Conquering Fear And Attracting Women

When it comes to being successful with women,
conquering various FEARS becomes absolutely
essential. 

For example, starting from the first step,
which is the actual APPROACH, if a guy
fears the approach, he will never meet
ENOUGH women in order to actually find
the RIGHT woman.

It is not enough to be able to SOMETIMES
approach women, but rather to approach
TONS and TONS of women. 

If a man wants to meet the right kind of
woman, the kind of woman he really wants,
it is not enough to just approach women
here and there.  Meeting the right woman
means the kind of woman who has the
right qualities on the outside AND
on the inside, i.e. regarding her
personality, her values, her kindness,
her loyalty, etc.

And quality women are not EVERYWHERE, it
takes some SEARCHING to find them. 

If a man does not ABSOLUTELY AND TOTALLY GET
OVER the anxiety of approaching women, he is
simply asking for MIRACLES and depending on LUCK.

If you have approached a few women in the past,
and you think that counts as a serious effort,
it does NOT. 

It is not only because you must approach TONS of
women to find the right one, it is also because
it takes TONS of approaches to get GREAT at the
skill of all this as well.  

And the problem is that the FEAR that stands in
the way is a very SNEAKY thing. 

Fear never wants you to THINK that it is just
FEAR.  Instead, FEAR likes to TAKE OVER YOUR
LOGIC and actually DISTORT your thinking and
CONVINCE you why you should GIVE IN to your fear.

It will tell you things such as:

ONLY WIERDOS APPROACH WOMEN WHO ARE STRANGERS.
PICK UP DOES NOT WORK.
MEETING WOMEN IS NOT WORTH THE EFFORT.
ALL WOMEN ARE TERRIBLE. 
WOMEN WILL JUST GET UPSET IF THEY ARE APPROACHED.
ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME, THEY ARE ALL MEAN/NASTY, etc.

Of course, the terrible thing about fear is that
no matter HOW MANY TIMES one is shown that there
is nothing to fear, the mind that is fearful will
simply CREATE NEW fears.

So let's just say that a guy finally is SHOWN
proof of how pick up DOES work, he will then
say something like "It does not work for me".

If he is shown how it DOES work for him, he
will then say "But that woman that it worked
on is crazy".

If he is shown that the woman he got with
using the arts and skills of pick up is
not crazy, he will then later sabotage
himself by fearing something else, i.e.
that she is after his money even if she
is not.

By the way, I'm not saying that all women
are great, not at ALL.  In fact, I am saying
that meeting the RIGHT woman will in fact
take meeting MANY women, and in order to
SUCCEED, you must possess a clear VISION
of your goal and STICK to it and do NOT
let fear stop your persistence.

One of the things I also do is teach men
how to SPOT the right kinds of qualities
in women and how to quickly detect the
WRONG QUALITIES so you can prevent getting
yourself into a relationship with the
kind of women who would only make your
life miserable.

I do NOT believe in trying to CHANGE a woman,
especially not in trying to MAKE a woman learn
how to be a decent human being, or how to make
a woman VALUE something that you value.

Instead, I believe it is vital to DETECT
what kind of woman you are dealing with
as soon as possible, and if you detect
the woman is NOT right for your future,
to LET HER GO immediately and move on
to finding the NEXT woman.

Most men DO NOT DO THIS, especially if
a woman is beautiful.

They can't POSSIBLY let her go, so they
start to SACRIFICE their own IDEALS
regarding things like fidelity, loyalty,
and other high standards, and they
do this JUST because the woman is
attractive.

Of course, when a man does this he erodes
his own self-esteem, and he slowly becomes
miserable and he also not only eventually
loses the woman because she loses interest
in a man that has no sense of self-respect,
but he ALSO finds it almost impossible to
meet OTHER women because the very fact
he sold his soul, so to speak, to some
woman who mistreated him, has now made
him LOSE CONFIDENCE IN GENERAL, so he
now starts to fail with ALL women.
 
It is a vicious cycle.
It can only be STOPPED with a giant
SELF-SLAP to the FACE, figuratively
speaking, and the realization that
NO WOMAN IS WORTH SACRIFICING ONE'S
OWN DIGNITY. 

But if one FEARS that he will NEVER get
the right woman, he will then settle on
the WRONG woman that treats him like
garbage.  
 
But you cannot live in FEAR.

