Be The Man, Or SHE Will

Being THE MAN, a term I use to refer to a combination
of superiority and masculinity, relates to every single
aspect of your interactions with a woman, from the
moment you meet her till your last moment on earth
with her.

In the last few decades, there has been a gradual
EROSION of masculinity from men’s behaviour,
which all started because men were made to feel
GUILTY about being men and even having
sexual desire. It's sloooowly starting to
change, but it's never going to be like
the "ol" days when a man got respect
for being a man the same way a woman
got respect for being a woman.

These days, you have to make it CLEAR
from the get-go that you are indeed
THE MAN.

Remember also that since most girls these
days have grown up being TOLD to be
POWERFUL, to “use girl power” etc., etc.,
and to have “fun”, etc., etc., but most
GUYS were DEAF to this, all most guys
heard was the horror stories of how badly
women were being treated, so most decent
guys end up trying to kiss up to women
to show how "good" they can be to a woman.

It was as if men IGNORED what was really
going on and only paid attention to the
horror stories being fed to them about
"evil men treating women badly".

Don’t get me wrong, SOME WOMEN were being
treated badly, but it seems highly unlikely
that MOST men were this bad, or there is no way
on earth that MEN, who "had all the power",
would have given so much power and
equality to women in the first place!
It was men who gave women that power,
starting all the way back with political
thinkers like John Stuart Mill. If all
men were really such bastards, then
how the hell did men allow women
to have all their new powers? It
was men who gave it to women.)

The thing is, at least a long time ago,
men were getting something in RETURN
for treating a woman "like a lady".

But it seems as if guys have forgotten
that these days, guys get NOTHING in
return for GIVING away their affection
or anything else so freely.

It's the basic principle of life that
there must be an EXCHANGE of value
for anything concrete to actually
happen.

In the old days, the value exchange was:

Women were trying hard to show they
would be good, loyal, HOMEMAKERS
and MOTHERS, etc, in RETURN for men
who would be PROVIDERS and also
PROTECTORS.

Now, it seems, most good guys are STILL
offering to give away the whole store, in
exchange for...for...for WHAT????

For a DATE?
For a SMILE??????

Does this make any sense?
Of course not?

Is this an equal exchange of value?
Of course not.

Now, all this is FINE if you're from the
"pick up artist" crowd and just looking
for a girl to get "physical" with, because
the whole thing is so low value, so
temporary, so fleeting, that no one
is really giving anyone anything
except some time getting physical.

There's very little emotional commitment,
very little sobriety, and a whole lot of
drinking, smoking, and overall lightheadedness.

So, in that sense, for guys who just want
to "fool around", things have become
easier than ever. 

But for men who are looking for the
REAL THING, then it's a very different
story, and it's CRUCIAL then for men
who are looking for the "real thing"
(a woman for a real relationship based
on things other than one night stands,
alcohol, and smoking), to BECOME
VERY SELECTIVE on which women
they date, and also to learn how to
DETECT a quality woman from a
non-quality woman, AND it's
crucial for men to make it CLEAR
just how much value they actually
HAVE.

A good man, who is looking for the real
thing, IS a rare find, and he damn well
better not hide it, and he better damn
well not DAMPEN his own power by
trying to imitate the PICK UP ARTIST
style approach.

This is because, when he finally meets the
RIGHT kind of woman, the LAST thing
she wants is the kind of player guy who
is rich with the "quips" but poor with the
SOUL.

Yet, because no one has TOLD good guys
to change their strategy, guys still believe in the
old strategy of "courting" a woman and showing
her what a good provider you will be!!!

Most of the time, guys are doing this with
the kind of women who are LAUGHING
inside at this, to the point of bursting.

In general, attractive women are NOT THE SAME
they were a few generations ago.  

To be blunt, attractive women are KICKING MEN
IN THE ARSE today, and doing it HARD.

That is, unless you're just looking to fool around,
because there are LOADS of those kinds of
women around, for short term light-headed
"fun".

And even with the hard REALITY
CRASHING DOWN ON GOOD
GUYS, good guys still refuse to change
their deep rooted belief that the way
to succeed with women is to kiss up.

I was EXACTLY the proverbial "nice guy"
for MANY years.  No guy tried more nice
things for attractive women on this EARTH
than me.  And I also refused to believe
there could be any OTHER way!

When you BELIEVE in something, then
ALL EVIDENCE to the contrary won’t mean
jack sh*&, because your mind will just find a
way to interpret it according to your perspective
of the world.

So, over the last couple of decades, guys
basically DIDN’T BELIEVE all the
REALITIES that were REALLY happening
with women, whether it was women having
bachelorette parties that would put Hugh
Hefner to shame, whether it was women
cheating, etc.

