The Human Factor In Your Success With Women

The most powerful lessons in my own life
all came NOT from the times I realized I
was RIGHT, but actually from the times
I realized I was WRONG.

Hey, realizing you are RIGHT about something
is great, I’m not knocking it.

However, it’s very RARE that people ever
DEEPLY realize they are doing something
WRONG until it’s TOO LATE.

We all know the story of the TITANIC.
By the time the captain knew he made a
grave ERROR, it was TOO LATE.

Similarly, when it comes to women, whether
it is DESTROYING a relationship with a
perfectly  good woman, or DESTROYING
your own power of attraction when you
approach women, most people NEVER
realize the mistake till it’s WAY too late.

So this got me thinking, WHY is it that as
humans, we DON’T want to see our own
MISTAKES until it is usually TOO LATE?

I spent a long time thinking about this, and
the REASON I came up with is actually SIMPLE:
Being WRONG often means TOUGH WORK
IS AHEAD.

And admitting we are WRONG about something
that we are EMOTIONALLY attached to thinking
we are “right” about means accepting that there
is some EMOTIONALLY TOUGH WORK AHEAD.
It’s as simple as THAT.

Who the heck wants to admit he is doing something
WRONG?

And yet, BECAUSE of this human weakness, it is
PRECISELY those men who are NOT emotionally
lazy, who are NOT attached to ego,  that end up
GETTING EVERYTHING THEY WANT,
because they end up learning what is the RIGHT
path toward GETTING what they want.

So, in my own life, it was only AFTER I had
finally ADMITTED that no woman was going
to just LAND in my lap because I was a good
boy or just because I believed in God, or just
because I thought “it should happen eventually
through sheer statistics” that I finally DID
break through to get MASSIVE results.

For YEARS AND YEARS I stuck to my FAITH
in my own bullshit beliefs.  To somehow be OPEN
to the idea that the very things I clung to with all
my heart were WRONG was not only SCARY,
BUT IT PISSED ME OFF TO NO END!

Those of you who have read my first book
“The Dating Wizard” can tell exactly what
my mindset was, because that book was
written not that long after I had made all
those discoveries and I was still in shock
of the results of what happens when you
do things RIGHT.  So you will notice that
I am quite emotional in my language and
expression in that book.

I've learned to chill out since then.       

But let me tell you, when I first started to
REALIZE how WRONG I was about women and
about attraction, I was PISSED at MYSELF
for not SEEING what finally seemed now
to be so OBVIOUS.

You see, what happens is when you are IMMERSED
in the wrong beliefs, someone could SHOW YOU
the RIGHT beliefs and you will STILL DENY
THEM and actually NOT believe them.

So powerful is the power of EGO that it will
be BLIND to all the facts in the world and it
will STICK to the total bullshit that it has been
immersed in and brainwashed in since birth.

Now, this goes a lot FURTHER as well.

It goes right into the very INTERACTIONS you
have with women in terms of the conversations.

Before a woman can get PHYSICALLY naked
with you, she usually needs to feel at least a
certain amount of EMOTIONAL intimacy.

Not the drunk party girls, but most girls.
And even the drunk party girls, if you
removed the alcohol from the equation,
they too would need the emotional
intimacy. That’s why ALCOHOL is
such a MAJOR part of the equation
for certain types of environments.

Now, in a conversation, the biggest thing
on a deep psychological level is the feeling
of CONFIRMATION of IDENTITY.
This means not only ACKNOWLEDGING
another human being, but also UNDERSTANDING
them. 

This is NOT the same thing as kissing up and
just AGREEING with everything they say.

It’s about making an EFFORT to remove your
own biases from an interaction so that you
UNDERSTAND her when she is speaking to
you.

It sounds simple, but I PROMISE you, that I
have seen literally THOUSANDS of pick ups
over the years, and without exception, the
guys that get the most LASTING results,
so that they don’t just get a woman’s number
but the woman wants to actually KEEP ON
seeing the guy, is when the guy actually
CONNECTS to her on a deep level.

It all sounds so simple right?
"Just listen to her."

But the problem is that most guys THINK
they are listening, when in reality they are
only HEARING the parts that they themselves
CARE about.  They never stop to think about
the parts of the chat that maybe SHE cares
about but that they weren’t noticing.

