INNER GAME is another word for your
internal strength of emotional state
and your ability to enter the right
states of mind at the right moment.
The truth is that inner game is the most
important part of your development, and
it's the secret that enables you to do incredible
at not only pick-up without using memorized
pick up lines, but it also helps you at every
stage of an interaction including even
relationships.
The best part of all this is that it's not
a game. It's the real you.
Women will respect this development and
be attracted to you because they simply
can't NOT be attracted to it. It's too
rare, too precious, too liberating and
empowering even just to WITNESS
somebody like this, for anyone to
be able to IGNORE it.
The irony of course though is that you
can't really do this just to get a woman,
as that in itself is kind of weak.
The FIRST thing to become aware of is
all the TRASH in your mind that is holding
you back from being as powerful as you can be.
99% of this trash is all FEAR based.
And the craziest part of all, is that 99% of these
fears are ABSURD.
We've just become so damn good at brainwashing
ourselves that these fears are IMPORTANT.
For example, when you see a woman you'd like
to talk to, and you don't approach her, it's not
because you are going to go to jail if you talk
to her.
And you don't avoid her because you think she
will attack you, or hurt you.
The biggest reason for avoidance is to avoid
having our EGO damaged.
We don't want to RISK damaging something
that doesn't even EXIST.
Our ego is our own ARTIFICIAL CREATION.
We create it, and we arbitrarily decide what's
good for it, and what's bad for it. As if we
KNOW what's good for us.
But the truth is, the BEST thing you can do
is banish that ego, because all it does is set
up limiting options for your life, because
you won't do anything that might damage
that ego. And that means you won't ever
GROW as a person, and worst of all, you
will never be free of fear.
Because you will always be living with the
fear of "what if something comes along that
might damage might ego?""
But if you throw your ego out, then you
can EMBRACE whatever the hell you need
to do to grow and learn.
This is why it's actually good to NOT get
fantastic success with women right away,
because if you never "fail", then you will
be TERRIFIED of it happening, as you
have no clue what it might be like, and
your imagination will make it far worse
than it is.
Life is nothing but a bunch of short moments.
None of these moments is something to be
afraid of, but we arbitrarily decide to create
FEARS based on our own artificial GROUPING
of moments. So for example, seeing a beautiful
woman is not a thing to fear.
It's actually pretty cool, right?
Okay, now, walking UP to a woman is also
nothing to fear, you do this all the time
without even THINKING about it, let's
say if she happens to be on the bus or
train or whatever and you are walking
past her. Or if you are in a crowd,
and you don't even notice her there.
So, clearly walking near or up to a
woman is nothing to fear.
Now, TALKING to woman who is beautiful
is nothing to fear either. We do it all the time
and think nothing of it if it's not about doing
an actual "pick-up".
It all only becomes a problem or FEAR
when we attach EGO to it. So we decide
to make it a fear when we want to get her
APPROVAL of our own worth.
We think, "Damn, if only she would LIKE
me, then things would be AWESOME!"
Then I would feel GREAT!
Now, this actually isn't true though, it's
actually YOU allowing YOURSELF to
feel that way, but you are only giving
yourself permission to feel this if SHE
says you are great, or desirable, etc.
Do you see how we are the ones making
the problem? We are the ones creating
the pain?
And the truth is, how do you explain the
stars in Hollywood who have all the
most beautiful women, and yet who are
all depressed and end up in rehab or
worse, committing suicide or destroying
themselves in other ways?
Do you think these people are somehow
DIFFERENT? They are the same like
anyone else, and the truth is that no THING
brings any emotion to anyone unless we
ALLOW it. As soon as you get the thing
you thing will bring you happiness, the
moment lasts for a brief moment, and then
it's GONE, and you start to feel a LACK
again--unless you start looking at the
JOURNEYS OF LIFE as the actual
joy and not the destination.
Sure, enjoy the destination when you are there,
but realize it's the journey that's the bigger
deal. This is why the coolest people constantly
challenge themselves with new cool things.
But we ALLOW this thing called EGO to
TAKE OVER and all it does is try to CONTROL
everything so that it doesn't get hurt- and yet
THIS is what causes us all the pain. So
it avoids challenges and avoids any potential
ego risk.
And yet here's the thing- if you can just
FORGET about what you can GET from
a woman, including even just her approval,
and you instead just live in the MOMENT,
and stop focusing on the past pain, and
stop thinking about how GOOD things
would be in the FUTURE if you "just had her",
you would do SOOOOOO much better
in the actual pick up with her!
The reason for this, is because your mind
and emotions are INFINITELY powerful
when they are not being driven in opposite
directions.
Your mind is the most UPDATED model of
a SUPER POWERFUL tool that has helped
your ancestors come up with all kinds of
brilliant ways to triumph against challenges
like hunger, horrible weather, traveling
across wild oceans, surviving life amongst
dangerous beasts and animals, surviving
against enemies, a mind that has been
resourceful enough to come up with
creative ways to also win friends and
allies and to attract a female mate to
continue your genes from generation
generation.
The thing is, this mind that is more
sophisticated than the greatest computer
gets all JAMMED and screwed up when
it's being given OPPOSITE messages-
i.e. GET THAT GIRL, vs. DON'T
GET YOUR EGO HURT!