This is by the way, one of the reasons
I focus on getting the rare quality women
that are out there who have principles
as well as beauty, and yet in many ways
these rare women are even STRONGER and
MORE empowered internally because they
can resist the craziness around them,
so you can bet your bottom dollar that
the quality women even MORE URGENTLY
need a man who is ULTRA confident
and masculine, to make a woman feel
feminine.

After all, women are so empowered these
days, it takes a man who is truly THE MAN
to make women feel feminine.

Also, psychologically speaking, human
beings need to know which ROLE they are
playing, on a deep subconscious level.
If a man acts feminine, she will start
to act masculine. If a man acts masculine,
she will feel more womanly and feminine,
which is what she actually WANTS to feel.

And yet, guys just kept on treating women
not only as EQUALS, but as SUPERIORS. Yes,
SUPERIORS, because given the fact that women
are now not trying to show they are homemakers,
but most men are still trying to show that
they would be good husbands, it's as if
men are trying HARDER to impress women
than vice versa. Which ends up in absolute
value terms as putting women on a pedestal
and getting nothing in return for it.

And like I always say, superiority is the
essence of attraction.

This is not a bad thing. Even in great
relationships, each person really feels
they are getting the superior deal!
And that is actually a HEALTHY relationship,
where each person feels THEY are the lucky
one!

So it's not evil to say this.
It's the FACT that if you come across
as only "equal" to her, you will NOT
attract her.

And the INSANITY of all this, is that it’s
all up to YOU.

It's all based on INTANGIBLE things that
you can control.

It’s based on ASSUMPTIONS which
come to hold the power of BELIEFS.

And in fact, the whole problem started
not from concrete things but from
WRONG assumptions and wrong beliefs. Like the
idea that men are somehow animals, and women
saints. Or that women are morally superior
to men. Or that women don’t like sex. Or
that somehow a man “should” show a woman
that HE is a good man, before SHE shows
him she is a good woman.

All that stuff came from a time when women
HAD NO POWER. It’s RIDICULOUS today, and turns
men into SITTING DUCKS just waiting to be
taken advantage of and abused by the wrong
women. Which is another thing I focus on
in my programs, on how to detect a QUALITY
woman and how to spot and avoid the wrong
women.

I seriously can’t understand how this isn’t
ABSOLUTE COMMON KNOWLEDGE by today. My guess
is that the only reason there isn’t some
MEN’S liberation movement is because it just
sounds pathetic. MEN are SUPPOSED to already
be dominant.

Yet, most men BEHAVE as if women are
doing men a FAVOUR by agreeing to
spend time with them!!!

And since men behave this way, they
are setting up the roles for women
to think this is NORMAL, and so
when a man acts with a woman as
if he's beneath her, she feels
it's her role to be the superior
and dominant one.

Now there is no one person or movement to blame,
it’s far more complex than that, because a lot of
these things (feminism, equality) STARTED with
good intentions but then went COMPLETELY WRONG.
Kind of like Frankenstein.

But the bottom line is that women are KICKING GUYS’S
asses today like never before!!!!!!!

And like I said, it’s all the result of men THINKING
it has to be this way and continuing their behaviors.

Society is NOT going to change overnight.
But YOU can make things change for YOURSELF,
by USURPING almost every single powerful
and positive thing that women are doing
AND using it for YOURSELF.

Women act standoffish to your approach?
The reason they are doing that is because
you are approaching them in a way that makes
them feel as if YOU are worthless and as if
THEY are superior. Plus, women have been
conditioned to behave this way for centuries,
since it gives them the power. Women had
to learn these strategies from a long time
ago when women really DIDN'T have as much
civil/legal power as men, but those days
are long gone!

And yet you are worried about their reaction if
you come across as a MAN with no apologies
for being a man?????

See how crazy it is?

Attraction is about PERCEPTION.
Women who are attractive tend to THINK
they are the ones with the power.

So, with most guys, they act that way,
and most guys get SWALLOWED up into that frame,
thereby REINFORCING women’s self-concepts and
DESTROYING their (men’s) OWN self concepts as
men get SHOT DOWN over and over again.

And yet, you can CHANGE all this INSTANTLY,
when you BEHAVE differently. Not like a jerk,
but like a MAN.

The whole PERCEPTION you have about "nice" and
"not nice" when it comes to interacting with
women has to change in your mind.

Your whole "GUT FEELING" about who really has the power,
has to CHANGE in your mind. Otherwise, this feeling will
keep on showing through your body language, and women
will DETECT it and feel that THEY are superior to you, and
that you are just not worth their time.