Listen, I’m sure the problem is vice-versa
too, that plenty of women don’t have listening
skills. In fact, this is why a lot of guys
will have a chat with a woman they initially
were attracted to, but then say something
like, "There was something I didn't like
about her".

On a subconscious level, you KNOW when someone
is genuine or not, even if you can't articulate
the details right away.

So let’s say you see a woman somewhere.
How quickly are you JUDGING her on things?
For example, let’s say she has a tattoo on her arm.
And let’s say you even ASK her about it.

Are you already JUDGING HER in your own mind
so that no matter WHAT SHE SAYS, it’s not really
being ACCEPTED by your emotional side?

If that is the case, then what is happening, on a
subconscious level, is that you are not really
LISTENING to the details about her explanation
of that tattoo and what it means and why she got it.

So THAT means that you now can’t really provide
USEFUL feedback to make this conversation
MEANINGFUL.

If she went on a TRIP somewhere, and to you the
interesting about trips is meeting the people, but
to her it’s the chance to get away and have fun,
then it’s important that you are able to put yourself
INTO that perspective that she has so you can
see what this all means from her point of view.

And NONE of this means you have to AGREE
with ANYTHING she says or does.  In fact, a woman
will find a man who truly UNDERSTANDS her and
appreciates what she is saying, even if he doesn’t
AGREE, a trillion times more compelling than a man
who just agrees with everything she says but never
really UNDERSTOOD her in the first place.

This is not some “feel good” talk here.
It doesn’t mean you are going to change a woman.
It doesn’t mean there is going to be world peace
tomorrow.

What it MEANS is that the most POWERFUL
way to go from STRANGER to being the man
she WANTS to see again is to CONNECT with
her on a deep level.

This has NOTHING to do with being a nice guy.
You might EVEN find that once you really DO
understand her, SHE IS INTERESTED IN YOU
but you are now LESS interested in HER.

But at least then you have the CHOICE.

This stuff goes DEEEEEEEEEEP.

Most women WISH that they can meet a man
who REALLY understands all that I am talking
about here.

And the most powerful program on the PLANET
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Don’t let yourself make the same mistake that most
men make, which is to realize all the things that are
in this program, but only learn them AFTER you
lose a great woman, or AFTER you let a great
woman pass you by.

I WISH a future version of myself could have
“visited” me in the past and told me all the
things I needed to learn but had REFUSED
to see since it meant that I was WRONG.

I wish I could have SHOUTED at MYSELF
and said, “IT’S ME FROM THE FUTURE!
YOU CAN TRUST ME, SINCE I’M YOU!
THIS IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO!”

I realize that BELIEVING me might be hard.
That’s why I’ve made sure to give you TONS
of powerful content in these newsletters over
the years. 

At the same time, what you will find in this
program will give you the FULL PICTURE
and take you beyond what you learn in these
newsletters, as these newsletters are still just
the tip of a MASSIVE iceberg.  Get that
‘ENTIRE ICEBERG’ in my actual program.

It’s at:

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By the way, if you still doubt me, consider this:
What is the ONE thing that humans STILL keep
screwing up, even after ALL their history
and ALL their technology and ALL their
developments?

It’s HUMAN RELATIONS.

We can send a man to the moon, we can
develop artificial intelligence, we can cure
many diseases, but we can’t seem to find
a way to get rid of HUMAN CONFLICT.

Now if human harmony is important for
even day-to-day boring MUNDANE matters,
imagine how IMPORTANT it is for  two
HUMANS if they are going to become
PHYSICALLY INTIMATE in the most
POWERFUL way!!!!!!

Again, this program is at:

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Finally, let me end with one last point:

Because MOST PEOPLE suck so freakin BADLY
at these skills, THE BAR IS NOT HIGH AT ALL!

That means if you just do a DECENT JOB with
these skills, you are TOWERING over most of
the so called “competition” from other men.

So stop letting precious TIME go by.
Take ACTION NOW to get the woman you WANT
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Till next time,

Michael Marks
  

Getting Back Together After Breaking Up?

One of the areas I don't speak too much about is getting back together after breaking up.  The reason is that usually the same thing or things that caused the break-up the first time will continue to cause breakups a second, third, fourth, and billionth time as well.

Now don't get me wrong, it's not like I don't fully understand just how powerful the desire can sometimes be to want to get back together with a woman.