One of the greatest things about Bootcamp is
that you are FORCED to take MASSIVE ACTION,
on TONS OF WOMEN, so there is simply no way for
you to live by FEAR.

You will then see the results in real life
in front of your very own eyes as you start
to actually notice IMMEDIATE improvements with
women that you are getting in real time.

You will see a RANGE of women, of various personalities
and looks, and you will EXPERIENCE the feeling of
conquering your fear again and again and again
and again, for 2 full days straight. 

Obviously, I ALSO teach you a TON of strategies
for increasing your actual SKILL as well, so
that you have the highest possible chance with
EVERY woman, and it is this combination of skill
AND confidence that really skyrockets your
results with women.

So I am keeping today's newsletter very
short, so that you will remember the
ONE MASSIVE AND MAJOR POINT that will
affect EVERY level of your success
with women, from the first approach
to her, all the way to getting physical,
all the way to being in a relationship:

STOP LETTING FEAR PREVENT YOU FROM TAKING
THE RIGHT ACTIONS THAT YOU KNOW YOU NEED
TO TAKE IN ORDER TO PROGRESS YOUR SUCCESS
WITH WOMEN.  

Realize also that FEAR can be very subtle
as well.  It can tell you that you are too
tired every night and every day, for years
on end, as an excuse for why you can and
should not approach women.  Fear can even
give you a false sense of security, i.e.
it will tell you that "tomorrow" will be
the right day to approach women, and of
course "tomorrow" never comes, because
the fear will just find a NEW way to
stop you when "tomorrow" comes.

If you're sick and tired of just
DREAMING and THINKING about success
with women and you are ready to take
serious action to change your life
with women, then sign up for bootcamp
today. 

You can check out more details about
bootcamp by going here:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Power Of Your MIND In Attracting Women - UPDATED March 27, 2014

Today, I'd like to help you tap into your
"INTERNAL GAME", which is a term
referring to all that happens in your MIND
for success, including  your ability to enter
the right resourceful states of mind.

The truth is that internal game is CRUCIAL
if you want success with women, ESPECIALLY
if you want long-lasting success with women.

Mastering internal game is the "secret ingredient"
that enables you to not only approach and attract
women without using memorized pick up lines, but
it also helps you at every stage of an interaction; it
helps you succeed at approaching women, at getting
physically intimate, and at having successful long-term
relationships.

The best part of all this is that it's not a game.
It's the real you.

Women will respect this development and
be attracted to you because they simply
can't NOT be attracted to its power:
It's too rare, too precious, too liberating,
and too empowering even just to WITNESS
a man like this, for any woman to be able 
to IGNORE him.

The FIRST thing to become aware of is
all the TRASH in your mind that is holding
you back from being as powerful as you can be.

99% of this trash is all FEAR based.

And the craziest part of all, is that 99% of these
fears are ABSURD.

We've just become so damn good at brainwashing
ourselves that these fears are IMPORTANT.

For example, when you see a woman you'd like
to talk to, and you don't approach her, it's not
because you are going to go to jail if you talk
to her.

And you don't avoid her because you think she
will attack you, or hurt you.

The biggest reason for avoidance is to avoid
having our EGO damaged.

We don't want to RISK damaging something
that doesn't even EXIST.

Our ego is our own ARTIFICIAL CREATION.

We create it, and we arbitrarily decide what's
good for it, and what's bad for it. As if we
KNOW what's good for us.

But the truth is, the BEST thing you can do
is banish that ego, because all it does is set
up limiting options for your life, because
you won't do anything that might damage
that ego. And that means you won't ever
GROW as a person, and worst of all, you
will never be free of fear.

Because you will always be living with the
fear of, "What if something comes along that
might damage my ego?""

But if you throw your ego out, then you
can EMBRACE whatever the hell you need
to do to grow and learn.

This is why it's actually good to NOT get
fantastic success with women right away,
because if you never "fail", then you will
be TERRIFIED of it happening, as you
have no clue what it might be like, and
your imagination will make it far worse
than it is.

Life is nothing but a bunch of short moments.
None of these moments is something to be
afraid of, but we arbitrarily decide to create
FEARS based on our own artificial GROUPING
of moments.

So for example, seeing a beautiful woman is not a thing to fear.
It's actually pretty cool, right?

Okay, now, walking UP to a woman is also
nothing to fear, you do this all the time
without even THINKING about it, let's
say if she happens to be on the bus or
train or whatever and you are walking
past her. Or if you are in a crowd,
and you don't even notice her there.