It's like having your foot on the brake
and the accelerator at the same time.
So how do you get rid of all these ego-based
FEARS?
Well, one powerful thing you can do is to
learn to STOP thinking about anything other
than the MOMENT.
This doesn't mean to start acting like an
impulsive idiot, what it means is to start
focusing on the PRESENT and to stop
doing things out of the PAIN of the PAST,
and to stop doing things for some type
of FUTURE "NIRVANA".
The truth is that the past doesn't exist,
the future doesn't exist, they are only
in your MIND, and also NO "THING" will
bring you some type of 'NIRVANA',
however the JOURNEY is what is the
JOY in things. So learning to enjoy
the PROCESS is what will make
your entire LIFE meaningful and
rewarding.
So when you see a woman you like,
let THAT in itself be the motivation
to just TALK to her, stop thinking
what it will LEAD to, because that
is the FUTURE, and thinking about
things other than the present will only
DETRACT from your ability to DEAL
with the present.
And the whole POINT of this training
of your mind, is to realize anyway that
there is no such thing as the past or future,
and that the joy is in the MOMENT.
Of course, by being in the PRESENT,
you will chat with her in a way that
SHOWS you are in the PRESENT,
You will, for example, take note of the
MOMENT, and make a comment that is
IN THE PRESENT. She, in turn, will
respond by being in the moment-
for example, if you are both at the
supermarket counter line-up, and it's
taking forever for the person at the
front to find his wallet, cash, or
coupon, etc, and you say "I'm so
hungry, I think I'll eat this loaf
of bread right here and pay for
it when I get up to the front"
the woman will SENSE that you
are in the present and it will disarm
her.
She will not feel the need to resist you,
because there is nothing TO resist, you
are simply being in the PRESENT, which
is exactly where you ALL are.
And, more importantly, because you are
not worried about the past or future, your
DELIVERY of these words will show
in your voice, your body language, your
expression on your face a certain type of
strength, a certain type of humor that also
shows you are secure and that you are
not so fragile that you need to be so
serious about everything, that it will
CHARM her.
This is just a TINY SPECK of the
MASSIVE POWER that exists by tapping
into the skill of being in the PRESENT.
And let me ask you something:
Even if this DOESN'T lead to always getting
her in BED with you, you know for SURE
that this INCREASES YOUR CHANCES
ABOUT A BILLION TIMES MORE
with women in general by adopting this
attitude than by being focused on anything
EXCEPT the present.
If you start thinking too much about the future
and past, you will come up with a BILLION
reasons NOT to take action, your ego will
start interfering with things, and you will
also sound WAY WORSE when you do
finally decide to take action, because you
will be emotionally coming from a place
of confusion and that weakness will be
conveyed in your every subtlety, from
your voice, to your mannerisms, to your
smile or lack of it.
When you can finally let GO of your
EGO and let go of anything but the
PRESENT, you will start to see a
friggen whole other UNIVERSE
open up for you, and you are going
to have more women, of higher quality
as well, than you will possibly have time
for. I mean this, every word, it's not
an exaggeration.
Your ego is like a EMOTIONAL POLLUTION
MAGNET for your mind - it stores all kinds
of emotional TRASH that does NOTHING
for you. It's a tricky sucker, because it
makes you think it's protecting you,
it makes you think it IS you, it makes
you think that you are your current
emotions or thoughts even if they are
totally destructive and negative and
weak.
And it makes you think that the REWARD
is in the destination, rather than in the
PROCESS and in the ATTITUDE.
Here's a great exercise for you:
Next time you see a woman you'd like
to chat to, see how much INSPIRATION
YOU CAN PACK INTO THE MOMENTS
YOU SPEND TALKING TO HER.
I PROMISE YOU, that there is magnificence
in every single thing that you currently think
is MUNDANE or BORING.
I don't care if you are in the line at the
supermarket, or if you are on the bus
and she is reading the newspaper,
there is something AWESOME
or FUNNY or INSPIRING or
BEAUTIFUL in it.
Don't let the brainwashed world turn YOU
into a brainwashed person who is zombie
with his most empowering and awesome
emotions turned off.
The trick is to be in the PRESENT.
The reason you find it hard to "come up"
with cool stuff to say is because you are
trying to be PERFECT, because you don't
want to fail. Trust me, I understand this,
I'm human and once in a rare while, this
happens to me too, even after training
for years. But if it happens, it's only
because I've let myself get wrapped
up in something other than the MOMENT.
So the trick is to work into your life
a way of BREAKING this habit.
For years, I used to every morning and
every night go out and pour cold water
buckets over me, and it TOTALLY got
me out of "thinking" state and into
BEING IN THE MOMENT!!!!!
The name of that moment is
"WHOAHHHHHHHHHHHH!"
You may want to try this, after consulting
with your doctor, or you can come up with
something equally state-changing.
One final message I want to say is that
PERSPECTIVE is your greatest friend.
So often, the greatest PAIN we experience
is also the ONLY thing that allows us to
truly LEARN and to GROW.
