It's About CHARISMA, Not "Bad Boys"

One of the things that really burns me
up is when I see good guys being told
perversions of truth that actually hold
guys BACK from getting progress with
women.

One of the biggest problems is the way
guys who really need to learn CONFIDENCE
and to gain CHARISMA are told to emulate
"bad boys".

The only attractive part of "bad boys"
is that they have a certain amount of
CONFIDENCE IN THEMSELVES and they don't
pretend to not be sexual.

However, bad boys also end up getting
themselves in trouble, often end up
with no money, end up often in rehab
for years, and often lack the required
social skills for moving up in the world.

ALL of which are NOT attractive to the
BEST quality women.

I've known quite a few bad
boys over the years, and I PROMISE
you that the COOLEST ones are the
ones who came out the other end
and turned their lives AROUND
from all that- these guys truly
ARE COOL because they KNOW
what it means to be a bad boy
and they have VOLUNTARILY
GIVEN IT ALL UP because they
see the other side- these guys
have NO NEED to put on an ACT
of being tough, because they
are the toughest of all and
they know the truth about
the whole thing.

The coolest bad boys are the
bad boys who have MATURED
beyond those days.

But to try to take a guy who is "too nice"
and make him PRETEND to be a "bad boy"
is ridiculous and pointless and self-destructive.

Now, a woman who has serious ISSUES
AND WOULD BE A DISASTER in a relationship
might find that a bad boy is perfect
for her, since she herself knows that
any SANE guy would run like hell from her,
and also because she feeds off the DRAMA
that a bad boy provides for her, since
she has no life of her OWN that she
is passionate about.

Again, this acting "young and stupid"
mentality is in full force here as well,
and you do NOT want a woman who WORSHIPS
the mentality of being young, inexperienced,
and stupid.

Yes, there ARE some psychologically
damaged women who DO want a "bad boy",
but I guarantee you that if you are
not TRULY a bad boy, then you will
find these kind of women the most
destructive force in your life-
the reason bad boys can handle
them is becuase they themselves
truly don't CARE. So if you
are looking for a woman to have
a HEALTHY and passionate connection
with, you should avoid these women.

Again, this isn't about getting all the
wacky insane girls, it's about getting
a GREAT GIRL.

Let me also prove it to you in the real
world:

Almost every success story when it
comes to men, if the man is not at
PEACE in his relationship, it almost
always brings him DOWN.

I'm not saying that every single man needs
to be in a relationship to be successful, but
I am saying that the stereotype of being a
"bad boy" is a MYTH in terms of it being
COOL.

When Mike Tyson was having problems with
Robin Givens, he was beaten by a boxer far
less talented.

When Sly Stallone was philandering after his
original success with Rocky and Rambo, and
screwed up his relationship with his wife, he
started to make some unwise decisions with
the films he decided to make, and his career
REALLY suffered for a long time.  Once
he got this part of his life back on track,
he eventually regained his success.

The list of talented men who started to lose
their edge when they allowed their relationship
to get screwed up is ENDLESS.

Ever notice that over the past few decades,
you didn't hear about Spielberg hanging out
at strip clubs and womanizing?

Gene Simmons, of KISS, has been faithful to
the same woman, the woman who is the mother
of his children, forever, and KISS is still
a kick-ass successful band, and he himself
is more successful than ever.  And before
he dedicated himself to her, he clearly
had his choice of INFINITE women and
was definitely with tons of women and
they all loved him. 

He's a decent guy who also ROCKED.

Tom Cruise, whatever you want to say about him,
has never been one to screw around in his relationships.
He's still at the top of his game.

Will Smith, same story, totally faithful to his wife.
Super successful.

Bill Gates, also not known for being some kind of
bad boy, is actually one of the most powerful people
in the world.  Also, faithful to his wife.

Similarly, even Tiger Woods, although he
was not faithful, this did not INCREASE
his wife's attraction to him, and it did not
INCREASE his success.

In fact it almost COST him his entire marriage
to her and has thrown him for a loop professionally.