So, clearly walking near or up to a
woman is nothing to fear.

Now, TALKING to woman who is beautiful
is nothing to fear either. We do it all the time
and think nothing of it if it's not about doing
an actual "pick-up".

It all only becomes a problem or FEAR
when we attach EGO to it. So we decide
to make it a fear when we want to get her
APPROVAL of our own worth.

We think, "Damn, if only she would LIKE
me, then things would be AWESOME!"

"Then I would feel GREAT!"

Now, this actually isn't true though, it's
actually YOU allowing YOURSELF to
feel that way, but you are only giving
yourself permission to feel this if SHE
says you are great, or desirable, etc.

Do you see how we are the ones making
the problem? We are the ones creating
the pain?

The truth is that no THING brings any
emotion to anyone unless we ALLOW it.

As soon as you get the thing you think will bring you happiness, the moment lasts for a brief moment, and then it's GONE, and you start to feel a LACK again--unless you start looking at the JOURNEYS OF LIFE as the actual joy and not the destination.

Sure, enjoy the destination when you are there,
but realize it's the journey that's the bigger
deal. This is why the coolest people constantly
challenge themselves with new cool things.

But we ALLOW this thing called EGO to
TAKE OVER and all it does is try to CONTROL
everything so that it doesn't get hurt- and yet
THIS is what causes us all the pain. So
it avoids challenges and avoids any potential
ego risk.

And yet here's the thing- if you can just
FORGET about what you can GET from
a woman, including even just her approval,
and you instead just live in the MOMENT,
and stop focusing on the past pain, and
stop thinking about how GOOD things
would be in the FUTURE if you "just had her",
you would do SOOOOOO much better
in the actual pick up with her!

The reason for this, is because your mind
and emotions are INFINITELY powerful
when they are not being driven in opposite
directions.

Your mind is the most UPDATED model of
a SUPER POWERFUL tool that has helped
your ancestors come up with all kinds of
brilliant ways to triumph against challenges
like hunger, horrible weather, traveling
across wild oceans, surviving life amongst
dangerous beasts and animals, surviving
against enemies, a mind that has been
resourceful enough to come up with
creative ways to also win friends and
allies and to attract a female mate to
continue your genes from generation
to generation.

The thing is, this mind that is more
sophisticated than the greatest computer
gets all JAMMED and screwed up when
it's being given OPPOSITE messages-
i.e. "GET THAT GIRL!", vs. "DON'T
GET YOUR EGO HURT!"

It's like having your foot on the brake
and the accelerator at the same time.

So how do you get rid of all these ego-based
FEARS?

Well, one powerful thing you can do is to
learn to STOP thinking about anything other
than the MOMENT.

This doesn't mean to start acting like an
impulsive idiot, what it means is to start
focusing on the PRESENT and to stop
doing things out of the PAIN of the PAST,
and to stop doing things for some type
of FUTURE "NIRVANA".

The truth is that the past doesn't exist,
the future doesn't exist, they are only
in your MIND, and also NO "THING" will
bring you some type of 'NIRVANA',
however the JOURNEY is what is the
JOY in things. So learning to enjoy
the PROCESS is what will make
your entire LIFE meaningful and
rewarding.

So when you see a woman you like,
let THAT in itself be the motivation
to just TALK to her, stop thinking
what it will LEAD to, because that
is the FUTURE, and thinking about
things other than the present will only
DETRACT from your ability to DEAL
with the present.

And the whole POINT of this training
of your mind, is to realize anyway that
there is no such thing as the past or future,
and that the joy is in the MOMENT.

Of course, by being in the PRESENT,

you will chat with her in a way that

SHOWS you are in the PRESENT.

You will, for example, take note of the
MOMENT, and make a comment that is
IN THE PRESENT. She, in turn, will
respond by being in the moment-
for example, if you are both at the
supermarket counter line-up, and it's
taking forever for the person at the
front to find his wallet, cash, or
coupon, etc, and you say "I'm so
hungry, I think I'll eat this loaf
of bread right here and pay for
it when I get up to the front",
the woman will SENSE that you
are in the present and it will disarm
her.

She will not feel the need to resist you,
because there is nothing TO resist; you
are simply being in the PRESENT, which
is exactly where you ALL are.

And, more importantly, because you are
not worried about the past or future, your
DELIVERY of these words will show in
your voice, in your body language, in your
expression on your face of a certain type
of strength, and it will show in a certain
type of humor that conveys you are secure
and that you are not so fragile that you
need to be so serious about everything.