Think about it- how often did you ONLY
learn a great lesson the HARD WAY?
This is why the guys who get the greatest
success are usually the guys who had the
greatest amount of "failures"- so it starts
to make you realize that actually "failures"
are the only way to learn the MOST.
So is it really failure, if failure is the ONLY
way to great success? It's actually pretty
CRAZY that we live in a society that
calls "not getting what you want" as
"failure" when it REALLY should be
called ONE MASSIVE STEP CLOSER
TO SUCCESS.
Chances are, that if you really suffer
"failure", you are ready to LEARN
from it.
And regarding PERSPECTIVE, I want you
to start letting go of any HATE AND PAIN
that you are storing inside of you regarding
ANY woman who has EVER hurt you.
This was the hardest thing for me to do,
and once I did this, I started to TAKE
OFF.
And guess what, those people who hurt you,
very often are the ones who actually need
the love the most. So of course if you are
being abused by any woman, then you should
get the HELL out of there, but there's no
reason to let this person bring YOU down
by making you have to carry all that negativity
with you for life. And when you realize that
these people who hurt others are the ones
who are hurting the most, it's much easier
to LET GO of those negative emotions.
Again, it's the EGO and it's being in the
PAST or the FUTURE that holds us back.
All these things don't even EXIST, and
they hold us back from the only thing
that DOES exist- the PRESENT.
Till next time...
Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com
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Saturday, November 8, 2008
The Truth About How To Get A Quality Woman
If you wanted to meet a fantastic woman, would you
want to learn from someone who only knew how to
get the half-drunk women at the night clubs?
If you wanted to meet the kind of woman that you could
TRUST WITH YOUR LIFE, if you wanted to meet a woman
with total integrity, a woman who would never think of being
with you as something TRIVIAL, would you want to learn
from a guy who focused on how to "SCORE" to get
QUANTITY of just ANY girls???????
Would you trust your FUTURE with someonewho one day
is all about selling "getting ALL the girls"and the next day
pretends to be about "getting QUALITY"?
Maybe the next day it will be about selling kitchen sinks
and frisbees and toilet cleaners. This road I have taken
started when I was17 years old, and all I wanted then
was agreat woman for something real.
It took almost TWO DECADES to sift throughall the
TOTAL BULLCRAP out there, ESPECIALLY from the
guys who call themselves dating gurus and pick up artists.
This meeting a great woman thing is not a joke to me.
I know that there are some people who really don't
want to meet a great woman, they'd rather just
have emotionally low level relationships, i.e.
"friends with benefits" or even less than that,
and that's fine, in fact there are hundreds of
guys out there who seem to be focused on
teaching guys how to get that.
Whether their stuff works or not to get the one night
stand with the promiscuous girl is really not my concern,
because it's not my goal.
My mission is to help that guy who wants to get a
GREAT girl for a fantastic relationship. That's what
I know, that's what I care about.
That's what I do.
And one of the most MASSIVE lessons I learned was that
I was being told ABSOLUTE LIES by the supposed
dating gurus and pick up artists.
Yes, LIES. Not just "half-truths" but absolute lies that will
DESTROY your success with a woman if you are looking
for something REAL.
It will destroy your future even if you only use that advice
in the BEGINNING, as an ICE-BREAKER, because it sets
things upon the WRONG TRACK, the wrong angle, and as
every day goes by with that woman, the trust she has in
you erodes further and further, and you keep getting
FARTHER and FARTHER from her, till it's HOPELESS
and lost FOREVER.
The truth is the most powerful thing on earth.
And the distortion of truth is what blocks you from progress.
So let me share with you SEVEN LIES the pick-up artists
and wannabe "dating gurus" tell you, and what the TRUTH
is on that topic.
LIE NUMBER 1:
"IF A WOMAN SEES YOU AS RELATIONSHIP OR
MARRIAGE MATERIAL, THEN YOU WILL BE
CONSIDERED A PROVIDER, A BETA MALE, AN
"INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" THAT IS ONLY
GOOD FOR PROVIDING MONEY FOR HER.
Much better to be seen as the male who would NEVER
settle down, who is "hard to get",who is a slick and a
COCKY "player" type-THAT is what triggers
ATTRACTION."
And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE. A lie that has
DESTROYED the future that millions of men could
have had with thewomen they have met so far.
The truth is that you will only be considereda "BETA"
male if you SEE YOURSELF AS A "BETA" MALE.
And the irony is that by following the pick up artist
advice that teaches you to learn to MASK your real
identity with a series of wierd tactics, pick-up lines,
cocky and arrogant personas, and all kinds of other
masks, it actually makes you feel that YOU yourself
are not good enough to meet and attract a woman.
It ERODES self-confidence because it forces you
to rely on something EXTERNAL. And then,
any positive reaction that a guy gets from a woman,
he then will think it was because of the TACTIC,
and not because of HIMSELF.
This sets him up for feeling massive pressure, including
when he and if he gets into a relationship with her-
he is always going to have to worry if she will catch
him being "weak" in his real identity.
And THIS type of fear is what makes a guy actually
show his fear unconsciously through his body language,
through his overall vibe. This is because it's very hard
to fake your body language, the subtle expressions on
your face, etc.