You have to get the SKILLS to EFFECTIVELY
send the message that you are worth MORE
than them.

EQUAL DOESN’T CUT IT!!
Human nature is to want more.

This is why you need to have the SKILLS
to convey SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE.

This doesn’t mean acting like a jerk-off.

In fact, it means acting INSANELY COMFORTABLE
and INSANELY CONFIDENT, and in certain
environments like clubs, it means that you also have
to start off very PLAYFUL, otherwise you obviously
are desperate, because if you are not in a good mood
in a club, where you are supposed to be happy, you
are obviously only there to meet women, and apparently
not being successful since you are not happy and playful,
which means LOSER).

Remember, if you REALLY knew you were desired,
if you REALLY knew you had the worth, THAT’S
how you would feel.

If you want to CHANGE your life, this INSANITY of
even THINKING that women have all the power must
stop. Your THOUGHTS are given CONCRETE FORM
in your behaviours, and women WILL detect them
the same way anyone can detect desperation or
someone who is not comfortable.

Now, there’s more to it than just this, for example,
understanding how to not make a woman feel
slutty, but even THAT becomes less of a problem
when you come across as being DESIRABLE
because if you are DESIRABLE, then a woman
feels she is with a “worthy” guy and that she
is not “cheap” for being with you.

Get it?
Superior Intrinsic Value RULES.

And when it comes to attraction, behaving in
a MASCULINE way, i.e. leading the interaction,
not getting overly emotional, being cool and
laid back, and showing DOMINANCE, is
BIG TIME VALUE in her sexual desire
department of her brain.

I was at the bookstore yesterday and I couldn’t
BELIEVE how they are STILL selling books
in the relationships section telling men how to
KISS UP even MORE than they are already doing.
I think that a book like mine will probably NEVER
be sold in any bookstore because it basically
says SOCIETY HAS GONE NUTS, and that
must seem pretty extreme.

Do you know who needs to read those kinds of
books about how to treat women better?
The jerk-offs, the real scum of society.
Those guys SHOULD read those books.

Aside from them, really, I don’t think any
guy is going to get anything but ANGUISH
from applying the advice in those “how to
kiss up even more to women” books.

Women don’t even WANT that type of guy
as it makes them feel like they are with some
kind of emasculated man. Most women
deep down want to feel sexually that they
are with a guy with a dominant personality
otherwise it makes THEM, the women,
in charge of leading things to sex and
that’s going to really ruin the chemistry.

Of course, women can’t come out and say
this on national tv or it will sound like they
are against equal rights, which they aren’t
against, they’re just against men becoming
WOMEN.

Being a dominant man is the ONLY choice.
It was always the only choice, but nowadays,
due to women, especially attractive ones, having
MORE power than ever, it’s become even
MORE important that men start RECLAIMING
their own personal worth and SHOWING IT
through everything they do.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU DO.
You will be PERCEIVED by how you behave,
the same way MEN have perceived WOMEN
to be superior SIMPLY by the way women
BEHAVED.

So don’t be silly about thinking about any OTHER
option. There is NO other option but to be
masculine, to lead the show, to be THE MAN.

And guess what?
It’s not ENOUGH just that YOU know that you
are not kissing up. SHE must know it too.

She must know that FAILURE on her part to
treat you right will lead to a very quick
goodbye from you.

And you have to be PREPARED for all
the BRILLIANT DISGUISES. For example:
If a woman knows that you only like “good”
girls, she will then do her BEST to ACT like
a good girl to GET YOU. Even though
she might really be the kind of girl
who would make even Satan cringe.

On one hand, because you had STANDARDS,
she saw that you don’t just go for anything.
Your high standards show you are obviously
DESIRABLE. So she IMMEDIATELY felt a
certain DESIRE for you. And she was prepared
to do what is necessary to get you.

But once she “gets” you, if you make her feel
that she HAS you for sure no matter what, she
will start to SLIDE in her treatment of you,
and you might start to rationalize it, you might
try to defend her actions since she is a “good”
girl. But if you FALL for that BRILLIANT
DISGUSE, well, then, that’s exactly what
she wants. (of course, if a woman really
is wack job, don't even try to use these
skills to attract her, just say goodbye
as soon as you find out she is an abusive
person.)

YOU MUST BE THE MAN, AT ALL TIMES.
THERE IS NO OTHER CHOICE, in a society
where women have been brainwashed to
believe they are superior.

Any OTHER type of strategy, other type of option,
just about ALWAYS leads to break-ups, women
who can’t commit, getting taken advantage of
emotionally and financially, heartbreak, no sex,
plummeting self-esteem, and tons of other
fun stuff.