And all this will CHARM her.

This is just a TINY SPECK of the

MASSIVE POWER that exists by tapping

into the skill of being in the PRESENT.

And let mention something:
Even if this DOESN'T lead to always getting
her in BED with you, you know for SURE
that this INCREASES YOUR CHANCES
ABOUT A BILLION TIMES MORE with
women in general by adopting this attitude
than by being focused on anything EXCEPT
the present.

If you start thinking too much about the future
and past, you will come up with a BILLION
reasons NOT to take action, your ego will
start interfering with things, and you will
also sound WAY WORSE when you do
finally decide to take action, because you
will be emotionally coming from a place
of confusion. That type of weakness will 
be conveyed in your every subtlety, from
your voice, to your mannerisms, to your
smile or lack of it.

When you can finally let GO of your
EGO and let go of anything but the
PRESENT, you will start to see a
friggen whole other UNIVERSE
open up for you, and you are going
to have more women, of higher quality
as well, than you could ever squeeze
into even a thousand lifetimes.

Your ego is like an EMOTIONAL POLLUTION
MAGNET for your mind - it stores all kinds
of emotional TRASH that does NOTHING
for you. It's a tricky sucker, because it
makes you think it's protecting you,
it makes you think it IS you, it makes
you think that you are your current
emotions or thoughts even if they are
totally destructive and negative and
weak.

And it makes you think that the REWARD
is in the destination, rather than in the
PROCESS and in the ATTITUDE.

Here's a great exercise:
Next time you see a woman you'd like
to chat to, see how much INSPIRATION
YOU CAN PACK INTO THE MOMENTS
YOU SPEND TALKING TO HER.

I PROMISE YOU, that there is magnificence
in every single thing that you currently think
is MUNDANE or BORING.

I don't care if you are in the line at the
supermarket, or if you are on the bus
and she is reading the newspaper, there
is something AWESOME or FUNNY
or INSPIRING or BEAUTIFUL in it.

Don't let the brainwashed world turn YOU
into a brainwashed person who is a zombie
with his most empowering and awesome
emotions turned off.

The trick is to be in the PRESENT.
The reason you find it hard to "come up"
with cool stuff to say is because you are
trying to be PERFECT;it is because you
don't want to fail. Trust me, I understand this,
I'm human and once in a rare while, this
happens to me too, even after training
for years. But if it happens, it's only
because I've let myself get wrapped
up in something other than the MOMENT.

So the trick is to work into your life

a way of BREAKING this habit.

For years, I used to every morning and
every night go out and pour cold water
buckets over me, (something I learned
from a very cool person) and it TOTALLY 
got me out of the "thinking" state and into
BEING IN THE MOMENT!!!!!

You may want to try this, after consulting
with your doctor, or you can come up with
something equally state-changing.

One final message I want to say is that
PERSPECTIVE is your greatest friend.

So often, the greatest PAIN we experience
is also the ONLY thing that allows us to
truly LEARN and to GROW.

Think about it: How often did you ONLY

learn a great lesson the HARD WAY?

This is why the guys who get the greatest
success are usually the guys who had the
greatest amount of "failures"- so it starts
to make you realize that actually "failures"
are the only way to learn the MOST.

So is it really failure, if failure is the ONLY
way to great success? It's actually pretty
CRAZY that we live in a society that
calls "not getting what you want" as
"failure" when it REALLY should be
called ONE MASSIVE STEP CLOSER
TO SUCCESS.

Chances are, that if you really suffer
"failure", you are ready to LEARN
from it.

And regarding PERSPECTIVE, I want you
to start letting go of any HATE AND PAIN
that you are storing inside of you regarding
ANY woman who has EVER hurt you.

This was the hardest thing for me to do,
and once I did this, I started to TAKE OFF.

And guess what, those people who hurt you,
very often are the ones who actually need
the love the most. So of course if you are
being abused by any woman, then you should
get the HELL out of there, but there's no
reason to let this person bring YOU down
by making you have to carry all that negativity
with you for life. And when you realize that
these people who hurt others are the ones
who are hurting the most, it's much easier
to LET GO of those negative emotions.

Again, it's the EGO and it's being in the
PAST or the FUTURE that holds us back.
All these things don't even EXIST, and
they hold us back from the only thing
that DOES exist- the PRESENT.

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