You'd have to be CIA trained to have even a REMOTE
chance of learning how to fake out your body language,
and it's not even neccessary to torture yourself like that-
when you can instead learn to unleash your NATURAL
charisma, by UNLEARNING all the crap not only from
those supposed "masters" but also all the other
messages you were bombarded with since childhood
that filled you with fear rather than empower you.
Unleashing the most pure and charismatic and
cool essence that is already in you, THIS is what
it's all about. Learning how to do THAT and how
to teach this to other guys is what I have spent
almost two decades on.
And like attracts like, once you learn how to do this,
you find yourself attracting the SAME kind of woman.
If a man has a self-concept of himself where he feels
he is BETA, then a guy will be viewed by woman as
a "BETA", even if he has a huge SIGN on his forehead
that says "WILL NEVER MARRY" or says
"WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".
If YOU think that you are SETTLING for someone, if
YOU think that you are only in a relationship because
you can't get better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc., THEN you are a
beta male.
But when you LOVE someone and they LOVE you back
and you both WANT to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some "dating guru" or
"pick up artist" told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you be a "beta" male.
Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN EXTERNAL source is
what makes one WEAK and BETA. And THAT is what
makes a woman feel REPULSED from a man and feel ZERO
attraction for him and not want to spend the NIGHT or even
one MINUTE with him, never mind her LIFE.
The irony again is that it's the pick up artist advice that
makes you weak and THAT is the kind of thing that attracts
the very WORST kind of women, who will like to TAKE
ADVANTAGE of that weakness and see what they can
take out of you.
And then we wonder why the pick up artists tell men to
"WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!" and "Watch out
for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"
Their advice creates weakness, which attracts the vulture type
women rather than the VIRTUOUS ones. A great woman will
simply leave you alone and not be interested, but a horrific
woman will GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick up
artist advice actually makes men WEAK.
What I mean is that having to learn pick-up lines, it makes
you think that the "magic" is in the pick-up line, and not in
YOU.
So it prevents you from learning that YOU can have the
power, not the LINE. If you just learn how to develop
your internal SELF for REAL.
THIS is what I am about, this is what I teach.
Your state of mind is what gives your voice and mannerisms
all the attributes that show you are a cool, fun, charismatic
guy.
Sure, if you ALSO have the literary skills of Shakespeare,
that will make you even more powerful, in COMBO with
all the right states of mind, but even the GREATEST LINE
ever is CRAPOLA if delivered with weak delivery.
And the very fact the guy is being trained to rely on lines
prevents him from reaching his potential and believing in
HIMSELF.
The other way it makes men weak is the general attitude
prevalent among the pick up artist community which is
that ALLLLLLLLLLLLL women are the same if they are
attractive, and that ALLLLLLLLLLL men unless they are
models have no hope of getting chicks unless they learn the
"pick up artist tactics" etc etc.
And whenever a guy who is a "natural" gets results, the
pick up artist guys have to keep on telling their clients
that the natural guy doesn't get CLOSE to the same results
as mr. pick up artist.
As if the real life James Bond types don't come close to
the guy who memorized a cheesy pick up line.
And of course, the only kind of women they DO get
with this stuff is the party girls, and the "dating guru"
and pick up experts know this, so they tell the guys
that party girls are the REAL prize girls, because they
have no "issues" they just like to have sex, they are
sooo much better than those "normal" girls with
"issues" that make them not want to sleep with
every guy on earth, those "normal" girls are
sooooooo "repressed" etc etc.
Finally, their advice makes guys weak because their
advice is never congruent. One day they are talking
about Eckhart Tolle and other fantastic people
who teach about inner development and inner
beauty (these pick up artists do this to mask the
fact that really they are NOT about this type of
thing at all) and the NEXT day they post how really
it's all about having the Hugh Hefner Playboy lifestyle.
(since this is what will really grab instant attention)
Confusion is weakness, as are inconsistency and
incongruency.
And when a woman senses incongruency in a man,
it's the number one way for her to know that something
is sketchy and shady and not right.
Hence, the destruction of trust, which destroys the
potential for any significant future connection or
relationship.
You have to know what you want and then make sure
that all your channels of personal power, from your
thoughts to your actions to your goals all MATCH UP.
That's the way to get a great woman as fast as possible
and keep things working well for as long as you want.
LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN, YOU HAVE TO
MAKE SURE TO LEARN X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"
This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must first respect
YOURSELF.
Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath your dignity,
and you will get RESPECT froma woman.
The IRONY, again, is that the things the pick up artists tell
you to do actually strip you of your dignity because THEY
worship women simply for a woman's looks- the OBSESSION
with havingto get QUANTITY rather than quality.
And it truly is an obsession, almost a cult.
They make you feel that if you want a relationship, then
you are somehow not being a "real" man. You are
a "provider" type, a "sissy" compared to being a
ROCKSTAR. Which is ironic again, because most
rock stars get married! Tommy Lee, Kid Rock,
Gene Simmons, and the list goes on and on.
As if having any type of emotional bond with a woman
was NOT natural. In fact, they create a truly "un-natural"
environment by FORCING men to ANNIHILATE their
emotions. Look, if a woman is not reciprocating at all,
then she is NOT the right woman, end of story.