The crazy thing is, when you LEARN these
skills, you are suddenly INFUSED with so
much power that you can EASILY reverse
ALL THIS STUFF, to the point that if you
wanted to, you could easily do all that nasty stuff
to women, but you really WON’T WANT TO
because you’ll be TOO BUSY WITH A
WOMAN OR WITH WOMEN THAT
ARE AWESOME.

You’ll FEEL SORRY for the women that
did that creepy stuff, because the truth is
that the most SEXY women who are
CONFIDENT NEVER do that nasty stuff,
because when you are REALLY secure,
you might not be ATTRACTED to someone
but you have no need to be ABUSIVE.

Only INSECURE people are abusive,
because their insecurity and pain makes
them want YOU to also be in pain.

Most women are not like that.
Most women are simply in the category of
being SPOILED by society.

Does this mean that women are bad?
Not really, not anymore than a child who is spoiled.
The child is not “bad” or “evil”, just spoiled.
The child needs to learn.

Women need to learn that you are not like all
the other guys who will KEEP ON KISSING UP
to women even though women have moved
WAY WAY WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY
BEYOND “working in the kitchen barefoot
and pregnant”. Hey, in those days, a man
had some room to err because he had
a certain amount of AUTOMATIC respect
from women, just from being born a
male in that society and era.

And in fact, there WERE some screwed
up things against women in those days that
were just not right. Like women not even
being allowed to vote.

But women have come a long long way, and
men have GONE BACKWARDS a long long
way, and that is just as evil. Especially since
it’s always the good but ignorant guys that
don’t want to cause “problems”, and the jerks
who couldn’t give a rat’s ass, thereby giving the
jerks an advantage since the jerk doesn’t care
about women’s rights or issues and therefore
will take as much as he can, and this often
is misinterpreted by women as a sign of his
superior VALUE.

So, you don’t have to be a jerk, but you sure
as heck have to know how to still come across
as having superior VALUE.

One of the BIGGEST INTERNAL obstacles
to learning how to behave in the
right way comes because we have this
“inner conflict” that says that being “The Man”
is “not nice”, as if maybe it’s something
your mother wouldn’t approve of, as you
respect your mom, who is a woman, and
you want to treat her well.

But you have to remember that “women” in general
are NOT your MOM. You are not trying to
ATTRACT your mom!

That might SOUND a bit funny, obvious, or strange,
but it’s actually PREGNANT WITH INFORMATION.

You see, as a child, for most of us, our MOTHER
gave us a lot of crucial things we needed for LIFE.
Love, support, nurturing, making us feel good, etc.
God bless mothers.

And we kind of take this image of women
from our mom.

But when you are trying to attract a woman,
you have to remember this is not your MOM.

It’s a whole new sexual dynamic going on.

When it comes to attracting a woman, a woman
doesn’t NATURALLY give a DAMN about you
any more than she might about the next guy.

That might sound harsh, but it’s true.
For some reason we keep thinking that women
are “nice” and that we should treat them “nice”.

Look, I’m totally against any kind of ABUSE.
There is a way to show STRENGTH AND WARMTH
simultaneously. For example, try speaking
the words "No, I can't let you do that."
right now, with a smile, but with an
authoritative tonality.

And imagine you're saying it to a real
knockout. Just the idea of saying
"No" to a real knockout is something
that most guys would never even
consider.

It’s not ABUSE to communicate with women on
the terms of confidence, masculinity and
empowerment, that ironically, women are
usually better versed in than men these days!

You don't want a woman to feel SORRY for you.
You want her to feel ATTRACTION.

And attraction is sparked by all kinds of
things that you might think your MOM does
not approve of in the dating sphere.

Your mom would probably tell you to buy
her a drink, giver her a compliment, and
make sure to show her you're a nice guy.

There is a time for that, but it's AFTER
she's earned your trust, and it's AFTER
she's earned the compliment.

Most guys do it in the wrong order and
totally screw things up.

(The truth is, your mom probably WANTS you
to succeed with women, so she probably deep
down DOES approve, but it would be really
weird if your mom had to tell you what turns
HER on, if she was even aware of it!)

And if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE,
to learn EXACTLY how to go about approaching
women to take things from that very first moment
all the way to the bedroom and beyond, and even
where to find the RIGHT kinds of women for YOU,
as well as how to handle and even eradicate the
kind of ridiculous “tests” that even GOOD women
tend to throw your way, then I seriously suggest
you get my Warrior Within Program on DVD
IMMEDIATELY.

