF-ESTEEM boost to her
when she THEN sees that YOU have chosen HER
to spend your time with.

SHE feels BETTER about herself because
she FEEEELS that YOU have superior value,
and that YOU have chosen HER, so therefore
SHE must be worth more than she thought
before. She feels BETTER. So the idea is
to be SUPER SECURE and feeling great
YOURSELF, or she cannot possibly feel
better about herself when she finds that
you have chosen to be with her.

This is all subconscious, she does not
go around articulating this to herself
consciously at ALL.

Also, states are catchy, so being in
these states helps HER also enter
these fun, flirty, states of mind.

2. CLEARING UP WHAT IS MEANT BY
'LEARNED FROM THE FIELD'.

The 'field' is the real world where approaching
women happens. It's not a theory, it's reality.

It's where things are proven.

The PROBLEM though is that a lot of the
things written about the "field" are only
coming from certain PARTS of the field, and
certain types of women in those venues.

i.e. promiscuous women who are drunk in a bar

This can cause mass confusion for guys who may
be operating or trying to meet women in completely
different environments, or with guys who are
interested in a very different kind of woman.

On that note, let me share with you some
CRITICAL things that have been learned
IN THE FIELD, things that I have seen
OVER AND OVER again from being out there
not only for myself, but also from doing
hundreds of bootcamps personally:

Number one:

ALWAYS USE MINIMUM GAME

This was a huge thing for me, because I actually
HAD this going for me when I first started out,
but then got caught up in all the guys swearing
about all their "cool routines" and "tactics".
It took a few weeks for me to get back to my
OWN conclusions and get results again.

I used to open up girls with something interesting,
perhaps a tease, perhaps something intriguing,
but INTERESTING always, then would as soon
as possible go to NORMAL mode of just kicking
back and chilling out and developing a connection
and rapport.

Then I started doing all kinds of crazy other stuff
that was "cool and in vogue among pick up artists",
and it got greater IMMEDIATE REACTIONS from
women but then backfired, because it caused them to
feel the whole thing was a bit too MUCH to be natural,
which caused me to have to pull out all the stops on
reestablishing rapport so that the trust was there
again. When I could have just avoided the whole
problem to begin with by using MINIMUM game.

What do I mean by minimum game?
I mean you should use the LEAST effort you need
to get the job done, your face expressions need
to convey emotion, but only the LEAST amount
necessary. The LESS you use, the more CALM
you seem, the more COOL you seem, the less
you seem to be TRYING, the easier it is for her
to not only feel greater trust, but also the more
attracted she can feel since you are obviously
so confident in your value because you are not
trying. Which is how it SHOULD be in the
first place!

If you are chatting up a woman, and your eyebrows
are constantly furrowed, your face always very intent,
it's not good.

Regarding minimum energy, obviously in a
loud club, where the awesome music is playing
and the girls are laughing, etc, it just makes
SENSE that you would be in a good mood
too and in higher e-n-e-r-g-y yourself, so
the face expressions would NATURALLY
be more intense, in fact it you should have
just a bit more pep than the girls have
themselves, so that you are raising the
level of electricity and good times
instead of lowering them and being a
party pooper.

In a bookstore, you would obviously
be more laid back.

However, in BOTH ENVIRONMENTS, your INTERNAL
STATE needs to be tip top, you need to be in
a good state, yet also feeling the
DOMINANCE as well.

Okay, next:

Number two:

START WITH RAPPORT IN "EXCLUSIVE" ENVIRONMENTS

When you are in the more exclusive environments
and venues, it often comes across as TRY HARD
if you don't just open up with something very
low-key, rapport related, etc. The reason is
because it's ASSUMED you already have VALUE
walking in, because it's an exclusive environment.

So you in fact have a free pass for OPENING,
and putting in more "game" simply seems like
you are weird, you are trying hard, etc.

However, this is just for your OPENING.
Everything else is the same.
There's no excuse for weak 'game' or
boring 'game'.

Your delivery, your body language, all count
just as much as always.

And you can still tease too, in fact if you DO
have your inner game down as explained
above, it's a great idea AFTER you have
opened with rapport.

Also, remember that teasing is NOT to come
from an ANGRY or INSECURE place inside, but
from a genuinely PLAYFUL place that is
full of goodwill mixed with confidence.

And all the other emotional stuff like being
intriguing is still a great idea.

So for example, you could open with
a bit of rapport and then attract and
then go into deeper rapport. And of
course this is just an example, in real
life there is always overlap between
attract and rapport/connection. In fact,
many times you will be doing both at
once, because for example your body
language is so good that you are attracting
even as you are chatting rapport stuff.
And that's just one example.

Number three:

ENDURANCE IS CRITICAL

Endurance in every respect is IMPORTANT
when it comes to success in approaching
and attracting women. Clients have
seen just how much I mean this in real
life as they watch me demonstrate. So
many guys will EJECT out of an interaction
just because the woman is not initially
doing CARTWHEELS for them.

If you can't endure a little heat, you can't
expect to really develop any of the various
skills involved in mastering these skills or
in getting long-term attraction.

For example, many times, a woman simply
needs MORE TIME and MORE QUALITY
rapport before she is ready to progress
the interaction to a higher level.

So for example, she might question your
motives, or, she might be comfortable but
not sure if you are THE MAN or not, and
she might test to see how confident you
actually are. Or she might just be testing
to see if you are a fun and playful guy
as opposed to a guy who takes everything
so seriously.

If she is doing any of these things, instead
of wanting to eject, you should WELCOME
the situation, because once you recognize
these things for what they are, you can easily
address them and then progress the interaction
with her.

Another important point about endurance
is that you must not get lazy. Sometimes
a guy will finally develop the attitude of
being indifferent toward the outcome,
but he then uses this to become lazy
and sloppy in his interactions because
he doesn't care what happens.

Just because you are no longer insecure
about getting a woman's approval does mean
you can run a sloppy interaction with a woman
because you are tired or feeling silly.

It doesn't matter if you've had a long day
or if it's your first approach of the day
or your hundredth.

If you are going to do it, then get yourself
together and do it RIGHT. Be a professional.

Think of it like lifting weights:
Even if you are tired, you still have to
watch your FORM or you can do more
damage than good. Don't give in to
the temptation to get sloppy on your
form in your pick-ups either.

Next point!

Number four:

DO YOU WANT IT? THEN DO IT.

This is my basic philosophy regarding
approaches in all supposedly "weird"
situations, and in fact ALL situations.

On a related note, when I say "DO IT",
I mean really COMMIT to it.

Don't just do it weak "namby pamby" style,
you know what I mean?

An example of  namby-pamby style, is when
you see a woman, or a group of women that
you'd like to approach, and due to fear, you
end up speaking too QUIETLY, or you
don't REALLY give the eye contact, you
just give them eye contact for a sec and
then you look away to give yourself an
exit strategy.

I say SCREW the exit strategy, and instead
actually DO IT, and COMMIT to your
decision to SPEAK to her or to the group
of women.

You can't do it HALF way, or the women
will likely NOT notice you or they will
IGNORE you, because attractive women
HAVE to have strategies to deal with the
endless guys who ogle them.

If you want to succeed then you have to
follow what I say and not just do it
namby-pamby, but do it for REAL.

There's really no excuse NOT to approach.

It costs you NOTHING.

It takes very little TIME, unless it's going
WELL, in which case that' exactly what you
WANT.

It's FUN.  Seriously, this stuff is FUN.
It wouldn't be fun if there was no drama
or excitement. I think this is just one
of the reasons I prefer real life rather
than online, because it's actually FUN.

Even if let's say your approach requires
you to do something "weird" like going
into a store where only women go, like
a makeup store, who cares? Although
it is true that these environments require
that you calibrate your approach for
the environment, i.e. "you are there
waiting for someone (not girlfriend)
to get something", it's not as strange
to the women as you might think.

Moreover, if you are doing a proper approach,
they won't care much, because you will have
them emotionally compelled and the logical
stuff of what the heck you are doing there
will be irrelevant.

They are still women who still want to meet men.
The location is not as big a deal as most men
THINK it is.

And it costs you NOTHING.

It's just that you THINK "oh my gosh
my big fat ego might not be able to
take it if it doesn't go well" or "what
will they DO to me if I get "caught"
trying to pick them up"? And this
is the funniest thing of all if you
think about it, because you are
falling for what women have
CREATED as an illusion:
The idea that they don't want
men to approach them.

By creating this illusion, women are
able to "raise the cost" of being with
them. After all, if they don't want
men and sex, etc., and you DO want
it, then THEY are in the driver's seat.
I don't blame women for creating this
illusion, because it was a way women
were able to survive in an old society
where women had little power, but
today it's RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!!

And yet STILL men are falling for it!!!!

Women aren't forcing any man to follow it,
but most men think that somehow women
are the ones in the superior position,
even though women tend to be culturally
pressured to be more passive about
meeting men, when men can in reality be
active and choose which women they speak to.

Women want to be approached by guys, but
it has to be by guys who understand all
this stuff and don't use it to make
women feel bad, but use it to make
women feel good.

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