Not all women are the same.
And if a guy only wants to be with a supermodel,
and he is not willing to work on his own looks at
all, and will only eat big macs and learn pick up
lines and expect a supermodel to slobber all over
him because he learned to negate her self-esteem,
he is going to find out that it doesn't WORK.
Anyway, the obsession with having to FAKE YOUR
IDENTITYwith all kinds of absurd tactics actually
makes you ASHAMED of who you are.
Rather, the key is LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE
IN WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Women want a man who has DIGNITY and will not SELL
his dignity for ANYTHING.
LIE NUMBER 3:
"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO THE "FRIENDS' ZONE",
YOU BETTER MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!
The reality is that this is NONSENSE. A great woman is not
NEEDY to get into bed with anyone, no matter WHO you are.
And if she DETECTS that you are trying to get her into bed
QUICK, she will only feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.
Now, of course, if you are with a woman who sleeps around with
tons of guys, it might beanother issue.
I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.
I don't even like the term "pick up" anymore, as
you pick up the trash.
Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pickup artists
NEVER give you a serious talk about things like STD's.
NO, of course not. It's just like the movies, and it's
NOT REAL LIFE.
But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about this stuff.
The REAL WORLD is not the DISNEY world of NO STDs
that the pick up artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.
They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE. Why would
you want to RUSH sleeping with a woman? There are
BILLIONS of women on this earth.
More than you could ever sleep with.
Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH spending time
with.
The IRONY again is that you can't lose this way, as even if
you WERE the type of guy that didn't care about quality,
you could always get to know a lot of women this way and
not rush, and THEN have a HUNDRED women at your
fingertips if you so wanted.
AND those women would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and not feeling needy to
get them into bed-it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!
LIE NUMBER 4:
"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS FOR LOSERS WHILE
ALL WOMEN SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEING
WITH A COCKY, ARROGANT, HARD-TO-GET TYPE"
This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY UNTRUE,
and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties of the entire
dating guru and pick up CULTURE that I would need
to devote an entire BOOKto explain how HORRIFIC
THIS ADVICE IS, and how totally false it is.
It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not attractive, it's
when you are being EXTRA NICE to a woman who has done
NOTHING to earn that treatment from you.
Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?
Of course you do, and they do for you.
And that's a COOL thing.
Same thing with a woman- if she's good to you, then if you
are NOT good to her, THEN you will be considered an
INSECURE LOSER.
And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about players that
are so scared to really be good to a woman and so scared to
DROP the "masks"they wear in the form of fake memorized
lines, and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to NEGATE
her self-esteem. (notice the word ATTEMPT in capitals,
because it's doesn't work. A great woman will just ignore it or
CHEW the guy up and spit him out for even trying)
LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT HER PROBLEMS EVER--
OR YOU WILL BE SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"
The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her about
her things, stuff that she is going through,you will
DUMPED fast and rightly so for not giving a rat's ass
about her.
The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a woman is
always talking about her problems to you and is not
BALANCING that with also having FUN with you and is
not willing and happy to listen to YOUR stuff too.
The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you should not be a
cry-baby but you DEFINITELYare not considered weak
for having emotions and for expressing them- this kind of
bullshit lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating gurus
probably gives more men heart attacks from stress than
anything else.
If you can't confide at all in the woman you are with, what
the HELL is the point of being with her?
And if a woman feels she can't ever confide in you about
emotional stuff, she will simply GET THAT CONNECTION
from someone ELSE.
And again, THIS is why these "experts" often talk unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken party girls
and THEN they wonder why theyare getting less than CREAM
OF THE CROP inner qualities in the women they meet!
The truth is that the stuff that these guys"teach" you will
PUSH AWAY the RARE and BEST kind of women and will
attract the very WORST type of woman.
LIE NUMBER 6:
"YOU CAN ONLY MEASURE YOUR REAL SKILL
IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK UP A WOMAN IN
A CLUB"
Another massive lie. The reality is that meeting a woman
in a club is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached.
The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a great woman
with high standards who is not drunk and who is not
looking to just play around, who is looking for something
meaningful, and CONNECT with such a woman on a DEEP
level, and then to easily and naturally KEEP THIS UP so
that three weeks later she is just as into you and three
months later as well, etc.
So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if you want to,
and if you want practice TALKING to women, you'll find
a LOT of women in clubs,but if you are looking to meet a
GREAT woman where you will have to also form a great
connection, clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.
LIE NUMBER 7:
"MAKE SURE TO NEVER SPEAK ABOUT ANYTHING
MEANINGFUL OR SERIOUS WITH WOMEN"
This is good advice for meeting a bimbo, and that's cool
it's just NOT the advice for meeting a QUALITY woman.
If you are looking to attract a SUPERFICIAL woman who
is only interested in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.
But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's CRUCIAL to
connect on a greater level!
She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see if you can do this.
The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes AS WELL, so that
a woman can see that you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be about one channel!
To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being able to meet,
attract, and keep a great woman, I am reminded of something
YODA told Luke Skywalker in "The Empire Strikes Back":
"Unlearn, young one, unlearn".