This program is NOT like other programs out there,
it’s about SOLVING THE ROOT CAUSE of the
problem, which has less to do with learning to put
on an act, and far more to do with reclaiming your
masculinity and your power. It’s about how to take
ACTION with women, from A to Z, in the way
that women deep down WISH you would, but
simply can’t admit because of the anti-masculine
crusade.

It’s at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

For now, for tomorrow, and for always...BE THE MAN.

To find out about all my programs, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html

Michael Marks

Kick-Ass Advice For Attracting A "10"

Get ready for some KICK-ASS advice
for attracting a true '10'-
no long intros, let’s just dig in!

First, is the exact mental FRAME you
must adopt when it comes to approaching
women:

I’m going to get into details below,
but first the actual PRINCIPLES are:

I. IT’S NEVER THE FOCUS

II. ACT IMMEDIATELY

III. CONNECT YOUR STATE TO HER


I. IT’S NEVER THE FOCUS

The best frame to adopt when it comes to
approaching women who are total strangers,
is that it’s never the MAIN focus of the
activity.

It could be PART of your activity, i.e. going
to a party, going shopping, getting groceries,
going to the post office, bank, on your way
to work, etc.

But it shouldn’t be the MAIN focus.

When it's the MAIN focus, you start to
get too MUCH INTO YOUR OWN MIND,
you get too analytical, and this shuts down
your EXPRESSIVE fun mode.

In fact, in my bootcamps, I make sure
to consistently keep guys in EXPRESSIVE
mode, like TALKING, rather than just
"taking IN and being INTERNAL mode."

There is a time in the conversation for
becoming more into listening mode,
absolutely, but for STARTING THINGS
OFF you have to be GIVING OFF
ENERGY in FUN MODE, in EXPRESSIVE
MODE, also known as EXTROVERT
MODE.

If you're more of an introvert like myself,
this was pretty tough at first, until I realized
that actually being in extrovert mode is
FUN, and it's only tough because we
aren't FAMILIAR with it.

The reality is that even if you are a massive
introvert, you can get into extrovert mode-
some of the GREATEST performers of
all time that seem like total extroverts
are in fact massive introverts- because
they take all that internal energy that
is bottled up and have learned to
channel it outward into something
amazing.

When you're reading a book, you're in
INTERNAL mode, you're sitting there
TAKING THINGS IN, but not really
giving things OUT.

When you approach a woman, you have
to NOT be in INTERNAL MODE, but
rather you have to be in EXPRESSIVE
mode, giving outward.

So make approaching women something
that is incorporated into your regular
life, as part of your daily routine
while shopping, doing chores, etc,
so that when you see a woman,
you were not THINKING about
it too much beforehand, because
you were focused on the other
actions you were doing at the
moment until you SAW her--
and then when you see her
you should act IMMEDIATELY
so you have no time to
THINK about it -- no time
to get into your own head
and become internal.

In fact, EXPRESS whatever is
RELEVANT at that MOMENT- be
it what she's wearing that you
noticed that's funny or interesting,
or something she's doing, or something
about the SITUATION or environment.

And EXPRESS it immediately, don't
THINK and analyze -- or it will ruin
the expressive STATE of mind that
automatically makes you do so
many things RIGHT in an interaction
with a woman.

The expressive state improves your
delivery of what you say, it even
helps you come up of better things
to say in the MOMENT without
thinking- it's like an INSTINCT
that guides you in the blink of
an eye, before you even have
time to THINK about it.

In my bootcamps, I KEEP things in
EXPRESSIVE mode and FEELING mode,
which makes it easy to transition into
successfully opening up emotionally
compelling and fun conversations with
women who are total strangers.

The other cool thing about being in
this state is that not only do you
get her attention in a much better
way, but state is both self-reinforcing
and CATCHY as well!

So, once you yourself enter "fun expressive state",
you actually FEED that state even more to yourself,
because emotions are addictive- feel the right
ones and get a positive addiction for life!

AND, emotional states are catchy, so you
now make her MORE fun as well, and
more likely to get into a more talkative
state with you!

Attracting women is really about you connecting
to her who you actually ARE-- but most guys
make the mistake of thinking the way to
connect this to her is through a list of traits
that you SAY to her.

The real way is to connect who you ARE is to
connect your EMOTIONAL STATES that
are IN you and EXPRESS THEM OUTWARDLY-
your AWESOME emotional states, that is.

Emotional states that are a combination of upbeat,
dominant, sexual, and fun.

When you think of a person, the reality is that
you think of the way that person makes you FEEL.

This all happens on a subconscious level.

Telling a woman a list of good traits about
yourself isn’t the first thing to do when
meeting a woman- unless of course, it
comes WITH the delivery of you being
in a state that is a combination of sexual,
upbeat, dominant, and fun.