Tiger's roots are LEGENDARY in
terms of old-school good old fashioned
INTEGRITY AND VALUES.

His father was an ex green-beret, and
his father was, in his own words, his
best friend.  He says all this.  He also
gives tons of credit to his mom for
putting the competitive spirit in him.

Sounds like a pretty DECENT guy,
to put it mildly, no?

It's only when he got OFF that track
that he started to have problems it seems.

Tiger LOVES being competitive, he
gets a RUSH from the sport, but he
is NOT a "bad boy" in any sense
of the word.  There is no evidence
for him being mean, abusive, uncaring,
etc, in general, aside of course from
his infidelity- and this infidelity will
cause problems on and off the course
because you need to have peace on
the homefront if you are to do well
in the arena of your career as well.

A lot of this "bad boy" stuff advice is
simply an OVERCOMPENSATION
from being too WEAK and SUBMISSIVE
AND HANDING OVER YOUR
DIGNITY ON A PLATTER.

The solution to too little of an ingredient
in a recipe is not to OVERLOAD the recipe
with that ingredient, and so the solution
to being a nice guy is not to become a
bad boy!

It may, however, be something to experiment
with just to SEE the perspective change.

James Bond isn't a "bad boy" really, he's
willing to give up his LIFE for others, for
his job, he just OOOZES something known
as CHARISMA throughout the entire PROCESS.



And it's this CHARISMA, this sense of
THRIVING off the danger, this sense of
LOVING the ADVENTURE, this sense of
enjoying the banter with the most
intelligent and most beautiful of women,
this sense of knowing he is making
a DIFFERENCE in the world, the sense
of INDEPENDENCE and that he will
get the job DONE no matter what,
all this comes across as CHARISMA,
and THAT'S what is attractive.

There's nothing "bad" in any of that.

So for any guys who are thinking of
being more "bad" to women, I suggest
you become more CHARISMATIC instead.

Your results will mean the difference
between wasting time doing mental
masterbation, ("I'm a BAD BOY now! So
I know I must be getting closer to
getting all the girls, right?") versus
ACTUALLY being in bed with the woman
of your dreams.

To get the FULL SCOOP on turning
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Strong Enough To Be Her Man

The whole point of ‘Get A Great Girl’ is
to find and attract a truly fantastic quality
woman who is something special inside
and out. That means she is not only
beautiful, but she’s kind, she’s wise,
and dare I say it, she even has logic.

Now, along the road to finding this kind of
woman, you’re going to bump into a lot of
the WRONG women.

In fact, you may end up meeting so many
of the wrong women, that you start to think
ALL women are the same. This is similar
to how so many women feel that ALL men
are jerks.

And this is where being STRONG comes in.
If you allow yourself to become too jaded,
you will carry around too much negativity,
too much defensiveness, which may be
great for preventing getting abused by
the WRONG women, but will also
REPEL the RIGHT woman.

Ever since I was a teenager, I always knew
one billion percent what kind of relationship
I wanted in terms of the AUTHENTICITY
of it, in terms of the HEART in it, and the
PASSION as well.

Cultural brainwashing since childhood,
that taught me hogwash such as “men are jerks”
and also lack of experience meant that I had no
idea just how horrifyingly abusive women could be,
just as abusive as any evil man portrayed on
Oprah Winfrey, etc.

(By the way, Oprah’s got another one lined
up on evil men by the way, all about the
child molesters that men are, on Monday.
It's no wonder growing up I felt I had to
prove I was a good guy a hundred times
harder than any woman had to prove
she was a good girl.)

Growing up in this environment where men were
portrayed as all evil, I truly BELIEVED it when
a woman told me that all she wanted was a good
guy for a relationship, a guy that wouldn’t cheat,
etc. And then I couldn’t understand how when
I was this good honest way, with women that
I was attracted to, I got back NOTHING.

So I started to slowly believe that I was the
victim of some evil conspiracy, and I started
to fall big time for the “player” mentality
and I started to believe that playing ‘THE GAME’
on women was the only way to get anywhere.

This was YEARS before there was any book
published called “The Game” and years before
I entered this field.

The TRUTH is, and it took many years to see
this, is that there ARE women of virtue, of
honor, of great courage and fantastic morals,
out there.

They just aren’t growing on trees, they aren’t
EVERYWHERE.

They ABSOLUTELY can be found, they’re
probably within a few miles or kilometers of
where you are right now. You just don’t know
who’s who right now.

Similarly, great MEN are not easy for women to
find, either.

If you want to meet a great woman, and you
want to make sure you attract her rather than
push her away, AND you want to avoid being
TURNED INTO A SUCKER by the WRONG
WOMAN, here are some MAJOR tips:

ONE:
TRUST MUST BE EARNED

I hate to say it, but if you are a good guy, you
need to realize that due to our culture, MOST
women will be brainwashed and they will
lack the courage to stand up for the right
values in their lives.

If you act too good too fast, you are simply
making yourself a target for the WRONG WOMAN.

What I mean by “too good” is giving away too
much power, in any form. Whether it’s you
getting too emotional for a woman too fast,
whether it’s you giving out too much of your
feelings too fast, it’s just not wise, because
the wrong woman will take advantage of
you this way just so that she can have
someone to fall back upon, and not
necessarily love you for real- and cause
you all kinds of psychological anguish.

She will PRETEND she is into you, and try
to cover up all the inconsistencies such as
not calling you back or writing back in
a reasonable amount of time, etc.

This leads to:

2. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

Including the action of TAKING THE EFFORT
to make sure to WRITE THE WORDS TO YOU!

So words DO count, but not words when they
come in the form of constant excuses or
rationalizations. We all make mistakes, but
when someone is constantly having excuses
for mistreating you, there is a problem.

Now, notice that none of what I have suggested
anywhere here says that you should ever lie,
manipulate, or be mean spirited.

The reason for this, is in case you meet a
woman who happens to be a GREAT GIRL
but you just don’t know her at all yet.

As a GREAT GIRL, she knows just how tough
it is to meet a truly great guy, and so she has
to protect herself as well, yet she also knows
how important it is to not PUSH HIM AWAY
in case he IS the right guy.

3. THE INTERNET CAN BE A VERY BAD THING

Hey, although the internet is awesome with music
on youtube, it’s great for communication instantly,
it’s got lots of great things about it no question.

What I’m talking about is the GIANT CESS POOL
that is EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY ONLINE.

It has become so damn easy for people to be
emotionally unfaithful to each other because
unlike in the old days, where someone KNEW
and everyone KNEW what cheating was and is,
these days, it’s actually today become something
you DON’T TALK ABOUT, even though it
happens a LOT and it DESTROYS relationships.

The line has become so blurred that millions
of people just have thrown the whole line
out altogether.  These are not the types you
are looking for, however.

Everybody knows about it, I’ve spoken with
hundreds of women and hundreds of guys
and they all know EXACTLY what I’m talking
about, and many of these men AND women have
been the victims of this stuff.

The reason why you don’t talk about this is
because it’s not COOL in our “celebrate how
stupid we can be culture” to discuss this.
(Remember, in our culture, it's only cool to
act young and stupid as Craig Ferguson put
so well.)

Of course, the fact that there is over 50%
divorce rates, the fact that just about everyone
knows about this problem, all this does not
make it to the front pages of our culture.

That’s because it’s not COOL to care
about relationships lasting, - even the
commercials for wedding rings really
say nothing about love.

If somebody knew that there was a 50%
chance they’d get sick from eating a certain
FOOD, they’d avoid it for sure.

If everyone was speaking about how dangerous
it was to eat at a certain restaurants, no one
would go there.

Athletes who want PEAK PERFORMANCE
will avoid not only the wrong foods, but
they will avoid the wrong THOUGHT
PATTERNS, they will do ANYTHING
so that they can WIN.

They will not even hang out with people who
have the wrong MENTALITY because they
don't want their MENTAL FRAME to be
screwed with.

So all this is perfectly understood by society.
It's just when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS,
everyone gets stupid, because relationships
are not all about "me".

But, if you want to WIN at relationships, and
TRUST is the key to relationships, then
you need to find a woman who puts just
as much INTO building this trust as you do.

Somehow, when it comes to cherishing
their own relationship, most people throw
wisdom out the window and engage in all kinds
of threatening behavior that jeopardizes the
life-force of a relationship, known as trust.

So my point is, you want to meet a woman
who isn’t big on things like how many guys
she can get on TWITTER, FACEBOOK,
etc, and you should avoid a woman who
seems to be glued to constantly IM’ing
and closing her browser when you walk
by, you know what I mean?

Don’t waste time on the wrong women, when
the RIGHT woman is out there, and waiting
to meet YOU.

4. DON’T TRY TO CHANGE HER
    INTO A DIFFERENT PERSON

You can never change someone, they need
to be the right person all on their own.

Unless your job is a therapist, don’t try to
be a woman’s therapist, since the reality is
you are really only doing it for yourself,
and you are hoping she will change for you.

In fact, the mere ACTION of trying to change
her only makes you more needy and is kind
of a WUSS move if you think about it, because
it says that you NEED this woman so much
that you can’t walk away from her even
though she is WRONG for you.

And there’s the opposite effect too, by walking
AWAY from the wrong woman, you regain
your self-esteem and confidence because
actions speak louder than words to your
brain as well. Your brain starts to get
the message that you ARE THE MAN
that you are NOT NEEDY, since you are
truly taking the ACTIONS of a confident
man.

And women can smell that confidence from
a million miles away.

5. DON’T EJECT WITHOUT GOOD REASON

This gets us back to square one- being
STRONG ENOUGH to be her man.

The truth is that if she is a GREAT GIRL,
there will STILL likely be emotional baggage
that you both have from past relationships
or interactions with the opposite gender.

Nobody’s perfect, so you have to make
sure that you don’t JUMP off the ship
before you really should either.

All too often, what we do is in order
to avoid PAIN, we will come up with
ANYTHING to point out that is negative
about a woman so that we can have
an excuse for ourselves for why we
AVOIDED getting to know a certain
woman, when the truth is we just
were too AFRAID of getting hurt.

And it's always easier to avoid
something altogether, the only
problem is you end up with
no woman, so that's not cool.

So you have to be strong enough to
not let yourself get sucked into
the WUSS zone that avoids ALL
emotional risk completely -
because that attitude GUARANTEES
failure with ANY and EVERY woman
you will ever meet.

This takes a bit of experience to know the
difference between something that is trivial
and something that is really a problem, so
my rule of thumb for you is that until you
have at least dated her ONCE, don’t jump
to conclusions.

So for example, in the email exchanges or
phone calls leading up to the date, don’t
jump to conclusions.

The other thing is, you don’t have to keep it all
bottled up either, you can mention whatever
it was that concerned you, as long as you
do it in a way that doesn’t paint her in
a bad light.

It’s quite normal for communication between
two strangers, particularly a man and woman,
to be far from accurate or perfect in the beginning.

Add in the fact that so much of modern
communication isn’t even face-to-face, it’s
on the phone, email, texting, etc, and all this
leaves gross room for misunderstandings.

Then, on top of this, ADD the fact that some
of her strange behavior might have been
triggered by strange behavior of your OWN
that you weren't aware of, but she didn’t feel
comfortable or polite saying anything so early
on, and she figured she’d get to know you
better in person as she spoke to you more
in real life.

So you have to be strong enough to not let
your own past distort what is happening
in the PRESENT.
Otherwise, you’ll never really get to
really LIVE in the NOW and enjoy a
fantastic, passionate relationship with
a truly great girl.

And if you’re reading this right now,
and you are serious about meeting
a woman who is truly a "Genuine Gem",
then I suggest you get my book,
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Best,

Michael Marks