At times, it can feel absolutely overwhelming, as if it is tearing you apart if you DON'T get back with her.

However, I suggest that you BE STRONG, and before you do anything, read the suggestions in this article. Going back to an ex when it is the WRONG move will only throw your emotional state into an even GREATER depth of anxiety.

The following situations are the ONLY situations where you should try to get back together with a girl after breaking up with her, regardless of who did the break-up or if it was mutual.

1. IF YOU SCREWED UP AND YOU HAVE SOLVED THIS ISSUE

So let's say, for example, you used too many "pick up artist mind-game tactics" on a girl you loved, whether it was back-handed compliments that were really intended to lower her confidence, which is a manipulative tactic that supposedly gets a woman to appreciate you more but in reality usually ends up making a good woman with high self esteem just lose TRUST in you...

OR....

If you were playing "hard to get" to the point that she felt that you just didn't appreciate her and she figured she better move on, the main thing is that you know it was YOUR fault and you know to never play this stupid ass sh*t on her again...

OR....

Any OTHER major mistakes that involved not treating her right, the key here is that you realize it was YOUR screw up, and you have put in the WORK to CHANGE yourself in that area or those areas where you needed to, so that you will NOT make those errors again. If you've done all that, THEN it's okay to seriously try to get back with an ex-girlfriend after a break-up.

The reason is because there is now EVIDENCE for why things will be DIFFERENT in the future, and also because it's not "kissing up" when you are the one who made the mistake.  It's not losing dignity or self-respect in any way.  She will only gain more respect for you if you are authentic in meaning you have learned from your mistakes.

2. IF SHE SCREWED UP, AND SHE IS THE ONE PURSUING YOU NOW, AND SHE TOTALLY OWNS UP TO HER MISTAKES, AND IF YOU CAN FORGIVE HER.

So, if SHE is the one who made the screw-up, and if SHE is the one who is pursuing YOU to get back together again, and if YOU can truly forgive her, THEN it's okay to get back together and give it a serious try again.



If she is the one who made the screw-up, you CANNOT be the one to pursue her to try to CONVINCE her of how she screwed up.  That is just totally wrong, and will cause you to lose self-esteem, and if anything will only make her think that she DID NOT SCREW UP since after all she still has YOU chasing after HER.

It MUST be HER that tries to convince YOU to give it another try, if it was HER who screwed up, and also she must totally acknowledge how she screwed up, and she must also provide serious evidence to you for why she WON'T do this major screw up again.

AND after all that, YOU must seriously be honest with yourself if you can FORGIVE her.

Because even if she is genuinely sorry, even if she shows all the right signs for why she won't do this screw-up again, if YOU on some deep level still can't forgive her, the relationship will NOT work, as you will carry resentment with you and you will still see everything through the filter of not being able to trust her, and you will see worst-case scenarios in every behavior she does, even if she is innocent.

By the way, if she was UNFAITHFUL to you, or if she played games trying to get you to feel that maybe she was with some other guy just to make you jealous, I don't suggest you go back to her even if you can forgive her. I believe in getting a GREAT girl, not just getting SOME girl that you are attracted to. 

3. IF YOU BOTH SCREWED UP AND YOU BOTH FULLY OWN UP TO THE MISTAKES, AND YOU BOTH PROVIDE EVIDENCE FOR LEARNING FROM THESE MISTAKES, AND YOU CAN BOTH FORGIVE EACH OTHER.  

If both you AND her screwed up, and you BOTH totally own up to your mistakes AND you both can demonstrate how you will be DIFFERENT in the future, whether it is through explaining exactly how and why things will be different, or any other convincing evidence, well then it still makes sense to give the relationship another try IF you both can forgive each other as well.

It needs to be all those things- the mutual learning from mistakes, the mutual forgiveness, the mutual evidence for why things will be different, and the mutual humility about the whole situation.

Well, if you both have THAT going on, let me tell you, you are both in for some of the most powerful, explosive make-up times you have EVER had :)

And if you'd like to make sure that you KEEP things going as powerfully as possible, or if you are serious about finding that one special woman, I suggest you get my most advanced program on this topic by going HERE:

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This program will BLOW YOUR MIND on this topic, and is absolutely essential if you are serious about getting into a fantastic long-term relationship with a woman who has it all, inside and out.

Till next time,

Michael Marks