So when you don’t make the main focus
of your activity the actual approaching of
women, but rather make it a PART of the
activity, you’re far more likely to be
OUTSIDE your head than IN it,
ESPECIALLY if you are doing something
you already enjoy or if you are just in a
great state already.

For PROOF of this, just look at the way
some women who are REALLY attractive
behave.

It’s absolutely clear that no woman who is
ATTRACTIVE needs to go to a club to
meet guys. A woman who is attractive
gets TONS of attention and if she wanted
to turn that attention into something, she
could do that easily anywhere, she doesn’t
have to go to a club to get it.

However, that doesn’t mean a woman WON’T
meet a guy at a club- but notice the mental
FOCUS- it’s a focus that actually GUYS should
adopt as well, and this doesn’t just mean at a club.

So for example, just like a woman really
IS enjoying the music at a club, she really
DOES go with her friends, she really DOES
enjoy dressing up, and she really DOES
enjoy socializing, and yes, it’s also fun
for her to meet guys, but it’s TOTALLY
not the ONLY focus.

And this makes the women even MORE
desirable, since they seem so NOT needy.

Well, even though as men, we have to do the
approaching, that doesn’t mean in any way,
shape or form that somehow just because you
approach her it has to mean that this is the focus
of your day, hour, or evening.

Here’s the first key for how to do it RIGHT:

II. ACT IMMEDIATELY

Be in the REAL MOMENT- so for example,
if you are at the bank and there is a woman in
front of you, or beside you, or at the store, or
at the club, or lounge, well in that MOMENT
that you see the opportunity, SAY something
RIGHT AWAY.

This way you aren’t THINKING too much ahead.
And you aren’t “in your head.”

By NOT allowing yourself to think about it
too much, you are AUTOMATICALLY
going to say it RIGHT,in the right delivery,
your tonality will REFLECT that you are
not obsessed with this activity of meeting
women, which will in turn make you
come across as cooler.

Even a comment that you think is not that
brilliant will be FAR better if you say it
IMMEDIATELY than if you think about
something brilliant for ten minutes and
THEN approach her.

Not only will the DELIVERY be natural
and spontaneous, but also there is actually
huge evidence that the first thing that
comes to mind is often GREAT and
better than what you would come up
with in trying to develop the perfect
pick up line for ten hours. (For more
evidence on this, just read BLINK
by Malcolm Gladwell).

III. BE IN STATE BEFORE YOU STEP OUTSIDE

Use empowering music.
Workouts release endorphins.

And of course, adjust your OWN tonality
vocally, and notice how THIS changes your
state as well, I get into more details on this
in my materials.

Do all this BEFORE you go out.

You will convey your emotional state to a woman,
that’s a fact- she will sense it through your body
language and vocal tonality and tons of subtle things
in your demeanor and expression.

So make sure you are conveying the RIGHT
combination of states.

So this whole point here had a few points:

I.    DON’T MAKE THE ACT OF MEETING
      WOMEN THE MAIN FOCUS

II.   WHEN THE MOMENT ARRIVES, ACT
       UPON IT IMMEDIATELY.

III.  GET INTO A STATE THAT IS A COMBO
       OF UPBEAT, DOMINANT, SEXUAL, AND
       FUN.

So no more trying to “be a pick up artist”,
INSTEAD, make meeting women a PART
of your activity.

When you are too focused on the
ACTIVITY of approaching a woman, you
become SELF-CONSCIOUS of how you
are “performing.”

You start to THINK too much.

You start to get critical on yourself.

You lose the ability to be spontaneous, because
you have been THINKING about approaching
women for a while, i.e. a half hour before you
even FIND a woman you want to approach.

All that time, there has been that internal
CHATTERBOX in your head talking, telling
you all kind of self-doubts, and getting out
of the entire “rhythm” of your natural state
when you aren’t thinking.

You get too inside your own head, and now
you feel like a robot having to go through
some act and force yourself to say something, etc.

So no more of that, instead you’re going to
make it a PART of things, you’re going to
take action IMMEDIATELY upon seeing
her, and you’re not going to step outside
until you are in STATE.

IV. MAKE SURE YOU BEHAVE AS IF
      YOU ALREADY ARE THE MOST
      DESIRABLE GUY IN THE UNIVERSE.

By the way, these things have applications
to attracting a woman far beyond just the
initial approach, for example when you
are in STATE you see things PROPERLY.

So for example, a guy who is feeling NEEDY
will feel all obsessed with some ex-girlfriend
who didn't even treat him right, especially if
he hears she is going out with some guy.