You see, getting a great woman is not about learning HYPNOSIS
or pick up LINES, or learning TACTICS, but rather to UNLEARN.
To get "DE-hypnotized" as opposed to hypnotized.
Underneath all the layers and layers of BADPROGRAMMING you
have received from all kinds of external sources, including the
horrific advice from the supposed "experts", you actually are
more CHARISMATIC than you can possibly imagine right now.
Everything about you from your body language to the intonations
in your vocal tone to your sense of humor will ATTRACT, and there
will be NO EFFORT required to do it at all, it will all flow naturally.
The road to mastery is the road of UNLEARNING.
And if you want to get there as fast as possible, go to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/
Till next time...
Michael Marks
want to learn from someone who only knew how to
get the half-drunk women at the night clubs?
If you wanted to meet the kind of woman that you could
TRUST WITH YOUR LIFE, if you wanted to meet a woman
with total integrity, a woman who would never think of being
with you as something TRIVIAL, would you want to learn
from a guy who focused on how to "SCORE" to get
QUANTITY of just ANY girls???????
Would you trust your FUTURE with someonewho one day
is all about selling "getting ALL the girls"and the next day
pretends to be about "getting QUALITY"?
Maybe the next day it will be about selling kitchen sinks
and frisbees and toilet cleaners. This road I have taken
started when I was17 years old, and all I wanted then
was agreat woman for something real.
It took almost TWO DECADES to sift throughall the
TOTAL BULLCRAP out there, ESPECIALLY from the
guys who call themselves dating gurus and pick up artists.
This meeting a great woman thing is not a joke to me.
I know that there are some people who really don't
want to meet a great woman, they'd rather just
have emotionally low level relationships, i.e.
"friends with benefits" or even less than that,
and that's fine, in fact there are hundreds of
guys out there who seem to be focused on
teaching guys how to get that.
Whether their stuff works or not to get the one night
stand with the promiscuous girl is really not my concern,
because it's not my goal.
My mission is to help that guy who wants to get a
GREAT girl for a fantastic relationship. That's what
I know, that's what I care about.
That's what I do.
And one of the most MASSIVE lessons I learned was that
I was being told ABSOLUTE LIES by the supposed
dating gurus and pick up artists.
Yes, LIES. Not just "half-truths" but absolute lies that will
DESTROY your success with a woman if you are looking
for something REAL.
It will destroy your future even if you only use that advice
in the BEGINNING, as an ICE-BREAKER, because it sets
things upon the WRONG TRACK, the wrong angle, and as
every day goes by with that woman, the trust she has in
you erodes further and further, and you keep getting
FARTHER and FARTHER from her, till it's HOPELESS
and lost FOREVER.
The truth is the most powerful thing on earth.
And the distortion of truth is what blocks you from progress.
So let me share with you SEVEN LIES the pick-up artists
and wannabe "dating gurus" tell you, and what the TRUTH
is on that topic.
LIE NUMBER 1:
"IF A WOMAN SEES YOU AS RELATIONSHIP OR
MARRIAGE MATERIAL, THEN YOU WILL BE
CONSIDERED A PROVIDER, A BETA MALE, AN
"INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" THAT IS ONLY
GOOD FOR PROVIDING MONEY FOR HER.
Much better to be seen as the male who would NEVER
settle down, who is "hard to get",who is a slick and a
COCKY "player" type-THAT is what triggers
ATTRACTION."
And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE. A lie that has
DESTROYED the future that millions of men could
have had with thewomen they have met so far.
The truth is that you will only be considereda "BETA"
male if you SEE YOURSELF AS A "BETA" MALE.
And the irony is that by following the pick up artist
advice that teaches you to learn to MASK your real
identity with a series of wierd tactics, pick-up lines,
cocky and arrogant personas, and all kinds of other
masks, it actually makes you feel that YOU yourself
are not good enough to meet and attract a woman.
It ERODES self-confidence because it forces you
to rely on something EXTERNAL. And then,
any positive reaction that a guy gets from a woman,
he then will think it was because of the TACTIC,
and not because of HIMSELF.
This sets him up for feeling massive pressure, including
when he and if he gets into a relationship with her-
he is always going to have to worry if she will catch
him being "weak" in his real identity.
And THIS type of fear is what makes a guy actually
show his fear unconsciously through his body language,
through his overall vibe. This is because it's very hard
to fake your body language, the subtle expressions on
your face, etc.
You'd have to be CIA trained to have even a REMOTE
chance of learning how to fake out your body language,
and it's not even neccessary to torture yourself like that-
when you can instead learn to unleash your NATURAL
charisma, by UNLEARNING all the crap not only from
those supposed "masters" but also all the other
messages you were bombarded with since childhood
that filled you with fear rather than empower you.
Unleashing the most pure and charismatic and
cool essence that is already in you, THIS is what
it's all about. Learning how to do THAT and how
to teach this to other guys is what I have spent
almost two decades on.
And like attracts like, once you learn how to do this,
you find yourself attracting the SAME kind of woman.
If a man has a self-concept of himself where he feels
he is BETA, then a guy will be viewed by woman as
a "BETA", even if he has a huge SIGN on his forehead
that says "WILL NEVER MARRY" or says
"WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".
If YOU think that you are SETTLING for someone, if
YOU think that you are only in a relationship because
you can't get better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc., THEN you are a
beta male.
But when you LOVE someone and they LOVE you back
and you both WANT to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some "dating guru" or
"pick up artist" told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you be a "beta" male.
Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN EXTERNAL source is
what makes one WEAK and BETA. And THAT is what
makes a woman feel REPULSED from a man and feel ZERO
attraction for him and not want to spend the NIGHT or even
one MINUTE with him, never mind her LIFE.
The irony again is that it's the pick up artist advice that
makes you weak and THAT is the kind of thing that attracts
the very WORST kind of women, who will like to TAKE
ADVANTAGE of that weakness and see what they can
take out of you.
And then we wonder why the pick up artists tell men to
"WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!" and "Watch out
for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"
Their advice creates weakness, which attracts the vulture type
women rather than the VIRTUOUS ones. A great woman will
simply leave you alone and not be interested, but a horrific
woman will GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick up
artist advice actually makes men WEAK.
What I mean is that having to learn pick-up lines, it makes
you think that the "magic" is in the pick-up line, and not in
YOU.
So it prevents you from learning that YOU can have the
power, not the LINE. If you just learn how to develop
your internal SELF for REAL.
THIS is what I am about, this is what I teach.
Your state of mind is what gives your voice and mannerisms
all the attributes that show you are a cool, fun, charismatic
guy.
Sure, if you ALSO have the literary skills of Shakespeare,
that will make you even more powerful, in COMBO with
all the right states of mind, but even the GREATEST LINE
ever is CRAPOLA if delivered with weak delivery.
And the very fact the guy is being trained to rely on lines
prevents him from reaching his potential and believing in
HIMSELF.
The other way it makes men weak is the general attitude
prevalent among the pick up artist community which is
that ALLLLLLLLLLLLL women are the same if they are
attractive, and that ALLLLLLLLLLL men unless they are
models have no hope of getting chicks unless they learn the
"pick up artist tactics" etc etc.
And whenever a guy who is a "natural" gets results, the
pick up artist guys have to keep on telling their clients
that the natural guy doesn't get CLOSE to the same results
as mr. pick up artist.
As if the real life James Bond types don't come close to
the guy who memorized a cheesy pick up line.
And of course, the only kind of women they DO get
with this stuff is the party girls, and the "dating guru"
and pick up experts know this, so they tell the guys
that party girls are the REAL prize girls, because they
have no "issues" they just like to have sex, they are
sooo much better than those "normal" girls with
"issues" that make them not want to sleep with
every guy on earth, those "normal" girls are
sooooooo "repressed" etc etc.
Finally, their advice makes guys weak because their
advice is never congruent. One day they are talking
about Eckhart Tolle and other fantastic people
who teach about inner development and inner
beauty (these pick up artists do this to mask the
fact that really they are NOT about this type of
thing at all) and the NEXT day they post how really
it's all about having the Hugh Hefner Playboy lifestyle.
(since this is what will really grab instant attention)
Confusion is weakness, as are inconsistency and
incongruency.
And when a woman senses incongruency in a man,
it's the number one way for her to know that something
is sketchy and shady and not right.
Hence, the destruction of trust, which destroys the
potential for any significant future connection or
relationship.
You have to know what you want and then make sure
that all your channels of personal power, from your
thoughts to your actions to your goals all MATCH UP.
That's the way to get a great woman as fast as possible
and keep things working well for as long as you want.
LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN, YOU HAVE TO
MAKE SURE TO LEARN X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"
This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must first respect
YOURSELF.
Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath your dignity,
and you will get RESPECT froma woman.
The IRONY, again, is that the things the pick up artists tell
you to do actually strip you of your dignity because THEY
worship women simply for a woman's looks- the OBSESSION
with havingto get QUANTITY rather than quality.
And it truly is an obsession, almost a cult.
They make you feel that if you want a relationship, then
you are somehow not being a "real" man. You are
a "provider" type, a "sissy" compared to being a
ROCKSTAR. Which is ironic again, because most
rock stars get married! Tommy Lee, Kid Rock,
Gene Simmons, and the list goes on and on.
As if having any type of emotional bond with a woman
was NOT natural. In fact, they create a truly "un-natural"
environment by FORCING men to ANNIHILATE their
emotions. Look, if a woman is not reciprocating at all,
then she is NOT the right woman, end of story.
Not all women are the same.
And if a guy only wants to be with a supermodel,
and he is not willing to work on his own looks at
all, and will only eat big macs and learn pick up
lines and expect a supermodel to slobber all over
him because he learned to negate her self-esteem,
he is going to find out that it doesn't WORK.
Anyway, the obsession with having to FAKE YOUR
IDENTITYwith all kinds of absurd tactics actually
makes you ASHAMED of who you are.
Rather, the key is LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE
IN WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Women want a man who has DIGNITY and will not SELL
his dignity for ANYTHING.
LIE NUMBER 3:
"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO THE "FRIENDS' ZONE",
YOU BETTER MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!
The reality is that this is NONSENSE. A great woman is not
NEEDY to get into bed with anyone, no matter WHO you are.
And if she DETECTS that you are trying to get her into bed
QUICK, she will only feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.
Now, of course, if you are with a woman who sleeps around with
tons of guys, it might beanother issue.
I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.
I don't even like the term "pick up" anymore, as
you pick up the trash.
Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pickup artists
NEVER give you a serious talk about things like STD's.
NO, of course not. It's just like the movies, and it's
NOT REAL LIFE.
But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about this stuff.
The REAL WORLD is not the DISNEY world of NO STDs
that the pick up artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.
They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE. Why would
you want to RUSH sleeping with a woman? There are
BILLIONS of women on this earth.
More than you could ever sleep with.
Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH spending time
with.
The IRONY again is that you can't lose this way, as even if
you WERE the type of guy that didn't care about quality,
you could always get to know a lot of women this way and
not rush, and THEN have a HUNDRED women at your
fingertips if you so wanted.
AND those women would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and not feeling needy to
get them into bed-it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!
LIE NUMBER 4:
"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS FOR LOSERS WHILE
ALL WOMEN SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEING
WITH A COCKY, ARROGANT, HARD-TO-GET TYPE"
This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY UNTRUE,
and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties of the entire
dating guru and pick up CULTURE that I would need
to devote an entire BOOKto explain how HORRIFIC
THIS ADVICE IS, and how totally false it is.
It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not attractive, it's
when you are being EXTRA NICE to a woman who has done
NOTHING to earn that treatment from you.
Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?
Of course you do, and they do for you.
And that's a COOL thing.
Same thing with a woman- if she's good to you, then if you
are NOT good to her, THEN you will be considered an
INSECURE LOSER.
And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about players that
are so scared to really be good to a woman and so scared to
DROP the "masks"they wear in the form of fake memorized
lines, and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to NEGATE
her self-esteem. (notice the word ATTEMPT in capitals,
because it's doesn't work. A great woman will just ignore it or
CHEW the guy up and spit him out for even trying)
LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT HER PROBLEMS EVER--
OR YOU WILL BE SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"
The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her about
her things, stuff that she is going through,you will
DUMPED fast and rightly so for not giving a rat's ass
about her.
The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a woman is
always talking about her problems to you and is not
BALANCING that with also having FUN with you and is
not willing and happy to listen to YOUR stuff too.
The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you should not be a
cry-baby but you DEFINITELYare not considered weak
for having emotions and for expressing them- this kind of
bullshit lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating gurus
probably gives more men heart attacks from stress than
anything else.
If you can't confide at all in the woman you are with, what
the HELL is the point of being with her?
And if a woman feels she can't ever confide in you about
emotional stuff, she will simply GET THAT CONNECTION
from someone ELSE.
And again, THIS is why these "experts" often talk unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken party girls
and THEN they wonder why theyare getting less than CREAM
OF THE CROP inner qualities in the women they meet!
The truth is that the stuff that these guys"teach" you will
PUSH AWAY the RARE and BEST kind of women and will
attract the very WORST type of woman.
LIE NUMBER 6:
"YOU CAN ONLY MEASURE YOUR REAL SKILL
IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK UP A WOMAN IN
A CLUB"
Another massive lie. The reality is that meeting a woman
in a club is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached.
The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a great woman
with high standards who is not drunk and who is not
looking to just play around, who is looking for something
meaningful, and CONNECT with such a woman on a DEEP
level, and then to easily and naturally KEEP THIS UP so
that three weeks later she is just as into you and three
months later as well, etc.
So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if you want to,
and if you want practice TALKING to women, you'll find
a LOT of women in clubs,but if you are looking to meet a
GREAT woman where you will have to also form a great
connection, clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.
LIE NUMBER 7:
"MAKE SURE TO NEVER SPEAK ABOUT ANYTHING
MEANINGFUL OR SERIOUS WITH WOMEN"
This is good advice for meeting a bimbo, and that's cool
it's just NOT the advice for meeting a QUALITY woman.
If you are looking to attract a SUPERFICIAL woman who
is only interested in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.
But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's CRUCIAL to
connect on a greater level!
She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see if you can do this.
The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes AS WELL, so that
a woman can see that you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be about one channel!
To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being able to meet,
attract, and keep a great woman, I am reminded of something
YODA told Luke Skywalker in "The Empire Strikes Back":
"Unlearn, young one, unlearn".
You see, getting a great woman is not about learning HYPNOSIS
or pick up LINES, or learning TACTICS, but rather to UNLEARN.
To get "DE-hypnotized" as opposed to hypnotized.
Underneath all the layers and layers of BADPROGRAMMING you
have received from all kinds of external sources, including the
horrific advice from the supposed "experts", you actually are
more CHARISMATIC than you can possibly imagine right now.
Everything about you from your body language to the intonations
in your vocal tone to your sense of humor will ATTRACT, and there
will be NO EFFORT required to do it at all, it will all flow naturally.
The road to mastery is the road of UNLEARNING.
And if you want to get there as fast as possible, go to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/
Till next time...
Michael Marks
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