A MAJOR Secret On How To Approach Women: Making It Clear It's Both Sex AND Respect

I have something VERY important to tell you
about approaching women. It is something
most men get WRONG, and understanding this
will make a MASSIVE difference in your
approaches on women!

If you see a woman you would like to approach,
for example, at a food court somewhere, do any
of the options below provide the best solution?

Answer A:
You take a few minutes to decide the best thing
to say, and then you walk over to her and say it.

Answer B:
You take a few minutes to decide what to say,
and then you carefully walk over but you make
sure she does NOT see you coming, so it can
look like you just happened to be walking
in that direction toward her for something else
and not as if SHE was the main reason you
were walking that way.

Answer C:
You go over right away, directly toward her,
even though this means she can see you coming.
However, you then try to make sure it does NOT
seem as if you are actually interested in her in a
way that has to do with sex.  You chat to her
for an hour about something intelligent so that
it seems this is not about sex.

Answer D:
You go over right away, and you decide to
make it CLEAR you are interested in her
in a way that does have to do with attraction
and with her as a woman,  and you decide
to do this  by TELLING her that you think she
is very sexy and that you would like to go
out with her.  

And the BEST ANSWER is:
NONE of the above.

The REAL answer is to approach her DIRECTLY
even if she sees you walking toward her, and
then when you approach her to chat, you
should NOT verbally start with telling her
that you are attracted to her, and you ALSO
should not try to make it seem as if you
are NOT interested in her either.

Just keep it upbeat.
So, for example, you could go right into
something like this:

"That looks REALLLLLLLLY GOOD! That is what
I like in a woman, someone who enjoys life
and does not deprive herself!"

In this example, you are delivering the
message with flair, with fun, and you
are giving her a playful compliment
without kissing up AT ALL.

Also, the comment is totally spontaneous,
it is not a memorized pick-up line, it
is something born of, and in, the MOMENT,
which makes it feel more REAL instead of
REHEARSED.   

It is also the kind of topic that can easily
lead into a fun chat about guilty pleasures
like chocolate or television watching, plus
it can give you a lead-in to enjoying food
more with some company and you sitting there
with her for your lunch. 

She might comment that actually the food
she is eating is healthy, it is not a
guilty thing, and you can playfully
respond with something like, "Let me guess,
you're a lawyer, right?" with a smirk
as you say it. 

Then she might tell you whatever it is
she really is, or she might ask you
about yourself, all this is good
CONVERSATION.

Then, after just a few moments of this,
you can chill out more and slowly get
to a DEEPER CONNECTION based on shared
VALUES, which also only takes a few
minutes.

And THEN, if you connect, you let her
know that you want to see her again. 
 
So, to recap what happened here is:
First, you DIRECTLY approach her.
You walk right up to her, even if she
sees you from far away.

It is a good thing anyway if she sees this, because women are extremely sexual and if they are looking for men, they are not looking for men who think that women need to be tricked into sex, or men who think that women are not interested in sex, etc, etc. I will get MUCH more into this below, in just a moment.

Then, when you reach her, you chat about anything
that is fun, upbeat, intriguing, or playful,
as long as you ARE ACTUALLY being either fun,
upbeat, intriguing, or playful.  (This gets
back to being congruent, which is an important
topic in itself.)

Allow me to explain WHY this is the best way to
approach a woman, especially if this is NOT a
nightclub or a party environment.

It all stems from the fact that women FEEL a
tremendous pressure to not even ACCIDENTALLY
appear promiscuous.

This newsletter could go on for several YEARS
giving you the entire history of the perceptions
of men about female sexuality, so I will just
give a few serious examples:

For MANY years, even into some of the modern era or psychology and psychiatry, most men thought that women did not even HAVE orgasms!  In other words, most men thought that women were not even really sexual  beings!

Then, on TOP of that, any woman who WAS perceived
as promiscuous was viewed as the absolute LOWEST,
the very BOTTOM of the totem pole of status in society.

Of course, the men who get lots of women are often
viewed as COOL, i.e. Hugh Hefner, or at least viewed
as POWERFUL, i.e. many kings who had tons of women.

And even today, the fact is, most men would like
to have sex with lots of women, but they do not
want a girlfriend who is promiscuous or who even
WAS promiscuous.

Meanwhile, the TRUTH is, that women indeed DO have urges and desires just as INTENSE as men, if not even MORE intense than men.

(Women typically do not seem to be as interested in having the same QUANTITIES of sexual partners with men as men want with women, but women definitely have intense sexual fantasies and desires, and if they were allowed to express themselves without being judged, it would not be such a secret.)  

So women are not looking to screw up their lives
and their reputations.   If a guy approaches a woman
and seems OVERLY into the superficial, especially
if he does this RIGHT OFF THE BAT with the following
kind of comment:

"You're so beautiful."

The BIGGEST REASON that FAILS is NOT just
because it is a form of kissing up!

Kissing up is TERRIBLE, but there is ANOTHER reason this comment of "You're so beautiful" is so bad in most contexts: The WRECKAGE left by such a comment is also because it makes a woman feel that if she REWARDS this kind of approach by even TALKING to him, she feels she will be viewed by him as a SLUT.

I also want to make it clear that it IS possible to get away with starting a conversation with "You're so beautiful" if it is said in a way that is NOT heavy with emotion at all, almost like saying the time.  But MOST guys when they would approach with a,"You're so beautiful" do it with the implication that this "beauty stuff" is a big deal.

She also figures that anyone who FINDS OUT she
talked to him will ALSO feel she is a slut.

This is why women will IMMEDIATELY shut down
ANY guy who shows he is IGNORANT of this issue.

Women are RUTHLESS in this regard, and if you
understand the massive repercussions women pay
if they are not careful about this, it makes
TOTAL SENSE.

Ahhhh, but some guys have GROWN WISE to this,
or so they think.  

And PRESTO, such is born the "OVERLY NICE GUY" APPROACH.

So you have these guys that do EVERYTHING in
their power to NOT come across as interested in
sex.

I used to make this mistake a lot, and when I finally realized how FAR OFF BASE I WAS, I made a MASSIVE 180, and pushed the envelope quite a bit on seeing just how far I could get away with in terms of being sexual right away.

And the answer is that you can get away with a lot as long as in those VERY FIRST FEW MOMENTS you do NOT  trigger her fears of being labelled a slut.

So no matter what, unless you are in clubs or dealing with a special circumstance like a woman on vacation by herself, you STILL need to start without triggering this fear in her.

I'm talking about meeting women in everyday place like coffee shops or stores, not in clubs. In clubs, though, everything happens even FASTER, because the party is already on. 

Back to the "Overly Nice Guy" approach, this is how it goes:

The guy approaches the woman indirectly,
he pretends to be walking the same way as her,
he pretends to be interested in her choice of
stationary, books, purse, movies, etc, etc.

Now, a TINY bit of the NICE GUY stuff is not
the end of the world.

But the TRUTH  is, if you ever used the "Overly
Nice Guy" approach and ended up attracting a
woman who was  a stranger, and you ended up
sleeping with her, and she became your girlfriend
or whatever, it was not because you approached
her with the NICE GUY stuff.

It was because you managed to chat with her WITHOUT
triggering her WORRY of being labelled a SLUT.

Then you got her number or something like that,
and then you met up, and ALL ALONG she WANTED
to have sex with you, and you managed to NOT
trigger fears in this regard.

She was THINKING about how WILD it would be
to go NUTS with you in bed from pretty much the
FIRST MOMENT you approached her.

And the problem is that a lot of guys FORGET THIS,
they pour on so much NICE GUY APPROACH that the
woman figures maybe this guy is NOT into women,
maybe this guy is going to take FOREVER to get
physical with, maybe this guy does not REALIZE
how women have mind-blowing fantasies that
would make most men BLUSH.

So just because women do not want to be labelled sluts,
does NOT mean to in ANY way pretend you are NOT
a sexual person.

And the WAY to demonstrate that you are a MAN,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY showing you understand
women have these sensitivities and concerns,
is to simply APPROACH WOMEN DIRECTLY, yet at
the same time keep the INITIAL CONVERSATION
simply a POSITIVE experience that is NOT
too overtly sexual.

(In a club, though, the sexual can happen
a lot faster since the whole POINT of
a club is really about PARTY TIME.)

She KNOWS the reason you approached her!
She is GLAD you approached her.

She is MORE happy that you approached her
DIRECTLY rather than conveying that you
think you need to be SNEAKY about it by
going in some kind of strange circle or
zig-zag pattern or somehow coming up
behind her.

The most BRILLIANT path toward her is
DIRECTLY toward her in terms of your
actual physical WALK UP to her.

But in terms of the conversation, you convey
masculinity, you convey interest, you convey
your insight into women, by actually NOT
talking about the physical stuff too much
if at ALL, not until you FIRST establish
more of a FLOW of a conversation and
more of a CONNECTION.

So you APPROACH directly.

However, your CHAT should convey your
interest INDIRECTLY, because your APPROACH
already makes it pretty darn clear why
you are chatting to her, and any more
runs the risk of overdoing it and
triggering her fears of being labelled
a slut and SHUTTING you down..

The calmness of your demeanor, the
COMFORT you feel and display while
chatting with her, all THAT is what shows
the right stuff about you and your
intentions in the beginning.

It is even okay to say something this:

***I just wanted to chat with you and
see what you are about.***

Then, you actually see if for REAL
you two can have FUN chatting together,
being playful together.

This is why you should NOT go on for
an hour about something too deep or
intelligent, because the first part
of the chat is about PLAYFULNESS
or at least about some kind of
chemistry.

Before you can play in the bedroom,
you have to be able to play outside
the bedroom.

If you go on for an hour about something
serious, you VAPORIZE the sexual and fun
vibes and you instead create the boring
vibe of an old, empty, dusty, lecture hall.

And THEN, you ALSO test to see if you
both have something ELSE important in
common BESIDES just wanting to go wild
on each other.

And THAT provides the ULTIMATE solution
on how to ensure you do not trigger her
fears of being labelled a slut, because
if there is a REAL connection between
you two, then she cannot BE a slut.

And THEN, you can ALSO tell her once that
she is cute, attractive, or whatever.

Remember, though, that she KNEW that is what
you thought all along when you approached her,
but you can tell her once, (after you two have
connected) just to make it absolutely clear
to her that you intend to pursue this all
the way to the end, for REAL, as a man.

What you have just read is so important, that
it will play a MAJOR role in EVERY SINGLE
interaction you ever have with any woman you
approach that you want to attract.

And yet, as POWERFUL as it is, it is also the
TIP of the iceberg of TONS of other VITAL
insights and strategies on attracting the women
of your choice that you will find in my special
program, "Attraction Accelerators".

I did not sit at HOME coming up with this program.
Instead, I learned it all on the FIELD, through
years of experience, and then only AFTER that,
and after SEEING it WORK for OTHER guys
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Assertive Man - Instant Download!

One of the key traits that defines a
MAN as opposed to a player or a
“nice guy” is that a MAN is assertive,
a "player" is manipulative, and a nice
guy is submissive.

The nice guy tends to only get the
few women who happen to feel sorry
for him in a poor puppy kind of way.

The manipulative player type ends up
showing some form of confidence compared
to the nice guy but ultimately his true
colors show and he loses a quality woman.

The MAN however, he’s an expert at driving
through life in the ASSERTIVE lane.

Here’s where people get confused though:
They think that the only way to be assertive
is to be “in your face” or “nasty”, and this
makes it really hard to consistently be
assertive for them.

And yet, being assertive is a MASSIVE factor
in what turns on women, and it’s not only
your being assertive with women, but when
women seeing you being ASSERTIVE with
everyone in your life- including at the
workplace, with your friends, family,
associates, etc.

What tends to happen with a lot of good guys
is that at some point in our lives a long time
ago, we learned that it’s better to NOT be
assertive, this way we wouldn’t be considered
a “threat” to the bullies, we wouldn’t get
any undue attention, and we would be more
“submissive” just to get along.

Unfortunately, we often eventually EXPLODE
after years and years of bottling up our own
self-esteem and repressing our own dignity
and even repressing our own desires.

Which ends up causing us to go to the OPPOSITE
extreme and blowing up on the people we feel
are being unfair to us. And when we explode,
our behavior is not seen as assertive, it’s seen
as imbalanced, irrational, and nasty.

The real answer is to be more ASSERTIVE in general,
which solves so many problems and prevents the
build-up that can explode later otherwise.

Let me give you an example of a technique
of being more assertive:

THE BROKEN RECORD

In “the broken record” technique, you simply
make sure you know what you want, and you
keep on repeating that every time you hear
the other person saying they want you to do
something else.