However, a guy who is NOT feeling needy
might actually feel FLATTERED because
he thinks to himself “She is trying so hard
to get over me, poor thing I hope she finds
someone”.

Similarly, jealousy is nothing but social
proof- and what I mean by that is that
if we feel jealousy that some woman
is interested in some other guy, what
we’re really saying to ourselves is that
we think that guy has more value than
US- all because we place so much
value on the WOMAN, that whoever
she LIKES, we then think must have
SO MUCH VALUE, that's why we
wanted her to like US- so WE would
feel validated!!!

It’s not even about the GIRL anymore,
it’s about what we think of OURSELVES.

So for example, if a woman we like is going
out with GROVER from Sesame Street,
we won’t feel jealous, right? Or if she is
going out with Gollum from Lord of the Rings.

It’s all about our OWN self-concept that
affects the way we feel.

And the way we feel MASSIVELY affects the
way we BEHAVE with women, and these
behaviors can either be ATTRACTIVE
BEHAVIORS or UNATTRACTIVE ONES.

The behaviors that are consistent with a man
who feels he has MASSIVE worth, are the
behaviors that are actually ATTRACTIVE
as well.

So let’s review:

I.    DON’T MAKE THE ACT OF MEETING
      WOMEN THE MAIN FOCUS

II.   WHEN THE MOMENT ARRIVES, ACT
       UPON IT IMMEDIATELY.

III.  GET INTO A STATE THAT IS A COMBO
       OF UPBEAT, DOMINANT, SEXUAL, AND
       FUN.

IV.  MAKE SURE YOU BEHAVE AS IF
       YOU ALREADY ARE THE MOST
       DESIRABLE GUY IN THE UNIVERSE.

Finally, I’ve noticed that there is a lot of
confusion out there about whether women
are actually attracted to guys who are funny,
or are they just laughing at them like they
are clowns.

So, that brings us to the point of:

V. HUMOR - ICE-BREAKER & MINIMUM GAME

The reality is that if you think about
rock stars, and famous celebrities, a
lot of them aren’t particularly known
for being FUNNY. And yet it seems
they get tons of women.

Some people think this is proof that
being funny is NOT important, and
in fact, that it can make you seem like
a clown.

Some people also think that being
funny makes you reveal too much
about yourself, leaving no mystery
behind for her to wonder about and
be intrigued by.

Well, anyone who says that being funny
is harmful or who says it’s not helpful,
is simply OUT OF TOUCH WITH THE REAL
WORLD OF APPROACHING WOMEN
WHO ARE TOTAL STRANGERS.

The truth is that being FUNNY in and of
ITSELF is often not a SEXUAL thing,
although it CAN be, (more on that later),
but what it IS, that can be VERY important
is this:

When you FIRST MEET A WOMAN
who is a total stranger, and it’s on the street,
or a coffee shop, or a bus or train, there is a
bit TOO MUCH mystery going on!

She has NO CLUE of whether you are a psycho,
whether you are some winner or loser, or
anything about you.

This is especially relevant when you
meet a woman in a place that is not
a normal place for socializing.

So at this STARTING point, you need
to take her EMOTIONS off of FEAR
and off of CAUTION and into the
receptive zone where she is disarmed
and in a good state of mind for listening
to you.

Guess what is a GREAT tool for doing that?

BEING FUNNY.

See, one of the great elements of meeting
a woman who is a knockout and who is
a total stranger is getting over the obstacle
in her mind that says “I don’t talk to strangers”.

You can’t always go straight into ATTRACTION,
because she has her guard up against strangers,
especially if she is attractive.

Before you can get a woman ATTRACTED,
you need to be able to get her to lower her
GUARD so she will even be RECEPTIVE
to you at all in the first place, otherwise
you will be blocked out from her mind
before you can even start.

Now, if you are a famous rock star, or a
famous celebrity, actor, etc, you ALREADY
have taken care of the “I’m not a psycho”
factor, since in many ways you are already
ESTABLISHED in her mind with a positive
association already, so if you are a rock
star or celebrity, etc, there is no need to
have to BREAK THE ICE with her.

The ice is already broken, so to speak.

But if you are a regular guy like me, well
you have to have SKILLS developed.

So, getting her LAUGHING early on is
a GREAT way to DIMINISH the “fear
factor”.

Now, at the same time, there is an
OPTIMIMUM BALANCE.

You don’t want to be too much of a stranger,
but you ALSO don’t want to go into the
land of being a CLOWN who is just
trying to entertain her like some inferior.

This in fact, was something I sensed instinctively,
even when I was first starting out, I always hated
the idea of learning magic tricks or jokes or routines
to try to get a woman’s attention.

I just knew it was all screwed up, it even
FELT wrong, like I was being this subservient
court jester to women.

I knew this even though all around me at the
time the supposed experts on meeting
women insisted it’s all about learning “routines”
to get women laughing and in fact they said
that veering off the routines was an absolute
no-no. I was against all this stuff since day
one, and it’s clear from my very first book,
“The Dating Wizard.”

The REAL solution is to HAVE the skill of
HUMOR and give her just a TASTE of it,
enough to lower her “anti-guy” defenses.

Just enough so she can sample your awesome
personality and you can break the ice.

And then use the ABSOLUTE MINIMUM OF IT
to get the job done.

Then go right into being THE MAN, dominant,
confident, laid back, intriguing, and MYSTERIOUS.

This gets back to what I was saying before
about MINIMUM GAME is the MOST
POWERFUL GAME.

Quick Review:

I.    DON’T MAKE IT THE FOCUS, JUST PART OF IT.

II.   ACT UPON THE MOMENT IMMEDIATELY.

III.  UPBEAT, DOMINANT, SEXUAL, FUN.

IV.  MAKE SURE YOU BEHAVE AS IF
       YOU ALREADY ARE THE MOST
       DESIRABLE GUY IN THE UNIVERSE.

V.   HUMOR - ICE-BREAKER& MINIMUM GAME

Always use the LEAST amount required,
as it makes you seem mysterious and she
gets to have to now IMAGINE all that
you have NOT told her, she now has to
IMAGINE herself about you- and her
IMAGINATION is much better than
anything that ANYONE could come
up with in reality- so this way SHE
is making herself FALL IN LOVE
WITH YOU, since SHE IS THE ONE
MAKING THE FANTASY ABOUT
YOU!

The other awesome thing about this is
that with this minimum game, you also
seem like a great guy as well, since
you’re not talking so much about yourself
and not seeming arrogant.

In fact, even when you do talk to women,
I suggest that you keep the conversation
about INTRIGUING THINGS and about
HER, yes- her talking about herself, but
not about YOURSELF.

Let HER wonder who you are and what
mysteries there are about you.

Let HER ask YOU about yourself, because
THAT’S THE ONLY TIME SHE REALLY
WANTS TO KNOW.

So there IS a place for being funny, when
done RIGHT, and in the right AMOUNT.

Also, and this is slightly more advanced,
there is a way that HUMOR can very
much be used in a way that IS attractive
even in and of itself- but most people
don’t understand how to use it this way.

The key is to use humor to convey POWER.

If you just go around trying to show off, or
you try to just say cool things about yourself,
you seem the OPPOSITE of powerful, you
seem insecure. That’s because we’ve all
seen people do this a million times before,
and it’s too easy, and we get bored and
desensitized by it.

However, it’s impossible to get “desensitized”
if the statement comes with an EMOTIONAL
IMPACT- and laughter is definitely an emotion
that adds IMPACT. Advertisers know this,
and use it to the tune of billions of dollars
a year.

So, for example, the funny yet COOL line in
the movie, “The Empire Strikes Back”:

When Princess Leia tells Han Solo before
he is about to be frozen in carbonite, she
tells him, “I love you”-

And his response to her, even in the middle
of this STRESS and tension, is…“I know”.



That’s being THE MAN!

He doesn’t get all mushy and say “I love you”
back, he says, “I know”.

This is not only FUNNY, it also shows MASSIVE
confidence, and also shows that he can handle
this crazy stressful moment of not even
knowing if he will survive the freezing.

Here's another example of this confidence, all
without being a jerk, just being charismatic.



Notice his sarcastic use of  "your worship" and notice
how he doesn't get OFFENDED by her "insult" but
rather REINTERPRETS IT AS A COMPLIMENT!

That's because as I said at the top of this article,
when you're not feeling needy, you actually
see the TRUTH about things, and he actually
sees that all she is saying is just a mask
for how she actually is very much
ATTRACTED to and LOVES him.

Women CAN'T HELP BUT RESPOND to this
kind of charisma with ATTRACTION.

And what you’ve just read, even though it’s been
jam-packed with powerful advice, is just the TIP
of the ICEBERG.

To get the FULL picture on this and OTHER
crucial topics for ensuring SUCCESS when
you approach the knockout of your dreams,
I suggest you get my ADVANCED program
at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This program is the CREAM OF THE CROP
when it comes to mastering the art of meeting
a woman anywhere, and attracting her long
term as well.

And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then do that now at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

If you are just starting out with dating,
then definitely the very FIRST thing to
do is get my Dating Wizard book at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks