Approaching A Woman Who Is A "10": An Example From Real Life

Just wanted to share a quick but important
letter before we get into the article today:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
the "Real World Bootcamps" is that I’m
constantly seeing the TRUTH of what works
and what doesn’t with attracting the
women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop,
don’t go directly up to her which might
surprise her, instead let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.  

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.
And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
You might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

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Michael Marks

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Dealing With "Flaky" Women And Approaching "Moving Targets"

Sometimes the answers to guys' questions
about "pick up" and attracting women can be
VERY useful to many OTHER guys.

That's the case today, so here we go:  
    
***LETTER FROM A READER***

"Hi Michael,

On Sunday I met this gorgeous girl from
south Africa. I managed to get her email
by being THE MAN. Unfortunately we have
a very limited time frame because she's
leaving on wednesday. So, it's most
likely sex or nothing.

I'm from Berlin and she only speaks a
little German. So, we communicate in
English using email. This is cumbersome
because she's only online in pubs and
internet cafes.

However, I think she's playing games
(gorgeous and probably used to lots
of ass kissing). On sunday she mentioned
that she would like to go to a museum
today (Monday). So I proposed to visit
a museum together via email.

First she agreed and then canceled the
date in a second email ten minutes later
claiming she just met a friend.

She said she would get back later today
to fix a date for tomorrow (tuesday).
She didn't. So currently I'm thinking
about waiting till Tuesday noon until
I send her the following mail:

-------------8<---------snip------------->
Hi xxxx,

This is the second time you kind of stood
me up. So, I think your playing games.
However, I don't like being played with.

Please think about it. If you agree that
this is inappropriate behavior I'll accept
an apology and we should go out tonight.
Otherwise, enjoy your trip and good luck
with your internship.

x
-------------8><---------snip------------->

Is this appropriate or should I just ignore
her and see if she gets back? Is the
language OK? Am I too rude?

It's also possible that she's just hung over
from Sunday night. But then she should say so.
What do you think?

Thanks for any advice and your excellent programs.

Ronnie"

***MY REPLY***

Hi xxxxx,

Thanks for contacting me and for the kind words.

Regarding your question, I think the best
thing to do is NOT to IN ANY WAY let her
know she is pissing you off until you have
LEVERAGE in the situation.

And since she has just met you, there isn't
much leverage in your situation right now.

Showing frustration at this point to her,
or telling her that you think she is standing
you up, etc, will just come across as her
being the prize.

Also, as you mention, it's possible that
there are reasons, i.e. hung over, etc.

I would just PERSIST, but in the way that
a man who HAS OPTIONS and is ALREADY in
a great mood would persist.

And I would keep it ALL playful. 

Tell her to get her ass to the museum or
anywhere else, in a PLAYFUL confident way
that shows NONE OF THIS is bothering you
because you are the kind of man who
UNDERSTANDS the reality of a hot woman
and that until she knows you better
it's simply hard for her to know who
you really are and how awesome it is
to be with you. 

And think how you would behave as the
MAN WHO IS IN A GREAT MOOD with tons
of options who just happens to also
find her attractive.

One of the great ironies is that until
you EXPERIENCE the amount of choice that
a hottie gets, it often seems almost
IMPOSSIBLE to understand things from
that perspective, and yet it is THAT
perspective that is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important for success.

Think and behave like a HOT woman who
is on CLOUD NINE when it comes this
part of her life (dating)!

Then, when you behave THAT way, you automatically
become a BILLION times more attractive in your
BEHAVIOR and your mannerisms reflect the right
level of confidence, fun, and sensuality.

Also, when you understand her perspective, you
understand that nothing is meant by her maliciously,
and that in fact she probably DID enjoy meeting you,
it's just not an EMERGENCY to have to meet up again
in so little time, especially when she really does
not know you and how awesome you are.

The irony is that as you adopt this attitude,
you start to get so many women in your life
who are actually the ones chasing you, and
you find yourself behaving just like this
chick and without being malicious at all,
in fact you would think that if a chick
who was almost a stranger got upset at you
for not being able to meet up, you might
start to wonder why on earth is she
getting upset.   

By the way, I want to say that I learned
all this the hard way, but it made a
MASSIVE difference once it sunk in
and will make a massive difference
for you too, I am sure.

And now, let's move to our next reader's questions:

***ANOTHER LETTER FROM A READER***

"Good day Michael,

I want to ask your help regarding cold approaches.

In your Dating Wizard ebook, you mention that
the very first step in making approach is to
"Establish eye contact and walk right up
to her".

But from my decent experience, I noticed most
of the time, she would rather talk to her
friends (if she’s in a group) or tend to be
busy/pre-occupied to noticed a stranger like
me if they are alone ie. Phone-calling,
shopping, reading books etc.

Sometimes, they are walking way too fast before
I even have time to make my move.

So, my question is, does the approach always
have to start with eye contact?
What are the exceptions?

And how do I get started if she just keeps
busy doing her things?

Ever since I started out, I do get polite
responses from women, (sometimes their number)
but hardly get a date.

But that’s okay. I am still trying to get
the hang of it.

Now I am currently living near  my capital city.

And on the weekend, I do go out to public places
which are normally crowded with people (shopping
mall, train stations etc) and have a high chance
to meet some hotties.

But the problem is, I have several difficulties
in approaching women in such places.

I noticed at first that whenever I screen for her
looks (face, body, dress, or anything particular
that fills my taste), most of the time, I take
way too long to figure out whether she’s my
taste or not.

By the time I decide to do something, the women are
probably halfway down the escalators or far enough
that requires me to chase just for the sake of the
approach, which later on, I decided to stop halfway
since…

1. It burns a lot of my energy to chase her
around like that.

2.It looks creepy especially if she noticed me,
which tend to make her walk even faster.

3.It changes my positive state from being playful
or intrigue to just a tired exhausted guy.

It happens A LOT  that sometimes I feel that
this style of approach is just too much for me.

Where did I messed up?

How do I approach a moving target without affecting
my inner state, and make that SPLIT-SECOND decision
to check her out and approach before she was long gone?

How can I improve and develop the right skills to
approach women in such a tough environment?

Michael, I need your help right now, because deep
down inside I know you are the BEST advice that
I can get.

Feel free to share this if you want to. Maybe
the good guys out there can benefit from this
information too

Thanks for your time.

Sincerely,

A., Malaysia"

***MY REPLY***

First of all, congratulations on taking ACTION
and not just being an observer of attractive women.

Also, I think it's cool how the art and skill
of approaching and meeting women and attracting
them is often so similar even halfway across
the world. In other words, getting these skills
will get guys women ANYWHERE they go.

ABOUT EYE-CONTACT:

Onto your first question regarding eye-contact
and how it seems so many women have their
attention on a book, phone call, or talking
to their friends, shopping, etc.

If you can't make eye-contact right away,
DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, and GO RIGHT AHEAD
with the approach anyway.

The real point behind the eye-contact is that
eye-contact is VERY important.

The Dating Wizard book is an important
FOUNDATION for any man's success with
women, so that is why I stress the
CORE FOUNDATION concepts in that book.

Giving eye contact right away shows that you
aren't a creepy guy, that you aren't afraid
of revealing your interest in her.

Giving eye contact also says you are
interested in learning more about HER,
as the expression goes, "the eyes are
the window to the soul".

And giving eye contact and maintaining it
instead of looking away when she looks
back shows you are CONFIDENT because you
are implying that you feel you have
the value and that you are ready to
PROCEED with her rather than EJECT. 

So eye contact is IMPORTANT.

You should be making steady eye-contact and
not darting your glance all around the place
instead of focusing it on her.

Being able to look right into the eyes of
a woman who is super hot, and MAINTAIN
eye contact is sometimes a challenge if
a guy is new at this thing, because she
is so hot that it almost feels like
you're being COOKED in her hotness, but
this is GOOD, as the longer you force
yourself to stay in there, the easier
it gets in the future, and the more
your mind calibrates itself and
perceives yourself as being the
kind of guy that has these women
in his everyday reality.

So again, if you can't make eye contact
BEFORE speaking, then just go right ahead
and START speaking and she will then
TURN toward you and THEN you will easily
make eye contact, which you should maintain.

This is where using the RIGHT voice tonality
for opening is even MORE important, so that
whatever she was doing PRIOR to your approach
becomes VAPORIZED in her mind and all her
attention immediately goes toward YOU.

Remember, the right tonality is often a
combination of SEVERAL states of mind,
being upbeat, being in touch with your
sensual side (imagine the slow delivery
of the way a person might say that
"the chocolate cake was sinnnnnnnnfully good,
it was friggen awwwwwwwwwwwwwwsome"),
and being dominant. 

These EMOTIONAL STATES can be CONVEYED in
your TONALITY, and they help like crazy
to open your conversations with women
successfully.

So from now on, you no longer will be held
back from taking action just because you
can't immediately make eye contact, right?

Now, regarding your other point:

WOMEN WHO ARE MOVING TARGETS

You mentioned that by the time you finish
screening the women they are usually out
of reach, i.e. "halfway down the escalators"
or that the situation would then require
you to chase after them, which would
burn your energy, get you out of the
right state of mind, and that it looks
CREEPY.

EXACTLY, I agree TOTALLY.
This is why, as you notice in the beginning
of the book, I mention how the skill of
attracting women is a skill that you spend
time practicing so that when the skill is
required you can go into action IMMEDIATELY.

This INCLUDES the ability to quickly make
a decision on whether to make the approach
or not.

In fact, this is a HUGE, HUGE, HUUUUUUUUUGE
thing that will make a MASSIVE difference
for you in the future.

And, if you CAN'T make the decision fast enough,
then I ALWAYS believe you SHOULD make the approach.

There is NOTHING to lose, because at WORST
if the woman is not exactly your interest,
you can always decide that LATER, i.e.
during your chat with her.

If you notice while chatting to her that she
is NOT what you are interested in, you can
just treat the chat as a social interaction
and let her go without leading her on.

AND, the practice will just make you better
anyway for the NEXT approach.  

There's no DOWN side to making the approach.

I do agree that CHASING after women in terms
of PHYSICALLY trying to catch up with them
is bad strategy for all those reasons, it
gets you out of the right frame of mind
and puts you into a more desperate one
by the very nature of the act of running
after these women, plus it can be exhausting
if you do this all day, plus it can look
creepy.

Save yourself from ALL that by taking action
IMMEDIATELY.  Get yourself into the habit
of taking immediate action, and this will
ALSO help you speed up your ability to know
whether you are physically attracted or not
to where it only takes a split-second.

When you get good at this skill, it only
takes a SPLIT-SECOND to know if you are
interested or not in a woman.

I also want to add one little comment here:
To any guy that thinks this all seems like
a lot of WORK to get a chick, let me PLEASE
make one thing SUPER DUPER-FRIGGEN DUPER
CLEAR:

Until you are actually IN THE ACTUAL MOMENT
of doing this stuff, I can't possibly describe
to you with enough justice just how much
EXCITEMENT is sparked by the knowledge that
WOMEN WHO ARE TOTAL STRANGERS RIGHT IN FRONT
OF YOU CAN SOON BE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS OR LOVERS
OR WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH THEM by simply
TAKING THE RIGHT ACTIONS.

All the entertainment in the world, and believe
me I absolutely LOVE movies, and I used to be
addicted to video games, all these things are
still NOTHING compared to the EXCITEMENT of
not only MEETING women, but MEETING THEM
AS TOTAL STRANGERS out in the REAL WORLD.

On a very basic primal level, this is really
what we are all HARDWIRED to do, even more
than enjoying video games or watching movies,
the idea of GETTING WOMEN is in fact a huge
part of a lot of movies and video games!

And the action and skills and strategies
of meeting women out there for real
actually forces your mind to use just
about ALL it's resources, it uses your
sense of timing, your social skills, your
wit, your humor, your passion, your empathy,
your courage, it uses ALL OF YOUR EMOTIONS.

To be honest with you, for a while I was
ADDICTED to this as well, it was an escape
I used for some personal issues which I have
since worked on for years. I still believe that
meeting women is a great POSITIVE motivator
for making progress in many OTHER important
areas of life as well.

When the right woman or women are in your life, you are ON.
When the right woman or women aren't in your life, it almost feels like being ASLEEP.

The key of course is balance, and meeting
the kind of women who give you great
emotions and not negative ones.

So again, if anyone thinks that meeting women
this way is some kind of challenge, the answer
is that it is the most exciting, fun, rewarding
and PRIMAL challenge there is, it's what we
were all BORN to do.

And if you're reading this right now,and would
like to get these skills for attracting women
out there who are total strangers and turning
them into the women who are crazy about you,
crazy about getting naked with you, crazy
about driving you wild in bed, and who can't
wait to be with you again, I would LOVE to be
the guy who serves you as your most dedicated
coach all in REAL TIME on tons of real women.

I will teach you in an EXCLUSIVE private bootcamp,
one-on-one, for two entire days as you learn the
skills for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE.

To sign up for the Real World Bootcamp go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

I'd also like to mention a very important program
of mine, called the Attraction Mastery Program.

For many men, before they are ready to meet
that special girl who is THE ONE, they need
to DATE a lot of women.  That makes sense,
you get experience with women before you
know exactly what you want.

In my Attraction Mastery Program, I focus on
ONE THING, and that thing is ATTRACTION.

And by attraction, I also mean the attraction
that makes a woman want to get "down and dirty"
with you, if you know what I mean.

This program ANSWERS all the "nitty gritty"
questions guys have, it EVEN shows you exactly
how to walk right into a club, get a woman
seated privately with you in seconds, and
be hard-core making out with her in just
moments from then, even if she is NOT drunk
or tipsy at all.

This program also shows you how to do "pick up"
ANYWHERE you meet a woman.
  
This program is so powerful, that I personally
think that you are going to have to be CAREFUL
about which women you decide you WANT in your
life and which ones you don't, because this
program is not particularly designed for
any ONE kind of woman, it is going to get
you TONS of women, and it's up to YOU to
decide what kind of woman you want after that.
    
This program was professionally recorded in
the studio and contains TWELVE HOURS of pure
GOLD on how to attract women no matter WHERE
you find them.

You can take what you learn from this program and
be using it on women IMMEDIATELY.

Download it NOW, at:
     
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Till next time,

Michael Marks