This also involves another strategy called
using the “I” statement, because you are
saying it’s YOU who wants or feels something,
thereby taking on full responsibility for how
you feel, and this actually is empowering
because it means you have the right to
express yourself and not have to blame
anyone else for it, and that others should
respect the way you feel.

So here’s how the broken record and the
I statement could work together in a situation:

Let’s say you approach a woman and you chat
and you want to see her again.

Now, you know what you want- you want to
see her again.

Watch how being assertive is actually attractive
here:

You say:

“I enjoyed meeting you. We should meet up.
How’s Tuesday night for some Starbucks and
wonderful conversation with yours truly?”

She says:

“Oh, Tuesday night I tutor piano lessons.”

The non-assertive guy already feels REJECTED
and then, maybe but not likely, says something,
but it’s very UNSPECIFIC at best, like:

“Maybe we can meet up sometime”.

Being more assertive, he would say:

“I want to see you again. How about before your lesson.”

(Notice the absence of a question mark, it's almost
a STATEMENT rather than a question.)

Or even:

“I want to meet up. How about after?
Tuesday is a great day for me, but if it doesn’t
work by you, then let me know what day does.”

If she says a day that does NOT work for you,
like for example Monday, a non assertive man
might AGREE to it just because he doesn’t want
to displease the woman or lose her, and of course
the fear shows up in subtle ways, so even when
he says “yes” he has actually LOST the woman
because she can tell in his body language that
something has just been given up in terms of
his own dignity.

This PERSISTENCE with a relaxed demeanor
shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you believe
you have value, it shows also on a subtle level
that you get what you want in life, which is another
sign of a winner. And none of this is being a jerk.

Similarly, when a woman sees how you deal
with pressure from OTHER people in your
life, it can be a turn on for her to see that you
are assertive with them as well.

So let’s say at work everyone is used to taking
advantage of you helping them with their work,
and asking you to do an unfair amount of work.

One of the things you can do here is again
the broken record:

Example:

“Ted, I need you to help me this weekend again
with completing the project.”

You:

“I can’t do that, as I have a major family
engagement this weekend”.

Him or Her To You:

“But this is really important, I don’t know what’s
going on.”

You:

"I understand, and I really have a major engagement
this weekend that is going to take all my time.”

You’ll notice that after you keep on STICKING
to your “broken record that keeps repeating.”
they will eventually BREAK and give in.

They may say something like:

“Okay, but can you at least sign these forms
that allow me to use the resource centre this
weekend?”

You:

“Yes, I can do that.”

Then they will say:

"Thank you."

And you’ll say:

“You’re welcome.”

Notice how in the above statements, you
were using "I" statements and repeating
like a broken record, sticking to your point.

Here’s another thing:

Once you’ve stated your assertive position,
don’t EXPLAIN it for a half hour. 

Instead, seal your lips.

By going on and on explaining yourself, you
are actually WEAKENING the entire assertive
core to your message.

This INCLUDES of course in your interactions
with women when you are in a RELATIONSHIP
as well!

Being assertive never ends, from the moment
you meet her, to long after you are having
wild nights together and beyond.

But the thing is, it’s important to realize that this is
a TRANSFORMATION that must come GRADUALLY
and consistently, with an intelligent ROAD-MAP for
how to go about all this so that you STICK to the
path of becoming "The Assertive Man".

Now unlike all the hype out there for everything
from bodybuilding magazines that feature steroid
injected men who claim they got their results from
some workout routine, or the hype and outlandish
claims from some folks who sell "pick up artist
tactics", what I am teaching you here, as you can
see, actually makes SENSE.

It’s not HYPE.

It’s based on REAL RESEARCH in the real world.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
I have MOUNTAINS-FULL of effective strategies
and insights on this topic, including explicit
clear examples of how to apply ALL the
different strategies for skyrocketing your
assertiveness with women all without
coming across as a jerk or arrogant,
and all in a way that feels it’s consistent
with your personality.

It's all inside my special audio program called
"The Assertive Man". This is a jam-packed
program that had to go well OVER 1-hour in
length in order to include all the crucial content.

The greatest part of all this is that you can be
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I could easily be charging over $100 for this program,
especially since the strategies and concepts you will
learn are not just something you are going to use once,
but will prove to be ESSENTIAL over and over again
for the rest of your life, anytime you interact with women.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks